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Pathological liars
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I've always been perplexed to know how to handle pathological liars. I have personally delt with them myself and one day I just snapped and cut her off because of the extent of the lies. A few years have passed now and I've completely forgiven her but we still don't talk.
Dealing with her gave me the ability to sus somone out when they're telling lies.
I just wanted to know if people have been in similar situations? How did it all unravel and how did you handle it ? If not, how would you deal with a person like this?
Dealing with her gave me the ability to sus somone out when they're telling lies.
I just wanted to know if people have been in similar situations? How did it all unravel and how did you handle it ? If not, how would you deal with a person like this?
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Don't force yourself to speak to them or forgive them, it all takes time!
But also as you mentioned, its a good learning experience as you now know what to look out for in future relationships and bonds.
Hope this helped!!
Thank you for the advice, this was very useful !
This !!! I don't think she realised that it eroded my trust. Detaching emotionally was the best thing I ever did. Even when the lies and rumors started it truely didn't bother me because she'd alearedy ruined her own reputation and people were working things out for themselves.
I really like the part where you mention making choices that align with your values and boundaries because it's way too easy for people to make you act out of character. Either way, staying calm, cool and collected whilst not reacting to obvious attempts to stir has definitely helped.