Failed as a sister....TW-Suicide!

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SpaceOtter

Hi Morgan. I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know what to say, there's nothing I really can say. I just wanted to tell you we are all here for you, whatever you need

And it was not your fault Morgan, I know you believe me but its not your fault.

We are all here for you, sending so many hugs.

Aoife

Sending you lots of hugs @Past User, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. I can't imagine how hard this is to be going through.

Echoing @SpaceOtter kind words, this isn't your fault at all and I'm sorry to hear your brother won't talk to you anymore. It's so hard not to think there's more we could have done to support someone or be there for them, but there's lots of things out of our control and we can only do so much.

There's an article you may like to read that has some supportive words for someone who has lost a sibling to suicide. I've included a bit from it below:

Guilt - This can manifest itself in thoughts such as ‘I didn’t do enough’ and ‘I should have stopped it’ and can feel like overwhelming failure, not diminished by reminders of all the good things you did for that person. Remember only the person who died knows why they couldn’t cope any longer. You might feel that – as their sibling – you should have known. It might be hard to, but try to remember that only the person who took their knew why, and made a decision to end their life. You are not to blame.

If you would like to reach out for any specialist support around bereavement, here's some services below in the spoiler:

Winston's Wish
Winston's Wish is a UK-wide national helpline offering support, information, and guidance to children and young people. They are open from Monday to Friday 9am - 5pm. Their helpline is 08088 020 021. They also have a webchat service available every Tuesday 1pm-5pm & Friday from 9am-1pm. You can also visit their website at www.winstonswish.org.uk and send them a message from there. They also have message boards for young people on their website.

Hope Again
Hope Again is a service for young people up to 25 who are affected by a bereavement. They're run by Cruse Bereavement Care and they offer support via phone, email & have online support through their website at www.hopeagain.org.uk. They are open Monday-Friday from 9.30am-5pm, and stay open until 8pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays. You can call them on 0808 808 1677 or email them at hopeagain@cruse.org.uk

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide
There is an organisation called Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide, who run a helpline, forum and self-help groups for people bereaved by suicide. They are designed to support people over 18+, but you may find information on their website useful and you can reach out to them without needing to disclose your age. You can contact them on 0300 111 5065, between 9am and 9pm, 7 days a week. There is more information and e-mail options through their website: www.uk-sobs.org.uk

We're all here for you Morgan. Keep reaching out whenever you need to

sinead276

I’m so sorry for your loss @Past User - I can’t imagine the sadness and pain you must be feeling at the moment, especially being an older sister myself.

I know at this time you will feel like it was your fault in some way but like the others have said, none of this is down to you so please be kind to yourself and remember there were likely so many factors outside of anyone’s control that played a role.

Sending you lots of love and please keep reaching out for support if and when you need it - we are all here to listen.

Sinead