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Feeling a little teary (tw: possible trauma and self harm mentions)
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I'm not quite sure if it's hormones or an overwhelming amount of emotion but I told someone my trauma story today for the first time and I guess ever since then I've felt super emotional. I know trauma is something that triggers many emotions even after the actual traumatic event, but I guess it felt like reliving the experience of the last 2 years. I love this community but sometimes some of the posts move me and I guess it's because I'm quite sensitive or I guess more feeling about that kinda thing, but I just wanted to share that. Sometimes you go through something you didn't at the time realise was so painful but it hits you later and when you know that you can't confront the people involved it's quite hurtful and difficult to move past all the emotions. Sometimes I feel like I'll be too much for my current partner because I fear my past so heavily that talking to him makes me fear things will end the same way they did with my previous partner. Even though my current partner is incredibly sweet and hurts when I hurt and loves when I love. I guess it's not so simple to move on from the past when you've been broken over and over. I'm not fragile. I pick myself up and dust myself off every time but I do have to admit that sometimes I feel like too much.
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Seems like another natural reaction to feel like it might be too much for your partner. But in truth all that should really matter is, are you both happy with each other now? If the answer to that is yes, then try not to read into too much of anything else, because you'll open yourself up to self sabotaging thoughts. Don't deny yourself a good thing that makes you happy and try to trust that if things seem okay, they likely are.
All the best to you Mumu
It's also normal to feel like you're 'too much' when you've been through a lot, but if your partner is happy and willing to be there, it shows that you're not too much at all. I have similar insecurities, so I understand, but you deserve to be happy and thrive in your relationship
As in terms of your partner and you, it is also incredibly natural to fear the past and to struggle with trusting the strength of your relationship with your new partner. But, as always i like to remind people that the past is in the past, and that the person you are with is not your ex, they’re someone entirely different so please don’t worry as you really don’t need too (even though I know that’s probably easier said than done). Also, if your current partner ends things after you have spoken to them about your feelings and thoughts then you really don’t deserve them, as you deserve someone who will stick with you through thick and thin and love you no matter what.
Wishing you all the best and sending lots of virtual hugs your way.
I agree with what Supernova said here.
People respond to traumatic experiences very differently: some might be immediate and some might be delayed, so we may experience certain emotions things or have a random emotional burst and not really know why. Does that make sense?
I'm so glad you found the courage to share your traumatic experience with someone! It's natural to feel emotional after sharing something traumatic. As Annie puts it here:
I hope you're doing well!
Sending lots of hugs and support!