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Suggestions & advice needed - bit of a strange sex topic
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This may be too detailed which I apologise in advance for; but I’m a 17 year old who’s mum has no idea that I’m recently new sexually active but is too scared to tell her because she won’t be impressed at all (very protective).
So basically, me & my boyfriend (4 months) have recently began being sexually active (only with protection, Never without), & a few days ago I felt a warm sensation ONLY when I was after stood up getting changed, after essentially being sat on him when he ejaculated - except I never felt anything when I was sat there.
So basically, me & my boyfriend (4 months) have recently began being sexually active (only with protection, Never without), & a few days ago I felt a warm sensation ONLY when I was after stood up getting changed, after essentially being sat on him when he ejaculated - except I never felt anything when I was sat there.
As a result, I’m paranoid as hell that I’m pregnant & have no idea what to do, i have no idea if this a pregnancy thing as when I search the internet there are no results. My boyfriend insists that the condom wasn’t ripped when I asked as he said he felt nothing on his hands or anything when taking off the condom as he said he had checked it over.
Can someone please let me know what this is, or give me suggestions as I’m freaking out so bad.
Thank you.
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So it sounds to me from the context you're pretty covered! Especially being in the cold that could be it!
I think it's quite unlikely you are, but you can always take a test in a few days if you're able to get one, could even go to your gp for it!
Are you able as well to go on contraceptives? You may be able to get something she won't know about if you don't wish to tell her
are you sure that you think I’m okay?I’m a very paranoid individual so apologies! Any ideas what it could have been?
It’s difficult to say for sure what it could have been, but being outside in the cold was probably part of it. It does sound like you’re probably ok, but as Laine said it’s worth taking a test if you’re not sure or if your next period is late at all.
As for your mum, it’s ok not to want to tell her. When I was 16 and first sexually active my mum didn’t find out for a very long time lol, it’s a very private thing.
At 17 you’re always entitled to confidentiality when you see your GP, so if you can get to your GP surgery on a bus or in a taxi they might be a good place to go. They can help you with contraception as well. Remember as well that you can get pregnancy tests from most shops, and they aren’t always too expensive.
How are you feeling about all this, I know I know how scary and isolating it can feel when you’re worried about being pregnant and no one else knows. Well done for posting this and reaching out about it
I don't think it's likely you are
Your GP can offer most contraceptives when things such as implants so if you're able to get there they can do it and not tell your mum!
As for a test most places do them if you're able to get to any shops, though I think there is also a website that will send you one for free
Are you due a period at some point? That's always the best first indicator. Try not to stress though as that can delay it (easier said than done I know!)
Do you have anything that helps you to relax and feel less stressed generally?
Echo the others, the best thing you can do to give yourself peace of mind is to take a test. Dw about your mum finding out, you could go to a public bathroom to take the test and if you need to go to the GP as them to keep everything you say confidential.
You can get pregnancy tests pretty much anywhere, Tesco, Asda, pound shop you name it. I get the feeling scared bit, I'm 25 and I still can't tell (my very religious mum) that I'm not a virgin lol, I have a different view on virginity but that's a conversation for another time.