Night Owls

Former Member

Hey, Everyone, I thought I can do a discussion board for the people that struggle to go to sleep or just like staying up and can talk if they want who thinks this is a good idea 
You can talk about anything  
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independent_

Heyy!! I’m definitely a night owl aha, I tend to hang around online on the general chat thread at night lol. But I’m usually up late if you need a chat 

Former Member

@independent_ Heyy

Past User

Definitely me love the idea of this thread, I'm sure itll help a lot of people

Former Member

I'm glad it will help
@Spook98
  

Past User

It's been a while since I was last on the mix and I saw an old post of yours, is sleep something you often struggle with?

Former Member

 @Spook98 Yes now that I'm stressing a lot

Past User

So it started happening as part of anxiety? I can relate a lot to that if that the case, at least as of late. What's been stressing you out if you dont mind my asking?

Former Member

Yes it's because of anxiety 
alot of things has been stressing me out really friendship when coronavirus started I had high anxiety I have lost my appetite trouble sleeping overthink a lot  and that makes people drift from me and that really upsets me to be honest I feel like sometimes I'm the only one who overthinks things  

Former Member

@Spook98

Past User

It can feel that way for sure but you're not the only one who overthinks things. When we're low in mood our perception of things can become a little distorted, people might not be drifting from you as much as you believe. Have you tried talking to them about it? 

Yeah the physical symptoms can be really awful and it's something I was experiencing not long ago. Is it something you've ever thought about getting professional help with? 

Former Member

Yes ive tried everything ive talked to him now I thought its best to leave it now if he doesn't respond I can't really do anything about it 
Ye I have thought about professional help but my mom believes I don't need it and also physical symptoms I get chest pains lump in my throat feel sick sometimes and headaches 

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@Spook98

Past User

They're all symptoms of anxiety, and if it's affecting you this negatively I'd honestly say you might find it helpful. While your mom might think otherwise and even have good intentions. I think you should do what you think will be best for you, provided you're old enough. These tend to be things you can access via your school if that makes things easier. I know for a long time I didn't want my mum to know anything about what was going on, and I ended up having my first experiences with counselling with help from the heads of my sixth form.

Former Member

@Spook98 I'm the same I don't want my mom to know she always wants to know every detail and she said you don't need a doctor she thinks I'm going to waste the doctors time that really hurt my feelings when she said that just all my family loves to know everything 

Past User

Agreed the gossip can make things really difficult, and I know first hand how hurtful the "attention seeking" accusations can be. In the end you just have to do what's best for you and what makes you feel comfortable. There are a few different services you can use in the meantime but maybe give some thought towards talking to people at school when you go back?

Former Member

 @Spook98 Yes I will speak to school when I go back also it's just that she won't allow me to ring the doctors on my own:s

Past User

I see I forget how old you need to be before doctors no longer have to disclose information to your parents, perhaps that's something someone else can help clarify. In the meantime though do you have any services you use that help you feel a bit better? Apart from the mix?

Former Member

What really dosen't make me happy is i'm 16 and you can phone yourself then  

Former Member

@Spook98

Past User

I see, were you worried about the call coming up on the phone bill? Or are you worried about getting to the appointment?

Former Member

@Spook98 I'm worried about my Mom knowing 

Past User

I understand, and I hope it all starts working itself out soon there are always people on the mix to talk to and plenty of other options out there too - I can recommend a few if you like?

Former Member

@Spook98 Ye sure 

Former Member

@Spook98 Oh and by the way, if you ever need help or just someone to talk to you can always direct message me I understand what your going thru you don't have to face it on your own  or you can message thru the message board whichever one 

Past User

Thecalmzone is one of my personal favourites, its aimed primarily at men but I believe its usable by both men and women of all ages - they have both a webchat and telephone service and I believe they're available from 5pm til midnight

Giveusashout is a 24/7 text service that I've found useful as somebody who's often awake late and struggling with things

The samaritans is another amazing service that offers 24/7 support over the telephone, in addition to an email service and an interesting self help app

Mind is a good informational source though I've not used it extensively 

As with all of these though, if you're ever feeling bad enough to the point where you cant cope anymore and are having serious self harm thoughts, you're always recommend to call the emergency services 

Former Member

@Spook98 ThankYou 

Past User

Of course, no problem at all, I hope you find them helpful

Former Member

@Spook98 Do you struggle sleeping to?

Past User

Sometimes yes, and other times I sleep entirely too much. I've always been a terrible sleeper in that sense, and it's often very mood dependant. I will say in relation to what you mentioned before, I was getting next to no sleep when I felt at my most anxious. 2-3 hrs a night if at all. And I really empathise with how difficult it can be, it's very lonely and isolated being awake and low at these sorts of times.

Former Member

 @Spook98 See well you found someone that's going thru the same so you don't have to feel alone now