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GreenTeaGreenTea The moonPosts: 2,659 Mega Poster
Hi all.

I'm really struggling with body image, there isn't a moment in the day I'm wishing something physically was different. I have so much hate for how I look, my shape.. the freckles on my arm. 
I spend so much time pulling myself apart whenever I come across a mirror. I'm constantly looking at others and wondering if they are looking and judging my body.
I hate it..I feel disgusting. Can't even shower without verbally abusing myself over how I look.
I've reached a point where going out feels like a massive challenge. What if others think I'm disgusting too? What if others think Im an odd shape? Too fat? Ugly?.. feet to big, ears too small...too many freckles on my arms...

Arghhhhhhhhh this is taking over every single day. I'm constantly tearing myself apart about how I look..my face..my body. 

I don't know what to do at this point. I feel like the hate I have for myself has completely taken over
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Comments

  • RileyRiley Posts: 482 Super Moderator
    Hey @GreenTea I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. Having a negative body image can seriously affect you and as you mentioned it can crop up at almost any time. It's understandable that you'd feel like this is a constant problem for you and I hope you know we're all here for you. <3

    One little thing that you might find helpful is picking just one or two little things about yourself that you really like, even if it's just something little, and focus on that. You might even find it helpful to compliment yourself out loud as if you're another person, it sounds odd but hearing good things about yourself can really lift your mood sometimes.

    You also mentioned that you worry what others might think of you, have you had problems with other people insulting how you look or is it only a worry you have? Feeling anxious about how other people think of you is a fairly common problem, I think just about everybody worries about that from time to time.
  • GreenTeaGreenTea The moonPosts: 2,659 Mega Poster
    Thank you Riley.

    Yes I've been bullied when I was at school and ex friends were very unkind and made comments about how I looked. It was really hurtful. There was once a group chat made where they posted a picture of me and just pulled it apart..how I looked..my shape, the fact I have glasses etc.. it was awful.

    I really struggle to find things I like about myself
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  • GreenTeaGreenTea The moonPosts: 2,659 Mega Poster
    I'm having such a bad body image day :(
  • coc0maccoc0mac Posts: 367 Rampant Poster
    Hi @GreenTea

    I'm sorry to hear today is a difficult day for you :heart: 

    It sounds like you have had some very hurtful comments and experiences in the past related to your body image. I want you to know that nobody deserves to go through that. Everybody deserves to be celebrated for the way that they look and the way that they are. Everyone is perfect just the way they are...even if it doesn't feel that way sometimes :heart: 

    I have seen a page on Childline's website about body image, and it also has some helpful video links too - you can read it here. I know it can be super difficult to believe positive words when you are feeling this way, but perhaps if you read some positive words, watch some positive videos and remind yourself of them every day, then maybe that will help you to love yourself the way you deserve to :smile:


  • GreenTeaGreenTea The moonPosts: 2,659 Mega Poster
    Thank you.

    Today has been another really bad body image day. There's so much I want to change. I hate how disgusting and fat I am
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  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 746 Incredible Poster
    Hey @GreenTea I wanted to check in and see how you were feeling? Sorry to hear you have been struggling with your body image. Have you spoken to any friends or family about it? Can sometimes be good to get the opinion of someone you trust if you feel comfortable doing so. Sending hugs 💜 
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
    GreenTea
  • GemmaGemma Posts: 95 Moderator
    Hi @GreenTea
    I'm sorry to hear how much you've been struggling with how you look. It's awful to have experienced people saying nasty things about you, no one deserves to be treated that way and as hard as it is to believe sometimes, that just because they've said awful things, it doesn't mean they are true. 

    It can be exhausting to be constantly worried about what people might think of you and understandable you would be nervous from your previous experience. I agree with Riley that sometimes it helps to start small and find something you like about yourself, it doesn't even have to be a physical feature to start with and repeat to yourself then slowly add more. If you struggle to say it to yourself then sometimes it helps to write it down instead. 

    It can be devastating to have constant negative feelings about the way you look and feel like they have taken over but you are not alone and we are here for you.
    GreenTea
  • Han93Han93 EnglandPosts: 245 The Mix convert
    Hey @GreenTea

    Just wanted to give you massive cuddles - i'm so sorry you're feeling this way at the moment <3

    I've linked one of The Mix articles here about how to be kinder to our bodies and be more body positive if you think reading them would make you feel better:
    https://www.themix.org.uk/your-body/appearance/why-we-all-need-more-body-kindness-in-our-lives-32249.html

    There are also charities that work specifically on body image, maybe you could have a little look at these:
    https://www.bodygossip.org/home (The Your Stories section on here is particularly powerful and will show you that you aren't alone with how you are feeling)

    GreenTea
  • GreenTeaGreenTea The moonPosts: 2,659 Mega Poster
    Hello all. Sorry I haven't responded..I'm really struggling to the point I felt angry for allowing myself to say I was struggling with body image.

    There's nothing I like about myself. Nothing at all. I have so much hate and dislike for every aspect of my body. Somethings I can change like my hair, but it doesn't change my opinion and views of myself
    I've honestly started to hide myself more and more in baggy clothes. Trying to hide the flaws on my face that I dislike.. 

    Thank you @Han93 I'll have a look at that site later on
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