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The X-Plan

DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,911 Master Poster
Hi everyone!

Before you ask, The X-Plan is not a new film that has been released on DVD!

This is actually serious and I would like everyone to read this carefully and pass it onto your family and friends so they know about it as well. I learnt about this at school and it came up in a conversation with my mum. Now we use this plan but have not had to use it yet.

The X-Plan is a safe method of getting out of a situation where you are unsafe or under pressure to do something which is making you uncomfortable. You text the letter X to your parents, guardian or an older sibling. The person who receives the text has a script to follow. 

Reciever: Hello, something has come up at home and I am going to come and collect you.

Sender: What happened?

Reciever: I will explain it to you when I arrive. Get ready to leave in 10 minutes.

This makes the person who the sender (person who sent the letter X) has an emergency at home and has to go. This is a safer method than trying to text someone that you are in danger because the person who is pressuring or harming you might take your phone and see what you have done. If they see that you just texted the letter X, they will think that it is innocent and just a reply to a previous text.

When the person who receives the text arrives to collect the person who sent the text, they must not ask any questions to them or expect them to say anything unless they decide to share what happened.

I hope that this helps you and the people that you care about. Stay safe and well everyone!

"There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 

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    DandelionDandelion Posts: 1,911 Extreme Poster
    Thanks for sharing this x
    The steps you take don’t need to be big, they just need to take you in the right direction. 
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    BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    love this idea, thanks for sharing :)<3
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
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    DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,911 Master Poster
    No problem. Hopefully it will help me in the future if I ever need to use it. Or that it will help someone else in danger.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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    AifeAife Community Manager Posts: 3,056 Boards Guru
    Thanks for sharing this @Kasa2103 this is really useful for many people <3 
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
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    DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,911 Master Poster
    No problem. It has definitely helped many people in the world. But everyone needs to know for it to be fully effective. 
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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    BubblesGoesBooBubblesGoesBoo Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    thought i'd share this tip aswell as it worked for my friend when she almost got kidnapped in Edinburgh. I do it everytime now...

    whenever I get into a taxi I take a photo of the number plate and send it to my sister, if it's a legit taxi they might ask what youre doing but just explain and they understand, if it's a dodgy taxi in my friends case they sped off... it is a good tip cause there are dodgy taxi's out there...
    ' So I put a bullet where I shouda put a helmet, and I crash my car cause I wanna get carried away, that's why I'm standing on the overpass screaming at myself 'hey, I wanna get better''  
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    DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,911 Master Poster
    Great idea. Hopefully legit drivers would understand what you are doing and appreciate that you are wary of your safety.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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    ThePigeonsThePigeons Posts: 199 Trailblazer
    I also send my live location to a friend when I need to go somewhere alone. It's been really helpful
    ᴛʜᴇ ᴍɪɴᴅ ɪs ᴛʜᴇ ᴋᴇʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ sᴇᴛs ʏᴏᴜ ғʀᴇᴇ
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    DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 7,911 Master Poster
    Good idea.
    "There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
    "The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
    "I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,557 Skive's The Limit
    Thank you for sharing! Its a good idea. But the only thing that concerns me is like you said everyone needs to know it for it to be effecitive but surely that includes the abusers and they will clock on when they find out about it too. Maybe i think too much into it aha. But yeah that scares me. I used to have a code with my sister of when i used to get fed up of staying at my friends how to ring me to go home 😂. I think that was probably just cause of the anxiety of not know how to leave a general situation. 
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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