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Am I going mad? - The Mix
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Hey @Ashhy_Ashhy
I’m sorry to hear that you feel your friends hate you because they seem to get mad at everything you say. Unless you are saying something offensive, chances are, how your friends react to what you say is more about them than you. So it may not be entirely your fault!
Miscommunications can happen as well, so there’s also the chance that your friends might be interpreting what you say differently than what you actually mean. That’s no-one’s fault, but if you think it might help, you can try to apologise and re-word what you said and hopefully your friends will understand.
It’s also good to talk about how you feel. Do your friends know that when they react to something you’ve said, that you feel upset? It might help to talk to them about this, though try not to put the blame on them as this may only cause them to further react. You might want to say things like ‘I feel upset when I say something and you react badly to what I say’. If they are good friends, they should be willing to apologise and try to talk through the situation with you. For more information on confronting your friends, feel free to check out this article: https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/how-to-confront-a-friend-3318.html
However, sometimes, when people who we think are friends react negatively a lot when we talk, it may turn out they aren’t such good friends after all. It may even be that your friends could be jealous https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/jealous-friends-3406.html or that they are ‘only joking’/ having a bit of banter but in fact, could be bullying: https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/bored-of-banter-when-banter-turns-to-bullying-31041.html If this is the case for you, then it may be worth spending less time around them and investing more in other friends.
Hope this helps a bit. Feel free to continue reaching out the rest of the community on the discussion boards: https://community.themix.org.uk/ or speaking to our team directly: https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team
Take care
I'm sorry that you are getting these impulsive thoughts. If I were you, I would talk to a friend or a family member I trust or maybe even a specialist. Find a way to keep yourself calm and relaxed. You must also try your your hardest to not complete these desires because you could badly injure yourself or another person. I want to say that I am no expert. I am just a person who wants to help others. I truly hope that you find a way to control these thoughts and bring yourself to peace. @Maisy seems like they would know more than me on this topic though, but they did put a link for their community discussion and a link to talk to their team directly in a post above. I hope that you find you inner peace and get to a calm state of mind. I want you to know that their are people who care about you and want to help. I hope this helps you and I will be praying you everyday.
Take care ❤️
i know how you feel, i have ASD and i get sensory overload when things get too much for me, does anyone have any advice how i can calm down when i am overloaded?
Hey @Angel
I’m not diagnosed with ASD but it is something I am interested in.
It might help to figure out what particular sensory difficulties you have. For example, if strong light is difficult for you, then going to places with natural lighting may help or wearing sunglasses if you can’t change the lighting may also help. If you struggle with noisy environments, then using headphones might also help.
If you feel overwhelmed, then it may be good to safely leave the situation (if possible) and go somewhere where you can calm down. This might mean arranging with teachers or parents about possible places you can go to when you feel overwhelmed e.g. if you are at school, maybe there is a designated area that you can go to when you feel overwhelmed or if you are at home, then maybe you can go to a particular area of the house. I don’t know what a sensory overload feels like for you, but I know that when I’ve struggled with anxiety or just not feeling too good, it can help to do some deep breathing exercises and try to challenge any negative thoughts I have, as well as resting and doing things I enjoy like watching a film.
The National Autistic Society has a page dedicated to sensory difficulties that you might want to check out https://www.autism.org.uk/about/behaviour/sensory-world.aspx I also agree with @Mike in checking out the wrongplanet forum too.
Hope this helps a bit and that others can help you too
Hi @tryhftghhfhjty
You aren’t insane. It’s easy to think that when we experience concerning symptoms that we are ‘insane’ but having experienced symptoms or even having a diagnosable mental health condition does not mean that you are insane.
We can’t diagnose you over the internet (and we aren’t professionals anyway) but has there been anything happening in your life recently that might have caused you to experience this, for example, a stressful life event? Sometimes when we experience stress, we may struggle with our mental health. Other times there might not necessarily be a cause. But it’s still important to talk to someone about what you are experiencing. Many mental illness can be treated and managed with a mixture of therapy, medications and life style changes. Unless you are a danger to yourself or others, it’s unlikely that you would be sectioned in a mental health unit. And even if you were sectioned, it’s only in your best interests so that professionals can help diagnose and treat your symptoms so that you can go on to live your life without the symptoms getting in the way.
As the article suggests, try to get enough sleep, exercise, keeping yourself fed and hydrated, avoid drugs and talk to someone you trust. You may then want to talk to your GP too. It can be scary opening up but worth it when you get the help you need.
If you are in the UK, and under 25, you may want to continue reaching out to us for support on our forums https://community.themix.org.uk/ or talk to our team directly https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support.
Take care
Hi @Anonymous2
If you have been experiencing symptoms mentioned in the article (losing interest in things, isolating yourself, experiencing hallucinations, feeling more on edge etc) then you might find it helpful to talk to someone, more so if you have been feeling this way for a while.
You can visit your GP for a referral for mental health services in your area. If you are between the ages of 13-25, you can also contact our team https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support. Alternatively, you can also get support from SANE http://www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do/support/
Remember to look after yourself- including exercise, eating healthily and cutting down on unhealthy substances e.g. alcohol.
Take care
so maybe you want to edit the link on the "The charity Mind has a list of signs...." because it takes you to a Page not found, and that is quite maddening, for a person who is looking for help, on top of everything one has to deal with.
Ciao
Hey @pizzapenguinlord
Do you want to talk more about what’s going on for you? What do you mean that you aren’t sure what’s real anymore?
While we aren’t professionals and can’t say for sure what you might be experiencing, being uncertain of reality can be caused by many things. It could be that you are stressed and aren’t getting enough sleep, or that you have taken drugs which have altered your perception of reality. It could be that you are anxious and having a panic attack, and may be experiencing feelings of unreality. Or maybe you are struggling with intrusive thoughts, such as with OCD, and question the reality of your experiences. If accompanied by other symptoms such as hearing voices and seeing things, you may be experiencing psychosis (detachment from reality).
As the article suggests, you might want to talk to someone or seek professional help. It’s also good to make sure that you are looking after yourself- not drinking lots of alcohol or misusing drugs, and getting enough sleep and exercise.
Don’t forget that now you’ve joined our community you can also post in the discussion boards https://community.themix.org.uk/ and access one-to-one support from our team https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team
Whatever is going on for you, you are not alone in feeling this way. And we are here to help you.I have isolated myself of emotions so i don't know who's case is worse.
Hey there,
It sounds like you may be struggling emotionally if you are eating less and isolating yourself from friends, family, even your own emotions. These can be symptoms of mental health difficulties such as depression (though we aren’t professionals so can’t say for sure).
You might find it helpful to read our understanding depression article: https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/depression-mental-health/understanding-depression-5647.html and to check your mood with the NHS mood self-assessment https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mood-self-assessment/
Feeling low can be common and it can make you feel like you don’t have much appetite and don’t want to socialise. But it’s still important to look after yourself, even if you don’t feel like it. Try reaching out to friends and family and let them know how you have been feeling or contact your doctor. You can also contact SANE http://www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do/support/ for emotional support too.
Since you’re now a member of The Mix, you can access support from our discussion boards: https://community.themix.org.uk/ or contact our team directly https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support.
Take care
Losing interest in things you’ve previously enjoyed
Eating too much or not enough
Isolating yourself (Pandemic obviously)
Feeling nervous or sad
clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth
headache
stomach ache
increased and rapid heart rate
sweating, especially your palms
feeling hot in the neck/face
dizziness
getting sarcastic
losing your sense of humor
raising your voice
beginning to yell, scream, or cry
Like I said, I feel perfectly fine It's just, I have a weird feeling, a hunch. Hopefully you can respond, thanks a lot. All those apply to me. And I don't want to over exaggerate those things, don't take them that seriously just observe them to see if they apply to me, I appreciate it!
Sincerely
-Maytham Al-Asadi [Edited email address]
Hi @Maytham912
Thank you for taking the time to comment and not to worry- you aren’t exaggerating at all.
You’ve listed quite a few symptoms, and even though we cannot diagnose as we aren’t professionals, the symptoms you mentioned could indicate depression or anxiety. Many people with depression or anxiety find themselves feeling lower in their mood, noticing physical symptoms such as sweating, feeling hot, dizzy, which can affect their behaviour such as isolating themselves from others. This does not mean that you are mental or that anything is ‘wrong’ with you. I’m wondering what your hunch is since you feel these symptoms apply to you but you otherwise feel fine?
These feelings may be as a result of the pandemic. If you’ve experienced other stressful or upsetting events recently, your mood may be lower as a result. Although, sometimes there may not be a particular reason for how you feel. Regardless, you may still want to check out our articles on depression https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/depression-mental-health/understanding-depression-5647.html and anxiety https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/anxiety-ocd-and-phobias/what-is-anxiety-5598.html
Since we aren’t professionals, you may still want to seek professional evaluation through your doctor or mental health practitioners. However, you are also more than welcome to continue seeking support in our forums https://community.themix.org.uk/ or reach out for one-to-one support https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team
Take care
P.S. I removed the email address you provided to keep you safeHi @Ollies
I’m really saddened to hear your situation regarding your girlfriend. She should not be telling you that your family is toxic, nor physically abusing you or threatening to claim that you have raped her. Though your girlfriend seems to be struggling with her own issues (getting angry, feeling like you are cheating on her) this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship for you- what you describe could be considered to be abuse.
While many tend to think of women being victims and men being perpetrators of abuse, this is not always true. Though less common, women can definitely be perpetrators of abuse and men can be victims too. Just because you are a fully grown man, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be a victim of abuse. It’s also understandable that you may feel scared and conflicted about leaving your girlfriend. You might want to check out our article on relationship abuse https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships/what-is-relationship-abuse-2937.html for more information on identifying abusive situations.
However, there is life after an abusive relationship. I think it’s good that you’d like to make contact with your family, and considering they disliked your girlfriend, there is a good chance that they would accept you trying to make contact again. You can also choose whether to tell your family about your girlfriend’s behaviour, if you feel your family will be supportive of you. It can help to read about those who have been in abusive relationships and how they overcame this, for example, by checking out our article on life after an abusive relationship https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/relationships/life-after-an-abusive-relationship-28006.html
If you’d like further support, feel free to reach out on our discussion boards https://community.themix.org.uk/ or by contacting our team directly https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support. Alternatively, there is also the ManKind Initiative https://www.mankind.org.uk/ a charity supporting men who have been subjected to domestic abuse.
You aren’t going mad. I hope that you are able to reach out to your family and get the support that you need and deserve
Hearing and seeing things that aren’t there can definitely be scary. However, these things are also more common than you think and they don’t necessarily mean that you are losing mind!
Many people may experience ‘hypnagogic hallucinations’ (seeing and hearing things) before falling asleep and this can be quite common and doesn’t necessarily mean that you are mentally ill. Other conditions, such as tinnitus, can cause a ringing/beeping noise which may be more noticeable during quieter times, such as at night.
If what you are experiencing is bothering you, then it’s probably for the best that you speak to your doctor. This is more so true if you start noticing hallucinations during the day or more often. Feel free to check out this article by the NHS on different types of hallucinations and when to see a doctor: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/hallucinations/
If you’d like more support, feel free to post around in our forums https://community.themix.org.uk/
Hope this helps a bit
It sounds like you are going through a lot with your parents and are finding life really difficult and miserable right now, and perhaps you’ve felt this way for a while too.
It’s understandable that you love your parents and want to please them, but it is also hard on you when you are getting disciplined and have been raised not to talk back but now feel like you are a ticking time bomb waiting to explode. Even though it felt good to explode and let it all out, even if it meant hurting your parents in the process, it sounds like this has also worsened the situation in that you now don’t feel like yourself anymore and you feel you are becoming more depressed and impulsive, even to the point of thinking of killing yourself. It also makes sense that you feel others have turned their back on you and that you feel alone and like you are going insane. Rest assured, it’s unlikely that any of that is true!
If you have been raised not to talk back and have found yourself holding everything in, it makes sense that the pressure would get too much and you just want to explode and as a result you may feel angrier and more depressed than usual. Holding your true thoughts and feelings in is never good- for you or the people around you.
I’m wondering if you have thought about getting some support for yourself, perhaps counselling? If you haven’t, you might want to check out our article on counselling here: https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/mental-health-treatments/counselling-faq-5839.html We also have an article on family therapy you might want to take a look at too: https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/family-life/family-therapy-7961.html
If you want, now that you are a member of The Mix, feel free to post your own thread, perhaps in Sex and Relationships https://community.themix.org.uk/categories/sex-relationships or Health and Wellbeing https://community.themix.org.uk/categories/health-wellbeing to receive more support. You can also contact our team directly https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support or use our directory to find local services https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/find-local-services for support in your area.
Remember, you are not alone
It doesn’t sound like you are going insane, although I understand your concern. What it does sound like, however, is that you are lonely without any friends and this might be behind why you feel you are going insane. It’s understandable that if you have no friends then you are left thinking that everyone hates you, thinks you are weird or says mean things about you after having talked with you. This is especially true if you compare yourself to others and find yourself over thinking things a lot.
I’m wondering whether you have spoken to anyone about how you feel and how you don’t have many friends and worry that others don’t like you? For example, if the cause behind this is anxiety, then you may be able to get therapy or counselling to help you deal with these thoughts and feelings. While we can’t diagnose as we aren’t professionals, you might also want to see whether there is a chance you might be neurodivergent (autistic, ADHD etc) as you might feel lonely and weird around others but you’ll feel less alone when you’ve found your tribe!
Now that you’re a member of the boards, feel free to vent and get support from others on our discussion boards https://community.themix.org.uk/ You can also contact our team directly for one-to-one support https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team
Hope this helps a bit 😊