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I could do with some advice đź’—

Butterfly23Butterfly23 Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
in Health & Wellbeing
Hey everyone!

Recently, I have been having a real urge to talk about some things that have been really affecting me, that I haven’t really mentioned to anyone before in fear of judgment. I’m not sure where i’d start but probably chat would be a better place 💗

I’m scared about being honest due to reasons I don’t really want to go into, I worry about people who I don’t know well and struggle to trust people. Just not sure whether to talk or not? I feel that it would be a benefit to me but I’m not sure x

Anyways, I hope everyone is doing good and I’m always here x
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,497 Skive's The Limit
    Hey butterfly

    i can understand that feeling of wanting to say something but being to scared from being judged. But ive said things on here that i thought people would judge me for but no one does. Even if do something bad or something then understand theres even things that are behind that and reasons behind everything so will try to understand everything. 

    Whatever it is we are not here to judge. Just to support you. 

    You say in your own time and will be here to listen <3 even if its to start of with - the reasons you dont want to say then we can hear that too
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Butterfly23Butterfly23 Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
    edited June 2019
    Thank you so much @Shaunie I think the main reason that is that I’m just scared it’ll happen again and I’m scared that people will not take it for what it is a blame me for it all. Also, don’t know whether I’m just overthinking it 💗

    Hope you are doing okay x
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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,497 Skive's The Limit
    edited June 2019
    It can be easy and stressful when think of all the negative outcomes of sharing something or just think of all negative things - more than the positive/neutral ones. It is good youre thinking about what would be best for you <3 i wouldnt blame or judge you - just try to understand and support and hope/ think everyone else would too. But theres no pressure & say when feel comfortable x
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    Butterfly23Butterfly23 Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
    Thank you @shaunie x
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    coc0maccoc0mac Posts: 1,054 Wise Owl
    Hi @Butterfly23, 

    I just wanted to start off by saying you have shown great courage and strength by thinking about talking to others. Talking about our feelings is always one of the very best things we can do, however it can feel really daunting at times - so by considering it you are making a really positive first step. Well done :heart:

    Sometimes we have to take a bit of time until we feel ready to do so and that is absolutely okay. It is always really important to listen to ourselves and talk when we feel ready. But this is a safe space - we will never judge you, or blame you, for anything you tell us. And talking to us may support you in feeling ready to talk to others. 

    I can see you are worried incase you are overthinking and I wanted you to know that that is absolutely okay. No matter how big or small a problem may be, how you are feeling is always the most important thing and you deserve to be listened to regardless. You are important and really do deserve to feel supported.

     Take good care :heart:
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    Butterfly23Butterfly23 Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
    Thank you so much @coc0mac x
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