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sleep (TW: sexual assault)

ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,294 Community Veteran
edited June 2019 in Health & Wellbeing
I got drunk last night, I woke up nude and I found white stuff dripping from myself with uncomfortable feeling :'( wot do I do. do I tell someone. I felt bad

[moved from Anything Goes by moderator]
Crazy mad insane
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    edited June 2019
    Hey ellie,

    It's good to see you reaching out for support. Would you like to talk about anything? With regards to telling somebody you could if you wanted to, but that's totally up too you. It could help to talk things through with somebody who you trust, and feel comfortable talking too. 

    How are you feeling now? 

    Do you remember anything from the previous night? 

    Were here for you :heart: 
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  • JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,577 Part of The Furniture
    edited June 2019
    Just a heads up @ellie2000 that I moved this thread from Anything Goes to Health & Wellbeing, where it fits better and should be a bit more visible for others to respond to. I also added a trigger warning to the title of the post, just to make it clear what it's about.

    This is a horrific thing to go through :( you've done an incredibly brave thing to post about it here and hopefully we can help talk things through with you. As @BananaMonkey said, what you do next is completely up to you and what you're ready for. There's no right or wrong thing to do here.

    You can't legally consent to anything while you're drunk, much less if you're not conscious or aware of what's happening.

    If you wanted to go down the reporting route and inform the police, that's an option available to you. You can also talk to a service that specialises in sexual assault like Rape Crisis who, as well as being able to support you, can help you with reporting it if you want to do that.

    If you don't, though, that's okay and nobody's choice but yours. It can take a while to organise your feelings and decide what you want to do, so take this at your own pace. We're here to help talk things through as much as you need to.

    Again as @*BananaMonkey* said, do you remember anything from the previous night?

    ellie2000 said:
    I felt bad

    When you say you felt bad, what did you feel bad about? Obviously it's understandable to feel bad given what happened to you - just keen to explore your meaning when you wrote this.

    I just want to emphasise that sharing this takes courage and you've done a great thing by posting about what happened. Let us know how you've been since you posted this. <3
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  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,294 Community Veteran
    how do you be at home but not at home. wen im at my home town I feel like running deep down the woodland path and hiding. ppl don't extend their tlk with me. wen I respond with a shake of the head they walk by instead of finding out, so wen im sad I hide away n play 'outlast' n 'saboteur' n 'red dead'
    I remember goin into a house
    Crazy mad insane
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Hey

    That sounds like a horrible expereince. Youve done well to reach out on here.  Have you reached out to anyone else since?

    ellie2000 said:
    how do you be at home but not at home. wen im at my home town I feel like running deep down the woodland path and hiding. ppl don't extend their tlk with me. wen I respond with a shake of the head they walk by instead of finding out, so wen im sad I hide away n play 'outlast' n 'saboteur' n 'red dead'
    I remember goin into a house

    Sounds like "home" isnt home if you dont feel comfortable there. A home should be somewhere safe and comfortable. 

    You said some people dont extend their talk with you because you respond with shake of the head. They may be thinking you dont extend the talk too and can be hard to extend when not got much.- depending on what youre talking about i guess. 


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Miniposter Posts: 810 Part of The Mix Family
    Hello x

     It sounds like you have been through something really difficult and maybe things don't feel comfortable or safe anymore? <3 

    Have you been able to reach out to anyone else about this?, like rape crisis as @Mike mentioned in his reply, I understand it would be traumatic to relive what happened and talk about it,  but it could also be beneficial? 

    Sending love to you,

    Butterfly x
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