Always turning down surprising things that might be good for me

Former Member

Lately I've noticed I get so worried when someone springs something at me that I can't focus and think about it for real before I decline, sometimes quite harshly at that. It always leaves me feeling really embarrassed and I beat myself up about it for a long time. 
Does anyone have any suggestions about how to stop doing that and remind myself to take a breather before replying so that I don't automatically decline any nice thing that might happen to me??

Siena

Heyy. I think now youre noticing it & being more self aware. It may become easier to think before you speak. And to remind your self things can be overwhelming but you have regretted saying no in the past. It is like the saying of "feel the fear but do it anyway". You can sometimes change your mind about things too - i do alll the time & is okay

Former Member

Hey @Past User
 
I think we all do this sometimes when we reply on impulse and it seems to come out wrong! What I try and do is say 'let me check and let you know' or something along those lines so you can think about it before replying/declining - then panic less!

- Lucy