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Intrusive Thoughts

SkyeIsNotTheLimitSkyeIsNotTheLimit Posts: 86 Budding Regular

So along with being sexually averse I'm also having intrusive thoughts. Like I'll be eating a sandwich and suddenly I'll picture my work colleague having sex with their partner. It really makes me feel uneasy. 

I'm not sure what I want from making a thread about this but I see this as a safe space to say it and not feel sick about it.

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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,289 Skive's The Limit
    edited February 2019

    This is definetly a safe place to say it :)

    I can see how this could make you feel uncomfortable and maybe annoying

    though i know this isnt the same - but i used to get weird intrusive thoughts of doing weird things loll like i remember being in school and thinking like about like what would happen if i started dancing on the table hahha. Or if i was in a new class what would happen if i started singing like we was in some musical. (Never did any of it lol) still sometimes think about weird things but not all the time. And guess all get randomthoughts. But anyway lol my point is that the more i thought about the thoughts and how annoying it was - the more harder to get rid of the thoughts. The thoughts did get annoying lol so when i thought about it - i didnt give much energy to it and accepted the thought & gave less attention to it the more would disappear. I didnt think like "this is annoying and need to stop thinking about it" cause the more i did that the more ironically i would think about it. So i just accepted it and accepted the fact that the thoughts could come back too ect. 

    Have you got anyone to advise you about this? 

    Sorry if not helpful. I hope youre okay today

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  • Lucy307Lucy307 Posts: 1,171 Wise Owl
    Hey @SkyeIsNotTheLimit

    I used to get this quite a bit...! I found the more I thought about things like that, the more I tried to stop myself, and then the more I couldn't stop myself thinking about it. Really annoying. Actually really similar to what @Shaunie has said above. So you're not alone with this!!

    I think you mentioned in your other post you have signed up to counselling - can you discuss this with them too if so?? 

    - Lucy
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
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