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Millie2787
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Hi Guys
When I was younger I used to have quite a bad stutter and really struggled through Primary and middle school. After a lot of hard work with the local SALT Team we managed to reduce it.
Latley I’ve noticed that when I get anxious or Nervous my sutter tends to creep back in especially with S and B and it’s really embarrassing, I had a job interview the other week and it started to Creep back in and I’m unsure on what to do when it does.
Also if anyone does have a stutter what I find most frustrating is when people try to finish my words or sentences for me - makes me feel really stupid and that there getting frustrated with me - Does anyone have any tips on how to tell those people to basically stop as it’s not really helping me ?
Aimee 💙
When I was younger I used to have quite a bad stutter and really struggled through Primary and middle school. After a lot of hard work with the local SALT Team we managed to reduce it.
Latley I’ve noticed that when I get anxious or Nervous my sutter tends to creep back in especially with S and B and it’s really embarrassing, I had a job interview the other week and it started to Creep back in and I’m unsure on what to do when it does.
Also if anyone does have a stutter what I find most frustrating is when people try to finish my words or sentences for me - makes me feel really stupid and that there getting frustrated with me - Does anyone have any tips on how to tell those people to basically stop as it’s not really helping me ?
Aimee 💙
Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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i used to have a stutter when anxious. And quite pleased that it’s not even noticeable now and does get easier.
I understand the frustration of someone trying to finish your sentance. They think they’re trying to help. But sometimes for ourselves it’s feels really important to say what we want to say ourselves without someone assuming and predicting what we are saying. - something I think someone will understand if you explain that to them - as it will also help with your confidence too. They may think they’re taking the pressure of you - which sometimes felt like the case for me but rest of the times it was annoying.
I think explaining to them how you appreciate that they may be trying to help but explain to them why you’d rather them to not - and they may understand. And also being completly honest to them may make you feel less nervous and less stressed and maybe you’d feel less pressure to finished your sentences quickly before someone else does - which is only going to make it worse.
Hope makes sense
One of my very good friends in college has a stutter, mostly with words starting or ending with s.
I don't particularly but I mix words up and sometimes say one different but similar (like ensure and assure is a biggy. Anxiety definitely makes mine Worse so it really doesn't help when people "help" Sometimes when I really can't find that word and I ask I'm happy for a hand but when it's something like using less instead of fewer. Or putting one word in front of another (time about) people still underunderstand, so I don't need to be "helped" like a child as it just makes me feel stupid.
So I can understand the annoyance when correcting. And the scariness behind having to tell people but it's absolutely okay to say how you feel like "excuse me that doesn't actually help me it just makes me belittled" keep less like your mother would tell you to say it 😂 The point is it's okay to say it but the how is tricky.
Most people shouldn't be upset if you ask/tell them nicely and if they are then they're really not worth talking to xo
I'm sure your job interview went splendid so try not to feel bad about it, these things make us who we are and people are usually waking to accommodate them xo
i didn’t get the job and can’t help but think maybe my stutter had somthing to do with it.
I think my problem is I’m too nice to tell people to basically stop finishing my sentences for me.
Attucally Aidan I find I have a really short attention span as well and can’t retain information - I’m the same if something catches my eye on TV sometimes stumble of the words I try to find and don’t worry what you said was a great help !
Laine - i quite often struggle with finding the right word I’m looking for which make me stutter even more which means I get more anxious which makes me stutter even more 🤦🏻♀️
Try building up to it? Maybe tell someone through text first? And work up to saying it.
If you say it nicely I'm sure they won't mind and if they do then that's their problem xo
Anxiety can definitely make it worse. I find thinking about it makes me mess up more it's a vicious cycle lol xo
I Went through SALT team in primary one of the things they picked up on was that I would sutter more when I was anxious is seemed to lay dormant as is so to speak but latley it seems to be becoming more and more prominent.
i think I’m going to see if mum can write a letter to college as it tends to be teachers that finish my sentaces - asking that they don’t as it really doesn’t help- I know hey only try to help but sometimes they don’t even get the right word 😂
I think that they may be they’d be happy that you told them so they know how to better help you:) and definetly not rude or anything. and think writing a letter sounds like great idea