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Just hate myself
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(i am so sorry, i did say to myself i will never post another thread that is specifcally seeking support for myself but yeah didnt last that long, Dont feel worthy for peoples time. And probs fed up of same pathetic shit.(iam anyway) This doesnt need a reply. But i just feel so awful &alone )
I just feel like i am not getting very far. & am just so fed up now of thinking the same things & just suicidal. I dont like being in my own body - which seems like the most frustating &!agigating feeling & i know part of me felt some closure when the person who raped me admitted it was forced. Made me feel like if he sees it as forced too then it cant be my fault. & to read felt some valid feelings. But still disgusting & have found myself thinking about it less since he admitted it but i feel that is wrong. I just keep getting urges to admit & confess to things i have done - like i am admitting a crime or something but it is just literally something i was forced to do and something i felt i had 0 contorl over- so i get confused myself - on why i hate myself. But feel alone with what happened & is not something that know has happened to soemone else so i just feel like soemthing must be wrong with me to let it happen. Apperently wanting to talk about what happened & trauma but then not at the same time- can be normal & couselling suppose to help but dont feel worthy for that. And i should start that after therapy finishes.
I just feel like i need constant reassurance that i am not disgusting but i havent learnt how to give that to myself. I just think about new ways to die constantly and feel unsafe sometimes.
Even just drinking water or anything - just makes me feel disgusting as that is even partrelated to trauma & triggers me and am so fed up. And just dont think anyone understands. So it just seem all so pathetic to read 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
But i dont have any friends causei cant even keep in contact with anyoen because am distant and dk how to change that or if i can but am so alone so whats the point anymore.
I Have one sesson of group DBT left on friday whcih am quite sad about and then im not really sure what happens after that. But i see my CC on thursday
Basically ;
i am not getting anywhere, feel horrible and alone and am confused. And just feel like death is the only escape. Feel like self hate will be the death of me
I just feel like i am not getting very far. & am just so fed up now of thinking the same things & just suicidal. I dont like being in my own body - which seems like the most frustating &!agigating feeling & i know part of me felt some closure when the person who raped me admitted it was forced. Made me feel like if he sees it as forced too then it cant be my fault. & to read felt some valid feelings. But still disgusting & have found myself thinking about it less since he admitted it but i feel that is wrong. I just keep getting urges to admit & confess to things i have done - like i am admitting a crime or something but it is just literally something i was forced to do and something i felt i had 0 contorl over- so i get confused myself - on why i hate myself. But feel alone with what happened & is not something that know has happened to soemone else so i just feel like soemthing must be wrong with me to let it happen. Apperently wanting to talk about what happened & trauma but then not at the same time- can be normal & couselling suppose to help but dont feel worthy for that. And i should start that after therapy finishes.
I just feel like i need constant reassurance that i am not disgusting but i havent learnt how to give that to myself. I just think about new ways to die constantly and feel unsafe sometimes.
Even just drinking water or anything - just makes me feel disgusting as that is even partrelated to trauma & triggers me and am so fed up. And just dont think anyone understands. So it just seem all so pathetic to read 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
But i dont have any friends causei cant even keep in contact with anyoen because am distant and dk how to change that or if i can but am so alone so whats the point anymore.
I Have one sesson of group DBT left on friday whcih am quite sad about and then im not really sure what happens after that. But i see my CC on thursday
Basically ;
i am not getting anywhere, feel horrible and alone and am confused. And just feel like death is the only escape. Feel like self hate will be the death of me
“And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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I've never been great with words but I've also never been a reader and runner.
I ready want you to know it's okay that you want reassurance and you feel this way, things are hard and nobody will ever be able to imagine what you're going through.
But we are here for you always 💕
You are a lovely person and I hope you can accept that at some point. You know it's going to take time but you don't deserve to be suffering in this way. I wish I could make it better for you .
Sending you love and hugs and hoping you feel a little better this afternoon.
- Lucy
Would like to begin by saying that you should always feel able to start a thread on whatever topic you'd like and it's good to see that you did feel able to write this one.
When you talk about having these urges to confess about things, are these just in your every day experiences or are they also coming across in dreams??
Also, it is completely natural to feel like you need reassurance, and hopefully that could be one of the functions of these boards? I understand that you may not have any friends to talk to, but do you have any family members (auntis, uncles, cousins, or grandparents) that might be able to offer you some support?
Everyone wants to hear how you are doing, and we all care about you sincerely. Keep your head up, and let us all know how the final DBT goes
i dont feel like have anyone else to speak to within my family either
i had my appiontment with my CC today and after DBT, i have 15 weeks of “changes” group. Which is like working on occupational stuff with more OTs. The DBT group was 6 weeks so another 15 weeks is quite a lot. Apperently she told me before but my memory is so bad lol. And i mean sounds like could help but kinda confused on how can do that stuff with a group. And how can i get on with my life when i am still feeling so shit. Like Where do i even get the motivation.
feeling really shitty today :’(
And Cause am a total fuck up who cant help burden. And cause i feel alone & awful. But thanks
But Tbh i didnt like my last session of DBT today.
I was late cause of shitty buses so made it worse. Yesterday i saw CC and she was asking how i was finding it and i said that its made me think i dont hve BPD as its seems as everyone only deals with the emotion of being angry suddenly but feeling fine the rest of the time & their “base level” (constant feeling) is fine so then just finding a way to manage that but i feel domt have bpd as my base level is depression and i dont suddenly get angry then feel fine. I dont wanna live with just managing not getting into sad crisis of killing myself. So then it was clear my CC told the people who run it. As today they keep talking about sadness and it not being all about being angry and that still have BPD if is sadness as affects everyone differently and then was looking at me. Probably subconsiously. Now i feel bad. But even if i cant manage sadness i feel like it was about managing not getting triggered but i am constantly sad.
But the last one was on crisis planning. And just basically bringing everything learnt to put into crisis plan. And something they said at the very end has stuck with me. Of it being something like “we all have emotions, - is just how we manange it” and that we need to get to our “base level”. My base level is being depressed and hating myself - as i just meant to accept that as my personality 😭 and not get to the extent of self hrm or killing myself and to aviod triggers and manage that ???? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Dont wanna live at all then 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
i have CHANGE’ s group for 15 weeks after for like goal setting with occupational therapists to help make changes and things like goal setting & life style balance ect. But i dont have much motivation so feel will be quite hard and too much. Apperently is with people on the ‘personality disorder treatment pathway’ I Start it on the 29th. Am so stressed about it
If i could “change” by now i would of. Not a chioce. So clearly the group stuff is not going to help or anythjng else.
And death is literally only answer. Which is sad.
They seem to ignore the fact i aint a hormonal person who is just unstable and gets triggered and angry at small things. And all i need is to ‘regulate and manage my emotions’. I am constantly sad and constantly want to die:(
just dont like myself and makes me wanna kil myself.
but thanks for help
Was sexually humuated and raped and feel disgusting. And dont wanna be in my body knowing what ive done. Or be in this world know there are sick people like that
Pathetic right?
This is a very natural thing to feel, @Shaunie. When something becomes overwhelming in that way, it's the nature of mental health issues for them to have a ripple effect through our lives and impact us in a lot of ways. It doesn't mean you're pathetic - it means you're dealing with a lot.
I'd also highlight the weight of what you mentioned in that first quote. Sometimes, when we're living with these thoughts daily, it can be easy to think "it's only this" and we can become almost numb to the severity of what we're actually dealing with. What you went through and the trauma you experienced is no small thing - try not to underestimate the impact of that or give yourself a hard time over the toll it's naturally going to take on you.
It sounds like you got a lot out of the DBT sessions you were doing before. Out of curiosity, before you started those sessions, how did you feel about them? Were you expecting to have a positive experience, or did it take some convincing for you to give them a shot?
Thinking about practical change in our lives can feel like a lot to take on, and it's okay not to be ready for that, though sometimes our expectations can hold us back from taking those risks and enjoying the rewards of doing so. How are you feeling today?
but yeah pathetic or not. Shouldnt have a thread where others perspective on this site is this is pathetic. As not fair for others to read who seems to not have ‘pathetic’problems in their view Not even just one view so please do close this thread. @The Mix
I will highlight that others have been supportive on this thread, so try not to think the views of one person (I believe @Millie2787 's comment was a typo!) outweigh or outnumber that. We are here for you, and you're nothing close to pathetic.
Feel free to post another thread if/when you like.