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No work getting me down

One-in-a-millionOne-in-a-million Posts: 405 Rampant Poster
I’ve always worked in a nursery since being 16, most of it was volenteering (5 years) mostly due to college but I didnt require a placement for the first 2 years of college but I wanted to make sure childcare is what I wanted. But even suring the summer breaks ive found a summer job somewhere. 

But in July I unfortunately had to leave my job due to my role as a 1-2-1 worker being no longer needed. I’ve applied for a lot of nurseries but had no luck some of which I think is due to needing a DBS update which can take time to come. But some of it I feel is due to (I hope im wrong) my epilepsy. I mention that word and I can see a change in them, I reasure them that I do not have fits, that I am fully aware of what’s happening at the time and pose no danger to anyone. But still you can see something change in them. The same goes for when I mention my dyslexia, I tell them that it doesn’t effect my ability to do the job and that if I do need a bit extra time to finish paperwork, that I would do this in my own time before or after work.
(I have to declare these when asked if I have any disabilities or learning difficulties)


anyway enough of that. The fact I have been unemployed for 2 months is really getting me down, I can see my bank account getting lower and been stuck at home is starting to annoy me. I don’t like the fact that there will be a gap on my CV (I know it’s only small but from November 2011- July 2018 I’ve been doing something.)

 I just feel rubbish not earning, being able to pay my way and having money to go out.

i’ve signed on an agency and hope that they will ring me ASAP but for the time being I’m kinda stuck.

anyway thats my moan over for now 
Shauniepeachysoo

Comments

  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 332 Rampant Poster
    Hey @One-in-a-million,

    I'm sorry to hear you have been out of work and it's getting you down. I think work gives us a sense of purpose and without what it can be really difficult, with money being a factor too. Have you heard anything from the agency yet? 

    It wouldn't be right for you to be judged on disabilities and I sincerely hope you are not being judged in that way... Please don't let it discourage you, if they were judging you then it sounds like they'd be crap to work for anyway tbh. You don't want that kinda environment!!

    Also try not to worry too much about having a gap on your CV, as long as you're honest that you were looking (if they ask you), it's not really regarded a problem (coming from someone that used to look through heaps of CVs!!) :smile: Hope that helps a little. Sending hugs <3

    - Lucy
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • AngelOfFaithAngelOfFaith Posts: 118 The Mix convert
    Hiya Hun,

    I know and remember us speaking about this before (I am also a 121, except in a primary school). I know it is difficult being out of employment for 2 months now, especially as you want to be able to pay your own way and earn your place in this world, as you describe. Well done for joining an agency as agencies are and can be an effective way of easing back into employment within a setting. Have the agency been in touch with you as of yet?

    I understand and can see that you feel worried that it is your difficulties (epilepsy and dyslexia) which could be making it harder for you to be employed somewhere however I can only try to reassure you that that is more than likely not the case, despite it feeling that way. If you feel that could be affecting new employment for yourself though then maybe consider speaking to your GP and actually being given a fit to work certificate/note to take with you?

    Something will come up for you...i promise.x
  • One-in-a-millionOne-in-a-million Posts: 405 Rampant Poster
    Hi guys thanks for replying, I’m still waiting for Work off the agency. I’ve told them I’m eager to start as soon as I can. Just started to get stressed over not knowing how long I’ll have to wait for Work. 

    Im just sick of the stress this is giving me but concider myself lucky for the family I have got. I have never thought about asking the gp about a fit to work note and might look into this. So far I’ve had to give one of the agencies concent for the to tell the schools that I have very mild epilepsy. I have made it very clear to them that this will not effect my ability to work and they said they would make sure that the school is told thst it doesn’t effect me.

    makes it worse that I had 2 episodes last week :( another disappointment as I was 6 months clear.
    Thank you Lucy, hearing that the gap won’t make a big problem is really helpful 
    Thank you both so much 

    emma
  • FloxyFloxy Port de Sóller Posts: 996 Incredible Poster
    Hey @One-in-a-million ; though I have no easy answers for your job hunting quest, in-between job hunting, work on your hobbies and look for options if available to make your hobby a career. Nothing would be better than that even if you earn a bit lesser in doing so.
    Also, try to learn some new skills like cooking, repairing or something like that. Cooking and repairing/restoring will help you a lot in the future. Cherish the good things in your life.

    I'm driven by self doubt.
  • AngelOfFaithAngelOfFaith Posts: 118 The Mix convert
    Hi guys thanks for replying, I’m still waiting for Work off the agency. I’ve told them I’m eager to start as soon as I can. Just started to get stressed over not knowing how long I’ll have to wait for Work. 

    Im just sick of the stress this is giving me but concider myself lucky for the family I have got. I have never thought about asking the gp about a fit to work note and might look into this. So far I’ve had to give one of the agencies concent for the to tell the schools that I have very mild epilepsy. I have made it very clear to them that this will not effect my ability to work and they said they would make sure that the school is told thst it doesn’t effect me.

    makes it worse that I had 2 episodes last week :( another disappointment as I was 6 months clear.
    Thank you Lucy, hearing that the gap won’t make a big problem is really helpful 
    Thank you both so much 

    emma
    Hi guys thanks for replying, I’m still waiting for Work off the agency. I’ve told them I’m eager to start as soon as I can. Just started to get stressed over not knowing how long I’ll have to wait for Work. 

    Im just sick of the stress this is giving me but concider myself lucky for the family I have got. I have never thought about asking the gp about a fit to work note and might look into this. So far I’ve had to give one of the agencies concent for the to tell the schools that I have very mild epilepsy. I have made it very clear to them that this will not effect my ability to work and they said they would make sure that the school is told thst it doesn’t effect me.

    makes it worse that I had 2 episodes last week :( another disappointment as I was 6 months clear.
    Thank you Lucy, hearing that the gap won’t make a big problem is really helpful 
    Thank you both so much 

    emma
    Hi Emma,

    Have you registered with just the one agency? Although it can get busy at times, sometimes it is good to be registered with at least 2 as it means that if one doesn't have any work for you a particular day then the other might. Also with more than one agency, you also gain more experience of working with different people and in different settings.

    The waiting game can be a stressful time but also allow yourself to focus on positive things during this time and building your personal mastery ie things that you enjoy doing and things that make you feel good.

    I still think that asking your gp for a fit to work note to be provided is a good idea. Have you had much more thought about this as of yet?

    How are you doing? Remember we are always here for you. Stay strong and keep taking care of yourself.x
  • AngelOfFaithAngelOfFaith Posts: 118 The Mix convert
    I've no idea what happened to the layout of my reply there. Hopefully you can still read and understand it despite that!
  • SkiveSkive No discipline! No morality! No respect! New ForestPosts: 14,788 Part of the furniture
    Being out of work is soul destroying. My advice is get anything you can until you get something that you want. Best of luck.
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