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The thing no one see.

Former MemberFormer Member Carer/musicianPosts: 819 Part of The Mix Family
in Health & Wellbeing
I have been up since 6am i have been in work and helped out around chat tonight. I am lead here in tears! 

I can't continue doing everything working, chats, education and full time carer. There is 2 things I can't control education and being a carer. Just which one do I choice chat or work at the moment. I can't do both not the way i did tonight supporting like a mod would. No one has ever stopped and asked me generally how is everything for me at the moment? And for that person to care and listen just doesn't happen at the moment for me. I am out of energy the cup is empty.

I am sorry if this hurts any you. 

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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    edited September 2018
    Hey,

    you know we will listen to you whenever you wanna vent, and we care about you. <3 

    youre talking about support chat right?
    Don’t mean to sound rude at any point but we are on a site where it’s Give support and also get support, so all would speak to others as if you was a mod - being supportive, as you always are. I like helping out in chat when I can and is not something I find as a chore because I love helping people esp on the boards too, but from this post it seems like is a chore for you & pressure or forced and not something you actually wanna do? -if this is the case maybe you should only take care of yourself atm as maybe overwhelming. Sorry if that wasn’t the sort of reply you wanted.  But just mean Please take care of self too
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Shaunie is absolutely right and i'vw always said if you give and give and give and don't get anything back then it's not a healthy friendship. 

    It definitely seems more pressurized on you and I was wonderig how you felt about taking a break? 
    I don't mean 100% from the mix if you don't want to but a break from helping others? 

    It's not a Chore it's something I love doing and I do often need to take a break and you will see me post less on the boards and go to more GCs than SCs while I take some me time and have a good old relaxing time. 

    If you are out of energy girl then go get that energy back recharge! And use it for what you need. 

    Energy can be treated like money, get your rent and food and then maybe if you want to an extra something,  you need energy to get through the day and of you feel like using the spare great!  If you don't you're no less a human than anyone else. 

    All of this ^ Is a bit much it's late I'm sorry 😂

    My point is take that break as long as you need. prioritize yourself and your goals and needs get what you need done and make sure there's enough to get through the day because you have your own problems too. 

    Don't feel bad or owt just look after yourself okay?  <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Abi you come first! I agree with Laine and Shaunie, take a break if you need one. We are here to listen to you aswell, so use this place as  vent, we're all here. How re you coping with all this? do you get any support? Always around <3  
  • Former MemberFormer Member Carer/musician Posts: 819 Part of The Mix Family
    edited September 18
    I really enjoy supporting around the chats just on a normal day last night I think I did take it to far I had been in work all I was tired and I was just wanting to keep going. I am really sorry the part about chat I shouldn't of put in i need to get it off my mind. - @Shaunie I will try and speak with Aman tonight if it's quiet. 

    @Past User I thought if i burnt myself out last night then refilled the cup today I would be alright and no one would know the difference by tomorrow. For the fast like 18 months I have been here I have struggled massively doing GC as I find it hard to deal with the different conversations we have in there - I hope that makes sense. 

    @Past User your guess is as good as mine for how i am coping with it all. Before writing on here i cried for help the only thing I could say is I need Jo who is my counsellor. Like I said to Laine i will try and speak with Aman tonight. 

    I am sorry if i hurt anyone last night when I typed that i really just need to let out some of my emotions. 
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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    edited September 2018
    Hey Abi. I’m glad you will try to seek support in chat. But does it have to be Aman? I’m just asking as this was posted recently https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/3592739/the-role-of-chat-moderators#latest , comments like that make  me think I shouldn’t support cause people are actually only going there to
    get/expect support ffom only mods so feel like I would also love to support you in chats but if only want to speak to Aman or mods that’s okay, just wondering, as dont wanna annoy anyone as I’m just a member. But can speak about this to anyone 

    Sorry, hope that doesn’t feel like Ive just critised what you’ve just said, just wanna help aswell :)
    take care
    Post edited by Siena on
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Carer/musician Posts: 819 Part of The Mix Family
    I don't want to ever discourage anyone from support another user in chat. 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    edited September 2018
    Aw no. I just don’t wanna annoy anyone. <3 so was just wondering.
    &as I feel not important enough that anyone wants support from me in first place. Its not what you said that discourages me. Is how I feel. 

    Maybe thats how others feel in themselves as well, so we all care about you, whether ask/ say it or not <3

    how are you feeling today?  Hope you had a more of a lie in today and getting some rest and care for yourself 🌸
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Carer/musician Posts: 819 Part of The Mix Family
    I don't want to ever discourage anyone from support another user in chat. - sorry I thought this had sent. 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    Oh,
    you did send that?:/I didnt think my reply ignored it either?:/
    hope youre okay
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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