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Do Internet relationships work?
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I was just wondering of anyone had ever met anyone on the net, and if so did it work?
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i met my ex on the net and he lives 180 miles away and we lasted for 16 months, we didnt break up coz of the net or coz of the distance particularly, just both changed and grew apart.
manchester isnt that far from cornwall either is it? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> am i dumb for meeting 2 blokes on the internet who live miles and miles away??
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
My current (and first (same guy that is)) bf started off as being just a friend of a friend, so we met through her, but because he lives a little way away (not too far, we go to school in the same town, but there are no busses so we have to rely on parents etc) we seem to spend more time talking to each other on the net than in rl. i don't think this is really a bad thing, obviously i would prefer to see him more often, but i sometimes find i can talk about stuff on the net i wouldn't feel comfortable talking face-to-face about. and it's working (so far) for us... two-and-a-half months so far and not one argument or fight <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I know this EXTREMELY attractive girl.
Shes extremely smart, I mean nuff intelligent! (Do brains and beauty go together? They do now) she is very talented, we get along great. We started to feel things for each other, we seemed to connect in more ways than dialing up to the internet.
However, I am here in boring Nottingham and there she is in Paris. HEY I GET TO MEET HER NEXT MONDAY! I'm goin over for the first time. But obviously its too long distance to have a relationship. *sigh*
Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
I think they can work if you have them for the right reasons. The distance can be a big problem though, and can often cause you to wonder if it is really 'meant to be'. I live in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates (in the Middle East) and David lives in Switzerland <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
I try to treat it like a real relationship and love him for who he is, and not what he is. I think he does the same too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
If they are meant to happen, they will work (just like every other relationship)
*Tara*
Learn from the mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.
dont rule out a relationship just coz she lives far away, if you love each other you can work it out. like LUKA said to me the other day, love can conquer all - distance, race, creed, colour, money, and some other things like that that i cant remember! but you get the idea.
if theres any chance of you being closer together sometime in the future, then its worth holding on to. and isnt it better to have someone far away than no one at all? well actually it can drive you insane sometimes if you just want to reach out and give that person a hug.. but i think its worth it.
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
I think i can plead cases for both the pros and cons of Net relationships.
I'll start with the negative because it's better to get rid of the crap first. I met someone from cleveland in 97/98 through AOL and things went swimmingly and we slowly started to get a bit lovey dovey during chat and phone calls, then one day out of the blue she said I'll be at Gatwick airport on the x of x (can't remember) but she was so different, she was just gaging for a shag and would chuck in the words i love you occasionally, i became bessoted with the idea of being in love. On the 23rd of December 1998 I proposed to her 24 hrs before I was due to return bak to the uk having spent 2 weeks with her I blew pretty much my redundancy package on that trip and the ring. Whilst we were have a session that evening following some upsetting sexual dysfunction (by and for me) I discovered she'd had some love balls inserted (excuse my candidness) to cut a long story shorter, I kinda new that moment it should be, 2 months later I had a letter from her followed by a phonecall telling me she'd slept with another man whilst we'd been apart and when was I going to move out to the us. It turns out she'd slept with half a dozen different guys in that 2 months. She was surprised when i told her I hoped the ring would cause internal damage as she shoves it up her ass. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> so things can go bad with net relationships.
But having said that i have met someone through the depression alliance who is so totally different, understand my illness, understands certain things I can do and can not do, accepts my love unconditonally returns unconditional love, drives 4 1/2 hrs down south to spend time with me, has even joined this site <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">) and more importantly is open and honest with me. This has been at times overwhelming that 2 people can be so alike, but maybe the net is just another medium for finding soulmates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Love and peace
LUK
The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
Yes Emma <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> I could be lol
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that may have worked before i talked to you on your webcam, me typing stuff and then seeing your reaction immediately and hearing your voice, i know you're what you say you are <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
What you don't see is that I'm really next to this guy. Its mybrother you can see. I admit though. it is my voice <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
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anyway i like your voice so <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> and it sooooo is you in the camera, and im gonna prove that in 8 days time! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
Ah ha but I might. You only know what I've told you. I do have 2 half brother <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> put em together and I have 1.
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(But don't tell anyone, peeps in the street and at college think I'm called Matt, 17 and male)
Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
I'm the rest!!
And I know I'm very very lucky. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I know tomorrow brings the consequence at hand, but I keep living this day like the next will never come.
hmm.. maybe we should rememeber Rizzo in our prayers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
help me but dont tell me to deny it, i done wrong and i wanna suffer for my sins.
©lovely freaks
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LUK
The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
LUKA
they work
for a bit
then dont
sort of
a bit
whatever
VISIT MY HOMEPAGE:http://jamestaylor.50megs.com
Whatever, you clearly and I know for a fact know you don't know why I posted a reply like that (cuz only a few close friends do and will know)and I don't give a toss whether you think I'm right or wrong cuz you knowjack schit.
The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
as long as it's not susan. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
I know tomorrow brings the consequence at hand, but I keep living this day like the next will never come.
i dont think relationships fail becuuse people meet on the internet, its just another way of meeting people with common interests and beliefs. relationships just end in the same way any do, its not because of the way you meet. i suppose the distance can contribute, but you can get over that if you want to make it work. i think the net is a better way of meeting someone than in a club, where you just base it all on appearance, and you get to know people far better on the internet than somewhere like a club.
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
*go wiv a freind - or 2,
*make sure there are loads of peeps there
*dont giv out address 2 u meet
first of all my mum always says that she thinks people who meete peeps off chat rooms have sum thing 2 hide sumthing, but wot the hell i go on em!! u do get weirdo's on the net n u tend 2 hear bout the bad story rather then the bad one so i would say its worth a try if u r deffo positive, as 4 workin out i dunt matter on how u met but if u personality match