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Do Internet relationships work?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I was just wondering of anyone had ever met anyone on the net, and if so did it work?

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  • JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im worried that might happen to us becuase of the distance between us. We see eachother when we can, but i suppose we'll have to take it one step at a time
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    mandi, 80 miles isnt far believe me!!!!

    i met my ex on the net and he lives 180 miles away and we lasted for 16 months, we didnt break up coz of the net or coz of the distance particularly, just both changed and grew apart.

    manchester isnt that far from cornwall either is it? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; am i dumb for meeting 2 blokes on the internet who live miles and miles away??

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This is kinda different but kinda similar at the same time i guess...

    My current (and first (same guy that is)) bf started off as being just a friend of a friend, so we met through her, but because he lives a little way away (not too far, we go to school in the same town, but there are no busses so we have to rely on parents etc) we seem to spend more time talking to each other on the net than in rl. i don't think this is really a bad thing, obviously i would prefer to see him more often, but i sometimes find i can talk about stuff on the net i wouldn't feel comfortable talking face-to-face about. and it's working (so far) for us... two-and-a-half months so far and not one argument or fight <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah i know what you mean, we've been together 6 months, we have had a few rows nowt major, and i found it easier telling him how i felt on the net/text messages, i think this is because we don't see eachother as much as we like and we need to get to know one another more and after all you can edit an email/text before you send it!! lol you can't take back said words.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Isn't it a kick in the balls when you meet someone online who seems perfect in every way imaginable... but the are sooooo far away they ain't even in dis country.

    I know this EXTREMELY attractive girl.
    Shes extremely smart, I mean nuff intelligent! (Do brains and beauty go together? They do now) she is very talented, we get along great. We started to feel things for each other, we seemed to connect in more ways than dialing up to the internet.

    However, I am here in boring Nottingham and there she is in Paris. HEY I GET TO MEET HER NEXT MONDAY! I'm goin over for the first time. But obviously its too long distance to have a relationship. *sigh*

    Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am in an internet relationship right now with David (Turtle). Everything seems to be going OK <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; even though we had a bit of a 'mishap' the other day.

    I think they can work if you have them for the right reasons. The distance can be a big problem though, and can often cause you to wonder if it is really 'meant to be'. I live in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates (in the Middle East) and David lives in Switzerland <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    I try to treat it like a real relationship and love him for who he is, and not what he is. I think he does the same too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    If they are meant to happen, they will work (just like every other relationship)

    *Tara*

    Learn from the mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    insane, i know EXACTLY what you mean. its only bloody happened to me twice hasnt it! grrrr must be stupid not being able to find someone a bit closer than berkshire and manchester from where i live!! (cornwall!). good luck on monday insane!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; i get to meet mark (the guy who lives in manchester, called Broken Heart on here) next friday! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    dont rule out a relationship just coz she lives far away, if you love each other you can work it out. like LUKA said to me the other day, love can conquer all - distance, race, creed, colour, money, and some other things like that that i cant remember! but you get the idea.

    if theres any chance of you being closer together sometime in the future, then its worth holding on to. and isnt it better to have someone far away than no one at all? well actually it can drive you insane sometimes if you just want to reach out and give that person a hug.. but i think its worth it.

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Suppose i live quite close then really. He's in Mablethorpe at the mo, and i am in Stamford. He is thinking about saving up and moving to DOncaster to be near his kids in Sheffield. I too have family in sheffield and we have talked about moving to Doncaster at some point in the future. When we are settled in our own minds. We're in no rush and things are going really well at the moment anyway.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    glad to hear things are going well at the mo mandi <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Time for a Lukaism <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    I think i can plead cases for both the pros and cons of Net relationships.

    I'll start with the negative because it's better to get rid of the crap first. I met someone from cleveland in 97/98 through AOL and things went swimmingly and we slowly started to get a bit lovey dovey during chat and phone calls, then one day out of the blue she said I'll be at Gatwick airport on the x of x (can't remember) but she was so different, she was just gaging for a shag and would chuck in the words i love you occasionally, i became bessoted with the idea of being in love. On the 23rd of December 1998 I proposed to her 24 hrs before I was due to return bak to the uk having spent 2 weeks with her I blew pretty much my redundancy package on that trip and the ring. Whilst we were have a session that evening following some upsetting sexual dysfunction (by and for me) I discovered she'd had some love balls inserted (excuse my candidness) to cut a long story shorter, I kinda new that moment it should be, 2 months later I had a letter from her followed by a phonecall telling me she'd slept with another man whilst we'd been apart and when was I going to move out to the us. It turns out she'd slept with half a dozen different guys in that 2 months. She was surprised when i told her I hoped the ring would cause internal damage as she shoves it up her ass. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; so things can go bad with net relationships.

    But having said that i have met someone through the depression alliance who is so totally different, understand my illness, understands certain things I can do and can not do, accepts my love unconditonally returns unconditional love, drives 4 1/2 hrs down south to spend time with me, has even joined this site <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">) and more importantly is open and honest with me. This has been at times overwhelming that 2 people can be so alike, but maybe the net is just another medium for finding soulmates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Love and peace
    LUK

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you have to be REALLY careful though... that cute 18-yr girl you THINK you are talking to could be a leery 50yr old bloke...

    It's something unpredictable
    But in the end is right
    I hope you had the time of your life
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Button:
    you have to be REALLY careful though... that cute 18-yr girl you THINK you are talking to could be a leery 50yr old bloke...


    Yes Emma <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; I could be lol



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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Broken Heart:
    Yes Emma <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; I could be lol


    that may have worked before i talked to you on your webcam, me typing stuff and then seeing your reaction immediately and hearing your voice, i know you're what you say you are <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    that may have worked before i talked to you on your webcam, me typing stuff and then seeing your reaction immediately and hearing your voice, i know you're what you say you are <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



    What you don't see is that I'm really next to this guy. Its mybrother you can see. I admit though. it is my voice <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    you dont even HAVE a brother lol

    anyway i like your voice so <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; and it sooooo is you in the camera, and im gonna prove that in 8 days time! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    you dont even HAVE a brother lol

    anyway i like your voice so <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; and it sooooo is you in the camera, and im gonna prove that in 8 days time! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    Ah ha but I might. You only know what I've told you. I do have 2 half brother <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; put em together and I have 1.


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm really Bob the builder, I'm 63 next week and I can't remember what sex I am coz I'm senile.

    (But don't tell anyone, peeps in the street and at college think I'm called Matt, 17 and male)

    Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
    I'm the rest!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've found my true love and it was the Internet that helped me find her. So right now.. I have nothing but kudos for Internet relationships.

    And I know I'm very very lucky. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I know tomorrow brings the consequence at hand, but I keep living this day like the next will never come.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Easy T:
    I've found my true love and it was the Internet that helped me find her. So right now.. I have nothing but kudos for Internet relationships.

    And I know I'm very very lucky. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    hmm.. maybe we should rememeber Rizzo in our prayers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    help me but dont tell me to deny it, i done wrong and i wanna suffer for my sins.

    ©lovely freaks
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess I could be wrong bout what I have said ...
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    LUK

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • JsTJsT Posts: 18,268 Skive's The Limit
    Yor wrong!!

    LUKA

    they work


    for a bit

    then dont

    sort of


    a bit

    whatever

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by JsT:
    Yor wrong!!

    LUKA

    they work


    for a bit

    then dont

    sort of


    a bit

    whatever


    Whatever, you clearly and I know for a fact know you don't know why I posted a reply like that (cuz only a few close friends do and will know)and I don't give a toss whether you think I'm right or wrong cuz you knowjack schit.

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have really mixed opinions on this one.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by IcKleMoNSteR:
    hmm.. maybe we should rememeber Rizzo in our prayers <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    as long as it's not susan. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    I know tomorrow brings the consequence at hand, but I keep living this day like the next will never come.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    mandi7810, yeah i ahve met some1 off the net (kris) and well u cant exactly say it worked as we are enemies now! but that is only because he met up with his cousin on the date and well all i can say is i fancied the arse off his cousin (jamie)and well me and jamie have been together 4 a year on the 28th! so i suppose alot of good came out of the whole thing!
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by LUKA:
    I guess I could be wrong bout what I have said ...
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
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    LUK

    i dont think relationships fail becuuse people meet on the internet, its just another way of meeting people with common interests and beliefs. relationships just end in the same way any do, its not because of the way you meet. i suppose the distance can contribute, but you can get over that if you want to make it work. i think the net is a better way of meeting someone than in a club, where you just base it all on appearance, and you get to know people far better on the internet than somewhere like a club.

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've met loads of blokes in clubs and 99.99999% of them were complete and utter W******, so i'll have to agree with you there!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by mandi7810:
    I was just wondering of anyone had ever met anyone on the net, and if so did it work?
    it worked for my dad and hes really happy but i cant really say its worked for me !!!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i would strongly recomend a few things
    *go wiv a freind - or 2,
    *make sure there are loads of peeps there
    *dont giv out address 2 u meet

    first of all my mum always says that she thinks people who meete peeps off chat rooms have sum thing 2 hide sumthing, but wot the hell i go on em!! u do get weirdo's on the net n u tend 2 hear bout the bad story rather then the bad one so i would say its worth a try if u r deffo positive, as 4 workin out i dunt matter on how u met but if u personality match

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