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Can loneliness be the foundation of a healthy relationship?
JustV
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Everyone has times where they feel lonely. Maybe you're not in a relationship but would like to be, maybe your social life is a little too quiet, or maybe your partner has gone away. Whether it's romantic, sexual, or platonic, loneliness is something we all experience from time to time. And that desire for company is often what brings people together and creates new relationships.
But do you think loneliness can be the only reason for going into a new relationship?
Keen to hear what y'all think.
All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
The truth resists simplicity.
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Like people get from relationships of ; sharing their happiness with someone else, gettig attention & affection off someone else, because they like the person and how that person makes them feel, & like sex and warmth, & caring for someone else,
Ect — And think all that sort of stuff comes down to the fact someone may feel lonely and alone. I dunno.
But who knows, maybe it would turn into something else. Who am I to talk... So many different people and different situations. For me it would be wrong, but maybe another person might get something good out of going into a relationship without too much connection and just seeing how it goes, instead of thinking this is their big love.
but like i think untimiatly feeling alone would maybe make relationship better. Cause humans need all that interation otherwise will be feeling lonely But then again i dont think its healthy to alone in the realtionship - in the sense that the person has 0 friends while in a relationship cause then that may get suffocating and need it from more than just one person idk
Ive also wondered that some people dont know the difference between a guy liking them vs them actually liking the guy back (for example). And i rememeber dating the first guy that said they liked me. Even tho i didnt even like him but conviced myself i did. Some people are constantly like that tho. And i wonder if that is cause of lonlieness. Cause are ‘desperate’ but maybe arent even aware or “know” theyre purposely getting into relationship for those reasons
That probably doesnt make sense
Ines was left her villa, but no income so had to get work, and in Spain where the minimum living wage is pitifully low, hit on hard times. Since we've been together, Ines rents her villa out and the income is very good. So all in all, she and I have a loving relationship, work together while our girls school happily together at home.
It's a nice arrangement. Now my bed & breakfast has been officially set up as a business and passed all safety regulations it provides us with a steady income and our lives are harmonious. Since I got sick recently with diabetes that we knew was going to eventually happen, my one aunt and her partner are staying locally to help run our business while I'm taking a day at a time. To be happy and living in harmony takes effort and not get in each other's space, but we are managing well. Financially, at last things are looking far better and though a steady income should never be put central in a relationship, it is important to have several means of earning it including music. It seems at last my life is coming back together, and my best friend Ines is no longer unhappy. Our lives came together at exactly the right time in the right place. Nothing was planned, love just happened to blossom.
I think honestly loneliness can be just part of a new relationship blossoming but as the sole reason I think it's honestly a tiny bit selfish, if my current relationship was purely because we were both lonely it never would have worked, there needs to be a love and friendship there not just because you need someone to talk to.
I think in those low lonely moments you can reach out to and meet new people and friendships or relationships can become of this, but it's not healthy if that's the only reason.
Getting into a relationship even though you don't have much of a connection is very unhealthy and maybe even really mean and selfish to other person depending on if that relationship means something to them.
I hated to actively seek a relationship purely out of loneliness and I'm glad nothing came my way because although with the right person relationships are nice, they're still hard work and require a lot of give and take.
I couldn't imagine what would of happened if i went Into one unprepared or not ready.
So overall can loneliness blossom onto better things like friendships and relationships? Sure! But it can't be the sole reason.
You need to learn to enjoy your company and love yourself first x