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Asking THE girl out
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Hi my names Andy, and this is my first post on this site. I would be greatful if you could help me with this trivial problem!!
Well there's this girl at college in the same class as me. I was first attracted to her on my first day at college which was in sept. Anyway, I'm a pretty shy guy, espeacially with girls, and am trying to think of a way to ask her out basically. I havent really spoken to her, so I am trying to find the right moment to speak to her. She seems similar to me; fairly quiet, not loud. And doesn't say too much, so basically I'm asking what any of you guys or girls would do. Seeing as Valentines comeing up soon, do you think I should start the ball rolling that way? I know it's the most common and easy problem, but it's starting to get frustrating!!
Anyway, any help would be much appreciated.
Andy
Well there's this girl at college in the same class as me. I was first attracted to her on my first day at college which was in sept. Anyway, I'm a pretty shy guy, espeacially with girls, and am trying to think of a way to ask her out basically. I havent really spoken to her, so I am trying to find the right moment to speak to her. She seems similar to me; fairly quiet, not loud. And doesn't say too much, so basically I'm asking what any of you guys or girls would do. Seeing as Valentines comeing up soon, do you think I should start the ball rolling that way? I know it's the most common and easy problem, but it's starting to get frustrating!!
Anyway, any help would be much appreciated.
Andy
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your time has come!!
make that move---just a card perhaps--but definately do it....
good luck mate
cheekytrickster
I used to have your exact same problem. After a certain amoung of time of being hopelessly single I thought to myself "fuck it, what have I got to lose?"
If you think that to yourself then you'll do fine. Don't bother with any of this valentines crap, chances are if she is nice looking another lad will seize that moment for himself, you dont want that do you? Make the first move as quickly as possible, and make it blunt. The blunter it is the less chance you have of fucking up, but first off only ask her if she would like to go out with you somewhere, like the cinema or something, that way you can get to know each other better first.
All the best, if you need anymore help just ask.
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Thanks alot for the help, I have been saying to my self 'what have I got to lose?' so I really think I will ask her out. But,!! what do you reackon I should say? I don't know the first thing about her, except her names Amy, and that she studies art subjects.Do you think I should talk to her when there's other people about, or When she leaves to go home or something, do you think I should catch her up???
Anyway, I'm terrible at reading girls signs!! I'm quite sure she might of heared me say to my friend 'I wonder if Amy's here today?' You see, I think she walked past as I said it, but I didn't see her... My friend did!!
And once we were waiting to show the lecturer some work for a while, and suddenly she turned her body directly towards me. Now I don't know wheather she was just uncomfortable in the other position, givin out one of those signs!
Oh, I remember, I did speak to her once, briefly. I had to say something, so I said, in the dark room, 'Do you know how the dryier works?' She told me in a really nice way, but I got dragged called away by the teacher, which was a bit of a bugger!!
Anyway... You know.. Any extra help welcome!
I think I will soon, just dont know WHAT to say!!!
Well, Cheers
Andy
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
I think every girl on the planet knows this, but guys just don't have a clue!!!!
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Good luck with this girl, just go for it!!! I'd do it by urself, if she's wiv mates its gonna make things harder and put more pressure on u and u mite get embarrassed. Just w8 4 her after skool 1 day <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
just approach her in a class...get talking, smile a lot, laugh at somethings she says, and pay a lot of attention to what she says! i hate it when guys don't and they pretend they do - and that's cuz they're too busy looking at some other girl down the corrider! whatever u do...don't do that. eye contact is very important!
if she does art...tell her that u would love to do it, so since she does it, can she tell u something about the subject? then if things are going ok...say something like, i think ur really smart...why not share some of that intelligence with me over a coffee after school sometime?? hehe...or am i being too 4ward??
definitely talk to her 1 on 1...breaktime...walk her home. whatever. if other people are around it'll make both of u nervous and might muck things up.
just be cool...and friendly. if her hair is nice...say it. or even if it wasn't nice that particular day...say it anyway!! hehe!! girls are a sucker for compliments. just don't over do it!!
am i wise???
goodluck!!!
Go for it andy you sound well sweet. I met the nicest guy at the pub a few weeks ago and the thing that made me really like him was the compliments, little cheeky ones but sincere at the same time. And also, try to find out stuff about her. The ultimate bit of info would be a phone number. If she has a mobile that can be a great way to start the ball rolling - you can text her, I'm hoping you have one too! Thats how me and Tony got things started after meeting in the pub. Or phone her house - girls like phonecalls...well I do anyway! Try to think up things to say to her before you ring - and even write them down!
Quite a topical conversation could be new year - what you did what she did... ask her if she had a good day - so simple but I always appreciate it. And listen to what she says about her day. If she says it was crap ask why and be sympathetic - dumb little obvious things..
Above all - be yourself.
Goodluck!!
Dee x
I know this sounds dumb, but what would be your first line that you would say to her if you were in my posistion. I'm guessing 'Hi', but maybe the next bit...
What about... 'your in my photograpy class arn't you?'
or maybe not!
or..
Hi, is your name Amy?...'
Hows that sound? I suppose it would lead on to me saying my name etc...
Be a bit of a supprise if she said 'No, my name's 'Bill', or somthing!!
So, you think I should follow her when she leaves the class room to go home, catch up with her(I think she gets the train), and maybe go the same way, say i'm going to see my nan or someone. Or would that feel more like harasment to her...
I don't know. I'm going to do it though. Maybe tommorow.
Any way thanks for the advice so far!!
Andy
Yeh catch her after school n go 'hey, amy..yeh?' like u know her name - cos its gonna b obvious u do.. then mayyybe you could say I think u go home the way i have to go today...would u mind if i travel with you?' praps somethin like that?
thenu could arrange to meet her after school to walk to the train...
ohh i'm so excited for u!
keep us posted <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Dee x
Well if I do do it tomorrow, it's going to be along day. I've got a lesson in the morning 9.00-10.30. Then my photography lesson starts at 1.00 - 4.30. But you can leave when you like, so I better keep an eye on her so I know when she's leaving. That's if shes there tomorrow!!
The thing is, I havn't actually taken any pictures for our asignment, which means I'll have absolutley nothingto do!! If it all goes to plan, i'll end up somewhere miles away from where i live. I know shes not too close because she doesn't get on the train that my friends get on back to where I live. I've got an idea where it might be where she lives but i'm not sure!!
So say I get to her station, I'll tell her that it was just an excuse to talk to her, and I suppose I could walk her home, well I'd love to, and then I'd probably have to walk miles back to the station and get the train back to my college, get on my scooter and go home! If I'm lucky I should be home by 7!!
I hope this works, and I don't get all the way to her house just to here that shes a lesbian... Although, that could be quite interesting! But not what I want.
I suppose I should try and get her mobile number, and ask her out during the week to go see a movie, or go for a drink in the pub.
I hope it works!!!!!!!!!!!
I soooooo badly want her! (You've propbably already gathered that by now), but I'm getting close to thinking..'What The hell, go for it, if she says no, she says no, but if she says YES!!, excellent. After all, what is life all about.... Love? No love, No sex, No Babies, No more world. Mmmm I might use that for my signature!!
Cheers
Andy
j9
I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.
MTS ^5
did ya?
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
On a sorta more personal note, my mate is going through this exact same scenario (except only at work). I'm trying to convince him to make a move!
Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
I'm the rest!!
Get to Photography class on Monday, but the only thing is, she wasn't there. Typical, anyway, decided to go into Kingston with a mate. While we were there, We saw two girls who used to be in my primary school, infact, one of them used to be my girlfriend there. (If you can call it that).
Now my friend has another class where Amy is in it. This lesson fineshes at 4:30. So I told him to text me if she's there. My last class fineshed around 1.30pm, so I had a lot of waiting to do. Anyway when Half 4 came, I saw my friend but I couldn't find her. She might have gone to see a teacher or somthing. Anyway, I don't know if she comes in tomorrow, so I'll wait till Thursday morning when I next have photograpy class. When she leaves for her next lesson I do it!! Or I'll try and talk to her if she is alone during the lessen. (Mmmmm, in the darkroom perhaps!)
Andy
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then...
Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
I'm the rest!!
make sure u tell us what happens...we hate to be kept waiting too! especially me...it's such a psychological torture!!
dark room huh?? riiigggghtttt ... i get that...
or am i going overboard? hehe...as usual!
i dont mind waiting. dark room...best place in school for a quickie. can lock the door, turn the lights off and ours is sound proof lol!
I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
turtle...im glad u don't mind waiting as it's not a pleasant thing. but some people find it real difficult. just glad that u don't...it's not a nice feeling! hehe!
hope u had fun with ur experiences in the dark room!!
need i ask ?? hehe...
Well, if I could have volunteer from teh crowd...
I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
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Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
So, I'll try and talk a bit more and try and ask her out then.
Looks pretty good so far...
andy
j9
I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.
MTS ^5
Wouldn't it be funny if Amy signed up to this exact board and started asking for advice on what she should do about this guy called Andy who was nice to her today... hee hee. At least if that happened we could all put in a good word for you Andy!!
Not getting caught is only half the fun!!
I'm the rest!!