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I spoke to him!!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Well i spoke to the dad of my child(my ex) he phoned me up and asked if he could come round cause we needed to talk, so we did! He said he knew he was wrong doing what he did, she came on to him and before he could push her away she was on him!I dont know if i should believe that!But he said "the baby deserves the right to be in his life as well as mine" hes got a point but what if i let him back in my life and he does this again?! Im confused! Should i take him back and give him another chance for the babies sake, or do i tell him to get lost??
HELP ME OUT!
Love GrizzlyB <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do you love him?

    j9
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When you say take him back, do you mean as a just a friend or as something more?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe u shud just b friends - a relationship could really complicate the thing with the baby. Y'know just see how u get on, and if after a while u think u shud get bak 2gether then go 4 it.

    don't let this guy screw u up - there's too much @ stake now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Bin thinkin of names yet???
    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh and i think u shud think about lettin him b involved - financially, emotionally. It's ultimately ur decision, but wud u like growin up up wivout a dad?
    Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree drifter, I mean he can still be around without actually going out with u cant he? My ex (father of my baby) went behind my back but that wasnt the only reason we split up, it was a bit more than that considereing he was very forcefull with my friend and scared the absolute crap outta her...but anyway! I was willing to still have him around coz I thought it was important for the sake of the child, but it was gonna b on my terms. I didnt think it was fair for him to be able to see the baby whenever he wanted etc etc yet not give me apenny towards the child. So it was basically all down to him helping me out financially, which he said he would do...but hasnt! Theres more to it than that, but its the basic jist of it and now he couldnt give a crap (not that he ever did anyway!).
    Just thought Id let u no that grizzley, coz its kinda similar. If I thought he was trutworthy and that he really cared then Id try harder to get him to strick around, unfortunatly I no thats not the case. But I think its so sad that my child dont have a father that really cares, if I could change it I would, but unfortunatly there is nothing I can do. I think if this boy is offering his help u would b silly not to accept it, coz u r gonna need it and so will your baby.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if hes done it once he'll do it again, itsd not only u u have to consider now, its baby aswell. lollys situation seems to b working, try that. if u remain friends then mayb ur trust will grow again 4 him and u might end up 2gether, dont rush in 2 it. good luck
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