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Struggling

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
in Health & Wellbeing
Struggling so much with my mental health right now. the voices and intrusive thoughts just keep getting stronger, i know it's always worse this time of year, usually i manage it, but not this year. i'm either at work or at home in bed, i have no social life just now and not sure if i want one. i really don't know what to do anymore. i wish more than anything there was some magic wand that could make this all go away. im starting to cope with the flashbacks again but thats the only positive. i wish i could tell people whats going on but im so scared theyll just ship me off to hospital again, and i cant go back. i dont really know what im expecting to get from this post. i guess it might just help to get it out there, also does anyone have some good distraction techniques that might help? im willing to try anything.

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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Hey
    Sorry youre stuggling so much right now. I dont have many good long term distractions. I suppose just your hobbies could help. But one thing i do in times of very intense moments. Is i count backwards from 100 in twos. If that makes sense like 100,98, ect. Mean can be quite hard in those moments but even trying to focus - on trying to do soemthing - may help. I was a bit sceptical too when i was suggested but i dunno it helps me sometimes
    Or use your self care, distraction box thing!
    Sorry im not much help.
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Hey Shaunie,
    unfortunately i dont really have any hobbies, there's not much I can do or feel up to doing. Ill try the counting thing, but it's hard to concentrate when I feel so low. I've tried my distraction box but again it'd concentration. When get so low all i do is lie in bed paralyzed by my emotions.
    thanks for the suggestion, I'll try give it a go.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,014 Supreme Poster
    Hey bubbles,

    I'm sorry to hear you're struggling again at the moment. I can't really offer you any real adivce, but I noticed in your post that you said you had got through this in previous years.

    I just wanted to say this - you've done it before, you can do it again. I believe in you, you've got through this before. That shows me that you're a very very strong person.

    Please continue to be as strong as you can - I know you can do it!

    Also, you're not alone - we're all here to listen to you so well done for posting.

    Take care,

    -Eleanor
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator Posts: 991 Part of The Mix Family
    Hi Bubbles.

    A lot of people tend to struggle around this time of year regardless of what they're dealing with so it's definitely understandable that you're feeling rough at the moment. You said you're worried to bring this up with anyone, is there someone in your life you can confide with without having to worry? Having a support network to rely on during rough patches can be great, and you might find it helpful to talk to someone one to one anonymously.

    As for distraction techniques if you're having trouble concentrating on counting or breathing exercises you might find it useful to listen to some relaxing music online, or even just calming sound effects (whale noises, waves crashing etc). There's nothing wrong with taking a bit of downtime to decompress if you need to.

    I hope this helps.

    - Riley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    Hey bubbles,

    I'm sorry to hear you're struggling again at the moment. I can't really offer you any real adivce, but I noticed in your post that you said you had got through this in previous years.

    I just wanted to say this - you've done it before, you can do it again. I believe in you, you've got through this before. That shows me that you're a very very strong person.

    Please continue to be as strong as you can - I know you can do it!

    Also, you're not alone - we're all here to listen to you so well done for posting.

    Take care,

    -Eleanor

    thank you. I really needed this :heart::heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Riley wrote: »
    Hi Bubbles.

    A lot of people tend to struggle around this time of year regardless of what they're dealing with so it's definitely understandable that you're feeling rough at the moment. You said you're worried to bring this up with anyone, is there someone in your life you can confide with without having to worry? Having a support network to rely on during rough patches can be great, and you might find it helpful to talk to someone one to one anonymously.

    As for distraction techniques if you're having trouble concentrating on counting or breathing exercises you might find it useful to listen to some relaxing music online, or even just calming sound effects (whale noises, waves crashing etc). There's nothing wrong with taking a bit of downtime to decompress if you need to.

    I hope this helps.

    - Riley


    hey riley.
    there's no one I can talk to really, whenever I talk about my mental health my friends and family go into panic mode and i don't need that. I dont want to talk to my care team about it cause of the fear of going inpatient again, and cause don't want to cry in front of them either. Thanks for the distraction things, ill give them a go over the weekend, if off work so hoping to relax before I go back to caring for my grandparents on monday :heart:
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