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Guideline change: eating issues
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Hey everyone,
We recently updated our chat guidelines when it comes to talking about eating, food and body image. Previously, we've always had this guideline:
With this previous guideline, talking fairly in-depth about things like 'binging', 'purging' or other behaviours have been allowed during group chats as they weren't really covered under this guideline. However, we know that mentions of methods and behaviours can be quite triggering and make people feel uncomfortable, and ultimately take the focus away from what's important - the feelings and emotions behind them.
What's changed about this guideline?
In the interests of keeping the room as safe, comfortable and supportive for everyone as possible, we added this blue bit:
Our stance on eating issues has shifted slightly to be more in line with our stance on self-harm - focusing on feelings rather than methods or behaviours. All this means is avoiding overly-descriptive language, as well as the usual stuff like like calorie counts, weights, etc. :yes:
Hopefully that makes sense, but do post below with any comments or questions. :thumb:
Mike, Aife & James
We recently updated our chat guidelines when it comes to talking about eating, food and body image. Previously, we've always had this guideline:
The Mix wrote:Eating issues - We promote healthy eating here but not obsessive dieting. Please avoid sharing details about your specific weight, calorie counts. Instead we encourage you to focus on your feelings.
With this previous guideline, talking fairly in-depth about things like 'binging', 'purging' or other behaviours have been allowed during group chats as they weren't really covered under this guideline. However, we know that mentions of methods and behaviours can be quite triggering and make people feel uncomfortable, and ultimately take the focus away from what's important - the feelings and emotions behind them.
What's changed about this guideline?
In the interests of keeping the room as safe, comfortable and supportive for everyone as possible, we added this blue bit:
The Mix wrote:Eating issues - We promote healthy eating here but not obsessive dieting. Please avoid sharing details about your specific weight, calorie counts or any behaviours (such as what or how much you've been eating or drinking). Instead we encourage you to focus on your feelings.
Our stance on eating issues has shifted slightly to be more in line with our stance on self-harm - focusing on feelings rather than methods or behaviours. All this means is avoiding overly-descriptive language, as well as the usual stuff like like calorie counts, weights, etc. :yes:
Hopefully that makes sense, but do post below with any comments or questions. :thumb:
Mike, Aife & James
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Cause both behaviours can be seen as a self harm method anyway
And im a bit confused, is this saying we cant use the words "binging" & "purging" at all? Or?
Cause if so they are very vague words. Someomes meaning of "binge eating" could mean eating one peice of chocolate too many and someone elses meaning could be eating everything they can find until they feel sick. And there are different forms of purging. Saying purging or binging arent very descrivtive and personally i dont find them triggering unless its gone into more detail. Like reading things like "i spent all day binge eating til i couldnt breath" is something thats quite triggering and descpitive but saying "was binge eating" personally isnt. But this guidline is saying we cant even say that?
And for me its hard to say what i want without saying why i feel the way i feel. And never know what to say cause food and weight is all i can think about.
An eating disorder can be a very isolating lonely thing. Cause those methods are done secretly and being able to share it on a very vague level to others - makes me feel less alone. And hate being completly consumed by isolation by having to aviod the whole topic all together. Its rather lonely. And hard to expand on how you feel if cant say why. Not saying im not going to follow this rule, ill try but its hard to follow when i see no point in it.
But thats just my opinion
Appreciate you taking the time to write this - it's good to hear your thoughts. :chin:
We're not censoring the words 'binge' and 'purge' as such, and of course everyone can still discuss disordered eating, but context is of utmost importance. The emphasis just needs to be on feelings.
So saying something like "I've binged and purged 4 times today" wouldn't really be okay, because it's behaviour-focused, not too constructive and unnecessarily descriptive. Whereas something like "I've been really struggling with urges to binge recently" would be fine, because you're not describing physical behaviour in a way that is likely to feel spiky for others. All the info other members need to help support you is there, but there's less room for potential triggers.
Does that make sense? We're keen to allow you the space you need to express yourselves in a constructive way so you don't need to feel isolated, while also avoiding any trigger hot-spots. One-to-one chats are better for going into more detail if that's something you find therapeutic - which is of course up to you.
Mike
PS: At some point during the next few days, we'll be sharing the feedback we got from you guys about the chat guidelines. That should be a good chance to have a broader look at the guidelines and have some more conversations about them (what is/isn't okay, what everyone thinks, etc). Do look out for that thread. :yes:
Has had me confused for a good few weeks cause it sounds like the words youve quoted, on top of other things, cant be mentioned too. Like you said those words have been allowed then like now they cant. But probably just how i read it
This is actually a fair shout and I can see what you mean. I don't think it's just you - that wasn't worded in the best way! I've tweaked the original post now, which should read a little better.
Mike
So, in the ongoing quest to make our chat guidelines as clear and as easy to follow as possible, we've made another revision to the one around eating. See below for the latest version. The purple bits are most recently added, and the blue bits were added when you guys gave us your feedback a couple of weeks ago.
Any questions on the above, just comment below or drop us a PM. :thumb:
Mike
Read and understood.
Julie
Im a newbie.
i hope to join-in on the chat topic later this evening.
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