Confused and curious about being trans

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,769,851 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey, I am gay and recently ive been dressing as a woman and loving acting like a woman and i'm a bit curious about being transgender. Like i just want some peoples advice and opinions on the subject as a whole?


  • micamica Moderator Posts: 98
    Hey Kaitiiia,

    Welcome to the boards! It's great to hear that you are able to question and honour your sexuality. We have a few articles on The Mix that might be helpful and/or interesting to you about being LGBTQ. You can find them here and here. We've seen some interest by other members of the boards around LGBTQ recently, so hopefully others will chime in and give their advice/ opinions to you :)

    Have a lovely day,
    - Mica
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 649 Extreme Poster
    Sorry I can't offer you much help, I'm not homosexual myself. However, I am confused sexually as no one of any gender turns me on, although I do still imagine myself being with a woman probably for no other reason than because it's what society accepts.

    There's nothing anyone can do about their sexual orientation and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's great that you're open about it!

    Being transgender though is different entirely. It's more than a matter of sexual orientation, it's a matter of identity and who you are. A straight man could be trangender, and then be a lesbian woman. Sexual orientation plays a small part in it.

    Do you feel more comfortable as a woman? Do you feel more like yourself as a woman? If so, then go for it! But let the final decision be because of who you think you are, not because of who you wanna f**k.

    Good luck with it, hope you figure it out! : )
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,769,851 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah i do feel more comfortable as a woman, however im not very confident about going out as one. Ive never given a shit about what people think because im gay but being a woman in public kinda scares me because ive never been out as one before. I just don't know if im a little gay boy or a little straight girl xD haha
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,769,851 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Also if anyone wants to private message me whos trans id love to talk
  • LaineLaine Posts: 219 The Mix convert
    Hey there and first off welcome to the boards i hope you find them helpful :) i'm an openly trans male so i'd be more than happy to send you a message and see how i can help, it can be confusing over whether you are or not and ultimately it is up to you to work it, do you like to do it full time? :)

    🌈Positive thoughts🌈 

    "Wake me up when it's all over,  when I'm wiser and I'm older"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,769,851 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm happy to be messaged about this if you want a hand exploring gender identity - it can be super confusing.
  • JamesJames Posts: 1,708 Moderator
    Hey everyone - just a quick message to say I've moved this to our Gender & Sexuality forum.

    Worth bearing in mind too that the great thing about using open threads like this is that you can hear from lots of people.

    How are you getting on @Kaitiiia? :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,769,851 The Mix Honorary Guru

    My partner is transgender so I can offer some advice from that point of view. It's important to remember that gender is a spectrum and maybe one day you feel comfortable dressed as a woman and other days you won't.

    My partner is a binary trans person but before he came out as trans he thought he was a lesbian. I think you just need to explore your feelings, do you like men as a gay man or do you like men as a straight woman? It can be a long road to find out who you are, but keep doing what makes you happy and don't worry about a specific box to fit in for now.
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