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Thanks for your support!
So, I took the morning after pill this morning since neither of us used any protection and he had come right inside me twice, ejaculating. The other times he was in and out of me quite hard, deep, strong and first.
I'm in some physical pain though so may need to go to my local walk in centre or to a walk in appointment at my local sexual health clinic, as embarrassing as that's going to be entirely.
Hannah x
I'd definitely recommend going to the local sexual health clinic, especially since you didn't use protection. You could have caught anything.
Hey Hannah,
I am glad you enjoyed it and glad you got the morning after pill. Contraception is very important and if you choose not to use it the morning after pill can help prevent pregnancy,
You said you are thinking of going to the sexual health clinic to get checked out? I think this is a good idea Hannah. You said you are feeling nervous about going but remember this is what these clinics are for. A little pain after having sex for the first time is completely normal so you have nothing to feel embaressed about, just remember sex is a normal thing and it can be good to talk about it
I understand this is new and it can feel a little embaressing. Try calming yourself down before going to the sexual health clinic just so you feel comfortable telling them.
Best wishes, always here to talk,
LC_ x
I went to a sexual health clinic in my local area. They tested me and gave me a physical examination, it was SO VERY embarrassing. I also have to go back in a 2 weeks time, and then again in another 2 weeks after that, to be tested.
A friend/colleague had come with me.
Hannah
I enjoyed the sex and it did feel lovely, aside from this pain which I'm stuck with afterwards. HoweverI'm not sure if it was actually me consenting or whether it was my mental health me consenting or? Hope this makes sense
Hannah
When you are not sure whether it was you consenting or your mental health are you suggesting that although you enjoyed the sex you are not sure whether or not you was ready for it?
Best,
LC_ x
The appointment at the sexual health clinic was very difficult, especially the physical examination which was very embarrassing. Plus, the morning after pill didn't do my pocket any good either as it cost me just under £40!?!
The pain is still present in terms of the stinging sensations and when I go to the toilet (1).
I have been diagnosed with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder and feel that this may have had an impact upon my consent to sexual intercourse (for the first time), if this makes sense?
Hannah
The pain is still here, in a way, but I am trying to distract myself from it, you know? :S
Hannah
Hey,
That's what I mean. I have EUPD and feel that this played a big part in me consenting to the sex (for the first time, sex) however at the same time, I did enjoy it
Hannah
Yes, I have the stinging sensations and feel the constant urge to go to the toilet...
Hannah
What could it be?
We are planning our next meeting......
I would also say it would be a good idea to visit a sexual health clinic if you are still feeling sore as you may need some treatment
I guess that's true. I guess I'm not quite thinking and considering things straight at the moment, if this makes sense?
I feel it's near to impossible for me to use contraception due to lack of privacy, freedom and independence argh.
Hannah
What kind of treatment?
Head is spinning at the moment
Hannah
Treatment would depend on what the diagnosis is, if there is an issue - this could be something like an antibiotic or an antifungal - but as none of us can diagnose we can't say what the treatment would be
You can find your local sexual health clinic here: http://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-health-information-and-support/locationsearch/734
I feel like it could be a UTI in that case (although I'm no doctor). It most occurs after sex if you didn't pee afterwards (so that any bacteria could be expelled).
I do not have my own bedroom as such and my independence, privacy and freedom are very minimal. It's frustrating and adds to the stresses.
We've been talking to each other a lot and he makes me feel warm inside, I imagine our time together the other week and think I want it again with him but I don't know and it is quite confusing...
Hannah
That;s okay, I understand that you are not medical professionals, no worries at all.
I feel so confused at the moment and the urge to urinate is stinging and frequent
It stings and the urge to urinate is frequent. I am prone to UTI's and have a bladder condition too argh.
Hannah
Everything the other guys have said is totally relevant! I agree with Samantha C that it sounds like a UTI in which case there is nothing to be worried about. Of course we are not medical professions but I think it would be a good idea to go back to the doctor just to get it checked out, better to be safe than sorry
A UTI (bladder infection) is common for girls after having sex for the first time and is sometimes treated just with antibiotics
You said you do not have much privacy and freedom and you are worried about this in regards to contraception. Personally I am on the pill and keep it in my purse so nobody has to know about it, have you considered that? If not Hannah there are lots of other options such as the injection or the implant, two forms of contraception which again nobody needs to know about
Hope this helps x
Even having things in my purse or handbag can cause a problem though and it's frustrating.
I don't want to feel a condom inside me and would rather just have him inside me, despite the pain and anxiety/confusion over it.
Thanks for your support!
Hannah
I do not know what it would feel like but I want to feel him inside me-I want to feel his cum dripping inside me and I want to feel him, not the condom (Sorry if too much detail here)
Thank you for understanding so well, I really appreciate that.
I'm not sure which one as my freedom/privacy is really lacking and low so it's hard to do much, without anyone else finding out, or knowing.
Hannah
Everything I do has to have a cover story, annoyingly...
Hannah
I am having to tell these cover stories to family. yes, I do live with my parents and siblings and have yet another on the way, due in a few months time. I don't have anyone else.
im crying at the moment and head is really hurting
Still crying