getting back........

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what is everyone's view on getting back with exs? Do you reckon it works? ummm this isnt ENTIRELY hypothetic.......

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Girl-From-Mars

it CAN work, in some circumstances. i wouldnt get back with my exes tho. i mean, relationships end for a reason dont they? on the whole id say that its a bad idea.

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you have to make sure you guys have at least acknowledged the problems that broke you up in the first place and have agreed to work on them, because those who don't learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them.

but if you guys have figured it out.. the second time around can be better than the first. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

good luck dude.

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generally, if u've split for a reason that u can put a finger on, then it wont work. if u split because of some very irrational decision making, then MAYBE, rarely, occaisionally, sometimes, it's a good idea.

but really, it's a big ocean out there. ur better off looking elsewhere for a lasting relationship.

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gfm, calvin & turtle all spot on there. depends really (decisiveness once again). cant really speak from too much experience, but i wouldnt dream of going out with any of my ex's. however, a couple of my mates split up after 5 months together, stayed apart for about 2 months, then realised just how hopelessly dependent they were on one another, and how deeply they were still in love. they got back together, and have barely argued since. and that was about 2 years ago. makes me sick <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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i just broke up with my ex...for the second time!!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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My ex and I broke up because he was going away to college. He ended up moving back to wilmington a year later. i'd gone out with several people since then, but wasn't in a relationship when he got back. he hadn't gone out with anyone since we broke up. we hung out a lot, got on really well, and I wasn't sure if I fancied him or not. He made it very clear that he wanted to go out with me again, but didn't really put any pressure on me. We snuggled up a lot when we hung out and one day we ended up kissing. For some reason it just didn't feel right. Even though we hadn't broken up on bad terms, it was just too weird for me to be back with an ex. I explained this to him and he totally understood. We're really good friends still, and he still hasn't gone out with anyone since me (it's been 2 years now). I feel sorry for him, he's a great guy but for some reason things haven't worked out for him.

um... anyway, I found it way too weird to be back with an ex, but it could potentially work. Just remember why you broke up.

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I personally have never gone back out wit an ex. I've had chances but after a lot of thinking i've thought that we broke up 4 a reason & that reason probably won't change in ne way down the line.
I think if u have been apart 4 say a couple of yrs then it might work again as ppl change over a long period of time but in general, no i don't think it does work & ur better off looking else where! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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I'm trying 2 get back with my ex at the moment but he thinks we need more time apart. I really love him and I'm worried he'll find some1 else <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; I wouldnt go out with ne of my other ex's tho...eurgh lol.