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first time traumas
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me and my boyfriend are nearin stage where we both want to hav sex but i am virgin. i am wanting to do it but i am pretty damn nervous coz its all so new to me. i like the sound of stuff like a guy goin down on me and i want to pleaz him as much as he would me but it all just seems to...weird. like for instance...havin a guys penis in ur mouth and stuff. so i guess im just askin u lot to help me out by tellin me what to expect and how u overcame (pardon the pun) all the first times..like first blow job...first time guy went down on u...first hand job. cheers dears. x x
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just start out with basic thing and then work your way up to sex or blow jobs and it actually isnt that scary once you get started. just relax is the best thing i can think to say
Obviously neither of you are gonna be great but as long as you both enjoy the experience everything's sound.
When i was younger and asking advice my sisters told me to close my eyes and pretend it was a lolly pop!
Take care and above all have fun
Susie <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
First sex, well, it helped the fact that I was totally in love with my boyfriend, because, as everyone's already said, the first time is unlikely to be technically brilliant, and actually I probably wouldn't have been able to tell if it was, 'cos I still felt a bit nervous and was worrying whether I was doing it 'right' or not to properly enjoy it. It also was a bit chaotic, because for some reason I was on top (not the easiest position to start with?? A possible tip of what not to do there...) and he kept 'falling out' and I wasn't sure who's fault that was <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Edited to add just go with the flow, take your time, do things at your own speed, and you can't go far wrong. And also being able to TALK about it must help as well...
[ 13-05-2002: Message edited by: Meryn ]