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Why are girls ashamed?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Of a lot of things like masterbation, whereas guys are not. The amount of times girls say "no, i've never" makes me laugh. I mean, it is possible but incredibly unlikely. But I beleive them anyway. But I wondered why girls are very ashamed of things like that. I mean, it's not that you would tell everybody it's just that, there's nothing wrong with it girls seem to think. :/ Bah. It's werid. Why do girls get ashamed of a lot of things more easily than guys?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    anything sex related is a taboo subject and it is nature which makes females act differently to males
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not where I come from there, dirty slaaags round here, only jokin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    look at it in another way - if a girl does the opposite and treats sex like guys the r known as slags !!!

    of course its other women who call them slags when they are easier than themselves - so its other women's fault for girls being less easy

    curse u other women
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by jacaranda
    anything sex related is a taboo subject and it is nature which makes females act differently to males

    its a known fact that girls have "touched" theirselves, but y wont they let on, its a part of nature as jacaranda said.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok I'm confessing!!! Of course girls do it. If blokes can then why can't we? Its good to know your body and what turns you on. If you don't know what you like then you can't really complain when a bloke doesn't know.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ugh, I've said it before and I'll say it again, a lot of girls don't admit to it because as soon as you do a whole group of lads just don't seem to forget it and you get them teasing you for something really fucking stupid. 'Omg, do you finger yourself?! OMG EVERYONE!!! OMG, let me finger/touch/whatever you!!!'.

    So, it's the guys fault, if you lot weren't so fucking immature about shit like this, maybe they'd actually say. :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by jacaranda
    anything sex related is a taboo subject and it is nature which makes females act differently to males

    What the? No. Maybe when you're really young. But guys I know were only ever twats about the whole touching yourself shit when we were younger. :p

    As we got older it's like, no one cares. :/

    That's how it was with my friends anyway.

    And we all merrily talk about sex anyway. :p Sometimes I don't think you've hung out with a big group of girls. :| Even when we're around all the guys, like, yeah, no one cares. Sex blah!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I do it, I'm not ashamed about it, but I would be embarrassed to talk about it. I think that's the difference - guys masturbating is just a topic of conversation for them, and something natural, and it can be a joke or whatever... girls just don't talk about it, because it's something private. Maybe we just have more of a sense of privacy? :confused:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im a fella and i masterbate, most fellas do it and are more open about talkign about it, i think fellas are confortable about talking about it. i dont know the reasoning about why girls arent more open but hey its thier problem.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In the past it was down to social conditioning-in Victorian times if you were a woman and was caught at it your husband could arrange to have your clitoris removed, you could be put in an insane asylum and if you were un married could even be sterilised as punishment. These days though I think its because lots of girls just like to keep some things private. I'll discuss sex generally with my close friends but I don't discuss my sex life (whether it involves two people or one) in great detail because I think its nice to keep some things private and personal.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :lol: girls r different from fellas! im a fella and i can talk openly about wankin, but as i say girl r different form fellas!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This topic always comes up when all my mates are sauced and playin truth or dare... I know for a fact that most of my girl mates lie about it.
    Tis funny, cause I'm so good at shocking people! I will and do openly talk about masturbation at the most inappropriate times :lol:
    I like to be open about my sexuality to all my friends, male and female, because you never know when any of them could become more than a friend. I find that it helps me get a grounding in a relationship when they already know my boundaries and aren't jumping in head first, so to speak.
    I'm always open about stuff like this which I think is a good thing :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by girl with sharp teeth
    actually, quite a few girls who say they haven't really haven't.

    most girls i know tell the truth when they say either they do or they don't.
    Exactly!
    Ive talked about it quite openly with some of my female friends, and some do it regularly and always have, and some dont do it at all. I didnt even try it till i was 16, it didnt occur to me that I could! I thought only boys could wank, and for girls I thought it would mean fingering themselves, which didnt do much for me. It took till i had actually had sex a few times for me to know what sort of thing i liked and to have some idea of the fun i could have! I think LOADS of girls dont do it, and they really should.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well ive tried it but it doesnt do that much for me, i dont know why?so its lucky im not a lesbian because id b shite:p so ye ive tried didnt like so i dont actually finger myself! yes i am the weird one:crazyeyes
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nowt wrong with you hunny! Everyone is different. If you don't like something and it doesn't feel good then don't do it!:)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ugh, I've said it before and I'll say it again, a lot of girls don't admit to it because as soon as you do a whole group of lads just don't seem to forget it and you get them teasing you for something really fucking stupid. 'Omg, do you finger yourself?! OMG EVERYONE!!! OMG, let me finger/touch/whatever you!!!'.


    All you male mates quite mature then?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you can kinda tell the girls that don't touch themselves from the ones that do, They are less likely to be fun in the sack and have that "caught in the headlights" look about em when they are naked :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Felix Da Housecat
    All you male mates quite mature then?

    Was I talking about my mates? No. :p Random guys in lower school. You're not trying to tell me that a load of boys in school aren't gonna be idiotic, pervy or tease when a girl tells them something like that?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why would a boy ask a girl whether she masturbated or not unless they were going out with her? seems weird and incredibly immature. .
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    why would a boy ask a girl whether she masturbated or not unless they were going out with her? seems weird and incredibly immature. .

    Kids are like that though. :p Maybe I've just gone to strange schools that are full of strange guys. :|
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    why would a boy ask a girl whether she masturbated or not unless they were going out with her? seems weird and incredibly immature. .
    You don't know many 13-16 yr olds boys I take it? (which isn't a bad thing)

    I was like that at that age (I've not changed much really) ;):p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless
    You don't know many 13-16 yr olds boys I take it? (which isn't a bad thing)

    I was like that at that age (I've not changed much really) ;):p
    no, just my 14 yr old step brother, but needless to say he hasnt asked ROFL.
    When I was at school I wasnt ever asked that, but people used to ask whether people were virgins etc.
    What I dont get is in the original post, it was implying that hed asked girls and theyd denied it, but he didnt believe them! If he is assuming that all girls masturbate, then why ask???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    no, just my 14 yr old step brother, but needless to say he hasnt asked ROFL.
    When I was at school I wasnt ever asked that, but people used to ask whether people were virgins etc.
    What I dont get is in the original post, it was implying that hed asked girls and theyd denied it, but he didnt believe them! If he is assuming that all girls masturbate, then why ask???
    I found it a two way thing at school. The girls would ask us blokes at school if we wanked (Depending on my age at the time, I'd either lie or tell em the truth)

    *I Think once I reached 15, I was telling the truth to girls*

    But whenever I asked them if they fingered themselves, they'd look at each other and quickly say no! :p

    I believe the reason for asking is learning about the other sex. I had seen a lot of pornos by the time I was 14 and just thought most birds touched themselves like that!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Harmless
    I believe the reason for asking is learning about the other sex. I had seen a lot of pornos by the time I was 14 and just thought most birds touched themselves like that!
    I think thats funny in a way, I remember joking with my friend about the way girls masturbate in pornos, and its so over the top, touching boobs, groaning and squealing etc, and how different it is in real life. Do you think that watching lots of porn before youd had sex, gave you unrealistic expectations of what women are actually like, or what they enjoy? I sometimes think this is the only problem with porn, it gives guys unrealistic images.The actresses are just performing what guys want to see, and for girls, it makes them think thats how they should be acting, it takes something away from girls own natural sexuality, if you know what I mean?. Maybe this is a bit deep for the sex forum, I dont know???
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    I think thats funny in a way, I remember joking with my friend about the way girls masturbate in pornos, and its so over the top, touching boobs, groaning and squealing etc, and how different it is in real life. Do you think that watching lots of porn before youd had sex, gave you unrealistic expectations of what women are actually like, or what they enjoy? I sometimes think this is the only problem with porn, it gives guys unrealistic images.The actresses are just performing what guys want to see, and for girls, it makes them think thats how they should be acting, it takes something away from girls own natural sexuality, if you know what I mean?. Maybe this is a bit deep for the sex forum, I dont know???

    Nah not too deep although would make a new thread!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DaisyChainThing
    Ugh, I've said it before and I'll say it again, a lot of girls don't admit to it because as soon as you do a whole group of lads just don't seem to forget it and you get them teasing you for something really fucking stupid. 'Omg, do you finger yourself?! OMG EVERYONE!!! OMG, let me finger/touch/whatever you!!!'.

    So, it's the guys fault, if you lot weren't so fucking immature about shit like this, maybe they'd actually say. :p

    :yes: :yes: :yes: Sooo cannot agree enough! You've got it spot on. Though i have to say, amongst my mates, when they asked when i was a lil younger, i didnt deny that i do it. I dont see the point. They only took the piss outta the girls that said "I've NEVER done that in my LIFE!" cause it just makes them think "hmm.... BUUUUULLSHIIIIIIIT!"
    That just makes it worse for them. Its annoying though because its not always something girls wanna talk about with blokes. I try to be open about such things, but sometimes you just think "ah shuddup" lol :p
    Hmm.... i'm rambling
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rainbow brite
    I think thats funny in a way, I remember joking with my friend about the way girls masturbate in pornos, and its so over the top, touching boobs, groaning and squealing etc, and how different it is in real life. Do you think that watching lots of porn before youd had sex, gave you unrealistic expectations of what women are actually like, or what they enjoy?
    I sometimes think this is the only problem with porn, it gives guys unrealistic images.The actresses are just performing what guys want to see, and for girls, it makes them think thats how they should be acting, it takes something away from girls own natural sexuality, if you know what I mean?. Maybe this is a bit deep for the sex forum, I dont know???

    Yes, I understand fully, and sadly porn duped me into believing some unrealistic things about girls and sex. Luckily now, with age and little worldly experience with the fairer sex, I've managed to sort out the harm porn did to my little fragile mind!:p

    I think this does really need to be made into a new thread, but to answer your question about porn given me unrealistic expectations about sex, I have to say yes! Big time. But as I've said, I have corrected them now
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not ashamed to admit I masturbate,it's my body right?But its a VERY personal thing for girls,why does everybody have to know your business?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DaisyChainThing
    Ugh, I've said it before and I'll say it again, a lot of girls don't admit to it because as soon as you do a whole group of lads just don't seem to forget it and you get them teasing you for something really fucking stupid. 'Omg, do you finger yourself?! OMG EVERYONE!!! OMG, let me finger/touch/whatever you!!!'.

    So, it's the guys fault, if you lot weren't so fucking immature about shit like this, maybe they'd actually say. :p

    woohoo agreeing!!!...

    im not one of those people, im pretty open, but the girls i know who dont admit it to blokes its for that reason~amongst other girls,were pretty open!
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