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How many of you could say 100 % you would never cheat on them?
Just Curious.
I wouldn't do anything without Chris's consent.;)
Just Curious.
I wouldn't do anything without Chris's consent.;)
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So have you asked him yet then, cos I'm still waiting
Seriously, have done in the past. Without their knowledge.
Did she have a whip?!
Lol
Do i assume that this was with your current partner? What makes someone want to stray?
If a relationship isnt working why not just sort it or end it? this is something i don't understand.
I'm not having a go by no means just would like to hear some honest reasons etc.
Probably best to behave myself I think
Yeah but if you could get away with it, would you?
No.
Unless in exceptional circumstances.
Yes.
Tough to say. Many things, together with an opportunity. I'm not going to criticise her here, because that would be unfair and you would only get one side of the story, but being unhappy in a relationship can be a result of several things.
Would that it were so simple.
There's a comfort zone, the fear of what would happen if you left. Children. Financial commitments. A feeling that inspite of al lthe shit, there is still a level of love there. It may not be the passion of youth, but you cannot live with someone for so long without caring.
Damn, I could go into so much detail. Put this way - I don't regret what have done, am doing, will do. I can look myself in the eye and say that it took a lot to get me to the stage where I felt the need for physical comfort elsewhere.
Like if she said she'd cheated on me, and she gave me permission to cheat on her to get my own back. Or something like that.
OK, that aint ever gonna happen, but I dunno.
I can't see a situatuation where I would. The guilt would fuck me up as much as anything else to be honest, and I really wouldn't want to lose her :no:
i really am trying hard to stop it though :yes:
I know there is comfort zone, i was with my ex for 6 years & i wasn't happy. I came to realise though that it wasn't what i wanted.
In the past i kinda cheated on my ex, but now i wouldn't so i can sympathise with both sides. I know the feeling that makes you feel like you need to get it somewhere else even if you aren't looking.
But surely you know that although you love that person, if they were to find out what you have been doing, it would destroy them more than if you went your separate ways?
Does it not bother you knowing you could have the sex & comfort from the "right" person?
Thats fair enough
What if they don't want to stray but they're the most drunk they have ever been in their life (their own fault tho) and someone takes advantage?
Most of the time it's been when I am drunk, feeling low, pissed off at my boyfriend for some reason, and it's mainly just physical.
It's not worth doing it, unless you are a person with no conscience you will feel horrible about yourself.
I have been going out with someone for a few weeks now and during this time have done various stuff with other blokes. I do think to some extent that at the start of a relationship it's different, but I am not proud of myself, especially when you think that he can see it in your face, or that you are going to accidentally blurt something out.
Part guilty, part not giving that much of a shit.
I think once you have been hurt yourself in a relationship, you can put up a protective shield and act like a bitch first, you want to be the one in control so you can't be hurt again.
And so it ends up being a cycle with people getting hurt.
True, but being drunk does stop someone saying no.
Hmm, I'm not sure. Either way will involve a lot of heartache.
Yes. I thought that I'd found it a couple of years ago. Unfortunately the other person didn't.
Hell, I thought I'd found it 15 years ago, but we don't seem to have it anymore...
But don't get me wrong. It isn't just about sex, it's about physical things like a hug if I'm down, someone who I can talk to where we have more in common, becuase - due to life - we have grown apart.
You know, I used to laugh about the "she doesn't understand me" jokes, but to be honest I now know what that means...
Not necessarily, but it makes it much more difficult I reckon.
That's why I don't really like going on a night out without her nowadays, just incase I have one too many and the worst comes to the worst.
It's weird :eek2:
It's been done to me before BIG-TIME and completely destroyed me. Don't think I would have the heart to do it to someone.
Infact I once phoned up a g/f finished with her over the phone at 3am so I could go away with someone at a party.
So no, I never have and never will.
People have no excuses for straying, sorry but I feel very strongly on this. Id never like to be cheated on as im sure many of you would not, so dont do it to anyone else...............end of story
There was no one real reason apart from stupidity, and a number of other things within my relationship that I wasn't able to face up to like the adult I was. The other person wasn't the reason for the problems, they just were a way for me to run away from them.
I feel like a heartless bitch now whenever I think about it.
Yay, someone who agrees with me.
Maybe more difficult, but not impossible, i really don;t see it as an excuse. If you want to be faithfull you can, simple.
Yes it is that simple, if you truely love someone, then you would never want to hurt them.
Thats what i think anyway.
Someone else who agrees with you.