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Wants me to be a b-stard
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Just having a chat with my g/f..
She told me on the weekend she thinks she's falling in love with me.....
ok, i thought I'd take the conversation further and talk to her about everything.....
Basically, she's always been treated badly in past relationships, and I know for a fact that I'm the nicest b/f so far...
She's not used to bein treated nice and basically wants me to be a bastard to her!
We had an arguement recently, and she didn't like the fact that i said sorry so quick... she wants to have arguements..
she wants to be kept on her feet...
the saying 'Treat em mean, keep em keen' comes to mind!!
Help me out people!
what do i dooooooooo
I want to be nice to her....
She told me on the weekend she thinks she's falling in love with me.....
ok, i thought I'd take the conversation further and talk to her about everything.....
Basically, she's always been treated badly in past relationships, and I know for a fact that I'm the nicest b/f so far...
She's not used to bein treated nice and basically wants me to be a bastard to her!
We had an arguement recently, and she didn't like the fact that i said sorry so quick... she wants to have arguements..
she wants to be kept on her feet...
the saying 'Treat em mean, keep em keen' comes to mind!!
Help me out people!
what do i dooooooooo
I want to be nice to her....
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But she wants excitement, to be kept on her feet...
I said I want excitement, like havin sex in funny places and that, but she was just like noo...
lol
She ain't unhappy with the way things are, just wants to be kept on her feet....
Just confused.... help me out.....
I'll try that...
???
You shouldn't change the way you are for her - what's better is to to carry on being as lovely as you probably are.
She's probably having trouble dealing with the fact that someone can care about her this much and be this considerate after her past relationships with 'b-stards', and she doesn't know how to react. She may feel like she's not worth it.
So the obvious answer is surely not to do as she says, but to treat her like a princess and make sure she knows she's worth it!
Then fuck her best mate;)
She jsut wants a challenge.... but im not giving it to her, so she is askin me to basically
is that wat u want tho?! or will you just end it with her because you think it will make the relationship better wen she comes running back?
We just had an arguement, i stood up for myself, and basically said i can't be bothered with u anymore, and she is now crawling.... so it shows she does care, and i have stood up for myself and 'won'...
lets hope thigns stay steady from now!
It really appears as if she's just taking you for a ride - how is it fair that she can treat you as badly as possible and you still have time for her, and yet when you are less than perfect to her (which she 'asked for' anyway) she has the right to get cross with you?
You have to ask yourself if you're happy being treated like this and not being appreciated for who you are - if you are, then fine. But if I were you and had any self-respect left, I'd leave the girl because she's just using you.
This is kind of contradicting what I said earlier in this thread, but after hearing about the way you and she were today, I've revised my opinion - yes, so she may be having trouble considering her bad past relationships, but it's no excuse to blow hot and cold and be so difficult!
scrollin down readin all these helpful answers then i see this, bloody hell