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After A Break Up
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As many of you know I've broken up with Laura. Anyway, today, monday, I tried to be friends. But it's like, she doesn't care or something I don't know. I mean she has put herself right back in the field and seems to be unnafected. I walk home with her everyday but she didn't wait for me today.
She said she would be crushed if she couldnt be friends. I'll call her later....
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If you want to stay friends I'd suggest not seeing her (except when you have to in school obviously) for a while, and hopefully after a bit it will be okay. It's harder to be successful friends if you try and keep the same level straight after a breakup...
They say thing to help them out AT THAT TIME.
So in the midst of your breakup, to make things easier on her or the situation she played the "We can still be friends" card. Then she went home and spoke to Mummy/Read her girlie mag and discovered she should avoid all contact with you and offer her goods around the new prospective customers.
Oh well.
i know i should be happy she is happy but it makes me feel miserable that she doesn't really care
Good luck with it hun,
-Lady T
Most girls are heartless mate once it comes to cutting ties. Learn from this. Spend the next 6 years having no strings attached "fuck girls minds" PROTECTED sex and then when you've had some booty get into the frame of mind where you can balance emotions and rational thinking. Putting yourself in such a grand position that you can share and reveal your emotions and feelings but if things go arse upwards you can turn of the emotional tap dripping from your nose.
I can't get new friends because... I can't is the simple answer...
-Lady T
Live and learn, don’t become bitter about it, just know that some girls are a tad merciless when dealing with your feelings. It might make you stronger.
Okay. I'm gonna suggest that you try not to talk to her for a few days.
Basically, if you go on like this, you will eventually force her away from you. She's broken up with you, and before you can be friends with her, you need to accept that.
You *aren't* going to accept the break up if you try to carry on as if nothing has happened. Trust me on this, I've been there enough times to know.
You're still in love with her right now, you even say so in your signature that appears on each post you put in here. You wont be able to move on to being friends with her until you get over that.
As a friend, you can't be getting upset each time you don't walk home with her, or over the fact that her way of dealing with breaking up is to move onto someone else.
Leave it for a while. It's a lot easier in time. Also it will make her feel better because it wont seem as though you are as dependant on her any more, which may mean that she is less reluctant to talk.
I knowit hurts now, but I think you will see in time that you are better off. You seem like such a lovely kid, and she just didn't seem able to handle that. It always seemed kind of one sided to me I'm afraid. You will make someone very happy one day, but not Laura, who it seems wanted something different from a relationship, or not a relationship at all. She doesn't seem mature enough to handle one to be honest!!
When you break up with someone you cannot expect things to be the same because they aren't. Being friends is just something people say. Most of the time they don't mean they want to hang out with you, they just mean they don't want to fight with you or be hostile to you should they bump into you!
plain and simple.
take care sweetie and if you need to PM you know where i am.
xx
I'm going through like a cascade at the moment. One moment I'll be good and think "oh yea we are going to be good mates
But half the reason I felt sad was because I forced myself to feel sad. When she first finished with me I started laughing and she thought I was going crazy (maybe I was but the day before I asked someone and they said don't worry about it at all she's in love with me) and we spent the rest of the date together.
Then on the weekend I was packing away stuff that reminded me of her cos I thought it would be better not to have it on display anymore, and I broke down and started crying.
But now I feel uplifted and horny
should I be happy or wary that I'll go through another mood swing?
Anyway a mutual friend called Adele told me that Laura may be being avoidant a little bit because she is not over me hehe...
Well, since I'm not that bothered since I'm over her kinda (well her avoiding me is like being avoided by a mate - not nice) I'm going to give her a little time to work things out.
I think she expected me to be depressed for longer, and was enjoying being the 'happy' one. I don't see why we can't both be happy, but that's how things go I suppose....
I'm happy
You seem to be on the right track - there are plenty more fish in the sea, you can have fun without her, you don't need her etc.
Let me offer just one piece of advice - just DON'T try to be really great friends with her straight away. It will make it sooo messy, as other members have said in this post. Give her space, and give yourself space, and with time it'll be less awkward and you'll be able to get on well again.
Good luck, huge hugs
You're better off without each other!
-Lady T
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Oh and blonde_batman - we broke up after she told me, really nicely, that she just didnt feel the same. She planned it actually, was quite nice knowing she had gone to all the trouble..
She also said that I'm the sweetest and most generous guy she knows
- Lady T
I like the power
Thas to be expected! sure u feel triumph! its like, she dumped you yet you just got confirmation that she isnt over you yet. And you definitely know she isnt repulsed by you or nething cause she went 2 hold your hand! Bask in the glory but dont neglect your need 2 move on and HAVE FUN!
- Lady T
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