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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
ok , wot are the risks of avin sex wiv a comdom , iam proper facts not just half hearted myths. please help me cuz me and my boyfriend think we may be ready . I just really need to no all the risks before i actually go all the way and then i can make my mine up once and for all.


thank u

Be happy chickaboo's

LUVE THE GIRL

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well... first of all there is no such thing as safe sex but there is safer sex.

    Condoms are probably the best form of contraception coz they protect u from pregnacy and nasty STDs. If u r going 2 have sex with your boyf make sure u use condoms otherwise u might find a few nasty surprises...

    Good luck
    xxx Mia xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Mia:
    Well... first of all there is no such thing as safe sex but there is safer sex.

    Condoms are probably the best form of contraception coz they protect u from pregnacy and nasty STDs. If u r going 2 have sex with your boyf make sure u use condoms otherwise u might find a few nasty surprises...

    Good luck


    thank u i will defently use a comdom , just i would like to no wot the risks are wiv comdom , <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well if it splits/isnt held in place properly is the time that all of the risks appear. Also if u need 2 use a lubricant u need 2 use a water based one (not vaseline etc coz the oil rots the latex on the condom.

    The risks are that if it splits/falls off etc u cud catch an STD or u cud get pregnant.
    Dont let this put u off but u need 2 be sure and make sure that u trust this guy.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    Dont let this put u off but u need 2 be sure and make sure that u trust this guy.[/B][/QUOTE]

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; he is trust worthy , and i love him , i ts just plaese will every one fill me with all the facts possible so then i will be able to make up my mine , ( thank u for every one who has helped me already <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; )

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; he is trust worthy , and i love him , i ts just plaese will every one fill me with all the facts possible so then i will be able to make up my mine , ( thank u for every one who has helped me already <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; )


    Try having a look here http://www.thesite.org/sex/pregnancy/condoms.html
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    J9
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    well i had a look at that page , thanks and i said that comdoms are 98% safe , has any one here every got pregant when usin a comdom??

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by GIRL:
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    well i had a look at that page , thanks and i said that comdoms are 98% safe , has any one here every got pregant when usin a comdom??


    I didn't but, the first time I did it, the condom my b/f had on split!! I noticed luckily, but he didn't! So we had to stop <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    J9

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    To be honest condoms split all the time. You're going to enjoy yourself way more if you're not worried. If he's not a virgin why don't you ask him to go get checked, and get yourself on the pill. Condoms are still a great idea but if you want total peace of mind I'd reccommend doing that extra stuff.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, I don't know about ALL the time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    It should help if you're dead sure it's on PROPERLY, shoving it on in too much of a rush isn't advisable! *lol*

    Yep, get on the pill too. When it comes to avoiding unwanted pregnancies, you can't do enough.

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try calling up a good helpline for more information and advice, or go and see somebody at one of their clinics. They are free to visit, and confidential. Some of the numbers are on this page:
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/national_helplines.html

    Also, don't feel pressurised into doing anything unless you are sure that you're ready. And if you do decide to wait, you can still find out more about condoms (and other contraceptives)so that you are well prepared!

    The links below could be useful too:
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/pregnancy/contraception_overview.html
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/pregnancy/rubbish_excuses_for_not_wearing_a_condom.html
    http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/sex_and_lies.html
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Also, don't feel pressurised into doing anything unless you are sure that you're ready.

    i would like to make this clear to u all that iam not being pressuried , its just i really want to plaese him

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't bite my head off here, but you're always going on about how you can please HIM. That's not the same as pleasing each other! It's a really massive difference in fact.

    I am a bit worried that everything you two get up to is HIS idea. It should be BOTH of you, or not at all. Perhaps you need to wait until you are a bit older so you are more able to stand up for yourself really well, or at least know 100% what YOU want. You sound so worried about things at the moment.

    Don't be mad at me, I am trying to help!

    Ed

    PS 15 year old boys can be very very selfish about their own pleasure, and will say and do all kinds of stuff to get what they want. There really is no need to rush into things.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by RedEd:
    but you're always going on about how you can please HIM. That's not the same as pleasing each other! It's a really massive difference in fact.

    PS 15 year old boys can be very very selfish about their own pleasure, and will say and do all kinds of stuff to get what they want. There really is no need to rush into things.


    RedEd.. I cudn't have said it better myself.. 15yr old guys are often interested in pleasing/satisfying one thing.. (HINT: it's between their legs!).
    There is no rush at all to sleep with your boyf because u have all the time in the world. I have been with my boyf for quite a while now, and only now do i feel ready, emotionally as much as anything, to make love to him.

    Having sex and making love r 2 totally different things and i dont think that u realise this (maybe u do, i dont know). In my opinion, u can have sex with any1 but making love to some1 is something tht can only work 2bring u closer, physically and emotionally.

    Having said that.. I 2 am a virgin so u can totally ignore my advice if u choose 2!



    love me :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, yeah ... but if you ask me, the whole myth of 'sex', the 'act of love' and 'shagging' can be simply understood as one thing: intercourse. Making love, having sex, whatever, is totally misunderstood by some people. When I was a virgin (15, I'm now 16, so not long really) I was caught up in the normal USA movie thing. I thought it was all mushy and when you were doing it with someone you cared about, that was ALL you were thinking about when you were with them.

    Not really true. It's always a physical thing, and that takes precidence. (NB, I've only slept with two people so I probably don't know what I'm talking about) In the end, it's sex. (Getting all personal again) with my boyf, it's all intimate and stuff as well, because there's love there. With my ex Satan, it was all: "Is that a spider or a fly on the ceiling?" sort of thing. But then, that was probably due to his over-inflated ego and general self-fulfillment interests.

    Hopefully, (me again) making love is sex with love. And of course, being aware that the other person can come too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; Since I lost my virginity, that whole thing about 'sharing your love' seems to have been overtaken by wanting to have sex with them, get as close as you can to them, and ONLY them, because you love them. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif"&gt; I s'pose it's different for everyone.

    *|* Chica *|*

    Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No form of contraception is completely safe. A condom is your best bet though.

    Consequences? If the condom splits you've got STDs and unwanted pregnancy. Having said that if you're both 15 and neither of you take drugs, you'll probably be okay.

    Maybe have your boyfriend take a bloodtest? It will give you both peace of mind. Unwanted pregnancy is the major issue. Morning after pill only works if taken within 72 hours. And if there's a tiny tear in the condom you might not know.

    If you found you were pregnant, would you consider having an abortion? I'm not saying an abortion is good or bad, its just something you need to think about. How would you cope if you found yourself pregnant at 15? Could you cope?

    Those are the main risks of sex, but if you love each other, and really care, its your call. Hope you make the right decision.

    Caliph
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