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Wot Can We Do?
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Hi!
OK,its as simple as this.
Me&my bf have bn arguing a lot recently over daft wee things.I was just away 4 a week and hoped things would have improved with some time apart, but i was wrong, coz i seen him yesterday and we had a big fight.
Is there anything we can do?
Ta. Cheeky*
OK,its as simple as this.
Me&my bf have bn arguing a lot recently over daft wee things.I was just away 4 a week and hoped things would have improved with some time apart, but i was wrong, coz i seen him yesterday and we had a big fight.
Is there anything we can do?
Ta. Cheeky*
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Neway, we went 2 mine and i was on the couch, then he jumped on the couch and smacked his head off the side of my face (It was an accident but still made me even more annoyed). Then we had a big fight and he was shouting and swearing and i told him 2 get out.
2day he foned up and said sorry. He always says things he doesnt mean then says sorry the next day. I wish he wouldnt say them in the 1st place!
On Tuesday 24 October its our 1/2 year anniversary, so any suggestions of wot we could do?
Cheers! Luv Cheeky*
2. Stay in and watch a nice romantic movie.
3. Lap dance him
just a few things for a nice lovely night.
Well we have the house 2 ourselves on Tuesday so things could be pretty hot and the lapdance sounds fun BUT another problem, i'm on my period. Any ideas wot can be fun 4 BOTH of us at this time?
Ur right Chrishot4u, we do care 4 each other a lot. U probably haven't read any of my other posts, but i told every1 in them that we're engaged (Which im still ecstatic about!). I love him so much. He's a great guy, and he is mature. Normally wen we argue we sit and talk it out and sort things out, he's the man of my dreams, i love him 2 bits!
Anyway, wot can we do about this period thing? Have any of u's ever had sex wen ur gf's on?
Ta 4 ur help.
CHEEKY*
As for getting married at 15 n 17 don't bother..... The amount u grow up n ur tastes change over the years at that age ther's no telling whether u'll still like him as much next yr let alone in 50 years
Just tell him that you really want it to work and that you hate all this fighting, and then at least he'll know how much it's getting to you. Maybe then you'll be able to have a calm convo. without scrapping!
Good luck
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Anyway, i think we r going 2 do it wen im on my period. Ill try anything once. Isn't it meant 2 b better wen ur on?
Thanx 4 ur advice Chica, but we've talked about it and every time we have a big fight things are great afterwards then things start 2 slip and it all starts again. But hey, we've lasted 6 months, who's 2 say it wont b another 6 years? Do u recommend sex on ur period?
Cheers every1!
CHEEKY*
P.S. Sorry Daze if i was being a bit of a bitch but i get really defensive wen some1 questions our relationship
N relationships r great at a young age n e way... their a neccesity, learning what to do n shit, lol...
I was in love when I was 15... went out with the girls for like a year... At the time I thought we'd never split up, we were talking boput marriage n stuff... damn glad we didn't though.. dont regret the relationship but my taste changed n we dont even like each other n e more
Don't think its a good idea. Stay together if you can cope with the arguments, but don't make a commitment that big before you've been together for a couple of years.
THats my advice, but the choice is yours <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> .
Good luck!
Hello Cheeky,
Can I ask you, was there a time when the sort of things you mention would not have got you annoyed?
Take the example you gave when you were walking along and he was drunk, staggered, and pulled you with him. Was there a time when you would have seen that differently? Perhaps even as much as found it funny that you both ended up on the floor (even if you did get a bump or two)?
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
I understand u think its 4 the best we dont get married this young and we're NOT planning on getting married any time soon which u would realise if u took the time 2 READ my post! U's all r making me feel like a pure daftie! Its OK 1 of u saying it and don't u think ive already heard it all?! Wot i dont need is about fuckin 6 folk tellin me how daft we're bein? How do u expect me 2 share my problems wi u if all i get back is "Don't be so fuckin daft"? I'm not sayin we'll be 2gether always, all im sayin is i really want us 2 and im gonna try as hard as i can 2 stay with the love of my life!
If ur not happy about how amazingly happy i am then dont bother tellin me! I dont need 2 b made feel like that!
This has never happened b4. The truth is i wasnt REALLY bothered about just that. As i said, i was just back after being away 4 a week and i was meant 2 c him all day but he got offered a free ticket 2 c the Celtic game so just came at night (He's not bn 2 a match in ages but i was still pissed off. Im not now though. I understand) I seen him 2nite and we got on great!
1 more thing. We had sex on my period 2nite and at first every time he thrusted in2 me i had a pain in my chest. Any idea y?
Ta
CHEEKY*
Hello Cheeky,
I'm sorry you think that. I can only speak for myself, but I assure you that is not what I was getting at at all. Quite the opposite. To me personally it is very plain from your posts that you think very much of him.
No, all I was getting at was that though you obviously have a good relationship together in general, perhaps it is not quite as good right now as you think it should be.
May be something is missing? May be you feel you don't see enough of each other? Or may be you feel you are around each other too much! Or may be you just think you'd like to vary the things you do together.
Perhaps instead of the two of you and your mates going out drinking one night, may be you simply want stay in just the two of you with a movie and pizza or something (better still, he cooks for you! LOL).
May be its none of the above! Just have a little think and see if there is anything you think could be better. All I was really getting at is that perhaps you are using little things as a way of getting annoyed at him because there is something slightly wrong somewhere else. However, if I thought your relationship was doomed I wouldn't be suggesting you stay in alone together now would I? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Yes. He has a very long penis. Girlfriends of mine get that. You doctor can put you in touch with someone, or a not-so-good rabbi can help.
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
First of all, don't feel daft about it, OK! Without repeating all the irritating details about my bizarre situation with my b/f, I'll just say that despite the 'odds' we've talked about marriage'n'stuff, too. When you love someone, and you've been with 'em for what at this age, is a long time, I guess it's only natural that the 'M' word would come up!
I love him and everything, and of course I'd like to think we'd be together in 50 years, but doesn't the prospect of collecting his pension for him while he's doing the garden scare you a bit?! It does me. Puts things in perspective, for me anyway. I just concentrate on what's going on now, not what might be going on when I'm 40+. But only you know, so if you say you honestly think it could last that long then get saving for that honeymoon!
I've had sex when I'm on b4, and I can't say I like it that much. He said it was fine, but you feel dead self-conscious! Sometimes we'll do it when I'm starting/finishing, but slap-bang in the middle is not nice. Unless he's taken aphrodisiac and you really can't wait or something <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
And as for the whole pain-in-chest thing, that happened to me when I was sleeping with Satan. Not literally. Just my pet-name for the tosser. Anyway, focus Chica! Yeah, it could have to do with it being uncomfortable for you, and when you breathe it hurts because of the pressure. After I stopped smoking it drifted away actually, but I like to blame it all on him! Hehe. Chances are it has nothing to do with what it was like with me so just ask your doc and don't be worried about being underage, cuz I went when I was 15. He asked me about contraception and stuff, but I just told him I knew what I was doing and he gave me advice and free condoms. Yay for me! lol.
Be Happy <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Look,i'm sorry 4 being all wierd and defensive but wen ne1 questions things between us i get really upset and annoyed. I may change my mind, but right now he's the most important thing in my life and i love him 2 bits and he's the guy i c myself with in years 2 come.
We did it again 2nite wen im on and things went a lot better. More foreplay and no pains.
We do go out with pals but we spend most of our time 2gether alone. I like that but we dont get much of a chance 2 talk. Maybe thats the problem. Wot do u think? Any suggestions 2 improve things?
Speak 2 u soon.
Cheers
CHEEKY*
Oops. Now that's done it.
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
i think i've made my point. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
angel x
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
Ill talk about marriage how a want, right?! How do u know am no takin it seriously? "Give it the respect it needs....Its forever" Dont u think i know that? I'm not bloody stupid! (It may be hard 4 some of u 2 understand but i am actually a 15 year old who's a big girl, and guess wot? I can make my own decisions 2!
Dirty_harry, i expected more of u! I didnt think u were the kind of person 2 judge some1 coz they did something they're ready 4 that u obviously weren't!
I'm going 2 have 2 think hard about EVER coming back 2 this site if im going 2 b treated like this, i dont like being made 2 feel like this!
If ya wanna hear it then
'yeah it'll work, u'll be together forever and always be madly in love with each other, u probably will never have another arguement and if u do it doesnt matter cos u love each other soo much n u always will'.
But I dont think that n I doubt many people do, no offense or n e thing bout I doubt there r more than 5 long term(15+ years) couples in the UK that have been together since they were 15 mayb less.
What I'm trying to say is b together, b happy and make it last, but dont make a commitment u might regret. U still got a lot of growing up 2 do. mayb 6,7 years... I'm 18 n not grown up u gotta accept that ur gonna change n hopefully he'll change with ya...
Good luck n e way...
[This message has been edited by dirty_harry (edited 25-10-2000).]
I do actually know a couple who were 14 and 16 when they got together, who are still married 19 years later, but (and I hate to say it) that is extremely unusual. Yes Cheeky, you could marry him and could still be together in 70 years time. I hope that happens. But please just accept that no-one (with the possible exception of harry) means to patronise you, we're just trying to get you to see the other side of things. Maybe you do! I certainly don't think you sound stupid for wanting to marry this guy if you love him, just so long as you realise that Daze etc maybe right. And I think you realise that, why shouldn't you?
For fuck's sake, being 15 doesn't make people complete idiots! I sincerely hope that everyone here realises that. All I'm trying to say is, for your own sake, work on the problems you're having now and put the rest of it aside. Tell him this is upsetting you. When I was sleeping with Satan (who seems to be cropping up quite a bit here) all he ever wanted to do was have (lousy) sex and when we did talk all we did was argue because of it. Please don't end up like that! It's not nice, it hurts and makes you want to watch daytime TV. Tell him how you feel now before all this gets out of hand.
Good luck Cheeky <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">