To Pro or not to Pro

Former Member · August 2001

I have been married for 5 years but I want to go with a prostitute.
1. Is it legal in the UK?
2. What do you think I should do?

JsT · August 2001

No and No.

Former Member · August 2001

Why on earth would you want to go with a prostitute?

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by Genie:
Why on earth would you want to go with a prostitute?

Why not?? As long as it's not common knowledge, it's no strings attached straight sex with an averagely attractive bird!! Just make sure you suit up!

Former Member · August 2001

God your'e married how would u feel if your wife did the same on you? Whatever u are missing i'm sure if you talk to your wife she can give u lots more than a pro can.

Former Member · August 2001

In reply yes it is legal in Britain but soliciting for prostitution is illegal, that means it is illegal to pick up a protitute in the street, but not to go to a prostitutes flat for sex.

I don't know why you want to go to a prostitute for though, if you just want to sleep with someone else why don't you go and pick up a woman for a one night stand.

Former Member · August 2001

Quite honestly I can't understand why this would tempt you. You are married! Why does no one seem to respect their partners anymore? If you love someone you don't betray them like that! Besides, prostitutes are dirty whores and how that is sexy is beyond me. Maybe I'm just bitter, but there is no way you can do that to your wife and still respect yourself.

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by angel_clarabell:
Quite honestly I can't understand why this would tempt you. You are married! Why does no one seem to respect their partners anymore? If you love someone you don't betray them like that! Besides, prostitutes are dirty whores and how that is sexy is beyond me. Maybe I'm just bitter, but there is no way you can do that to your wife and still respect yourself.

So true!! Have people forgotten what a marriage is supposed to mean?

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Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by Tongue:
So true!! Have people forgotten what a marriage is supposed to mean?

it means you sleep with a beautiful woman you love, every night, but you cant get any

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Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by MasterDevilish:
it means you sleep with a beautiful woman you love, every night, but you cant get any

Words that shall ring in my ears forever....

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Former Member · August 2001

Wizard, I think you need to sort out whatever it is you can't do with your wife first.

Former Member · August 2001

I think Wizard should never have got married until he'd got this out of his system (if he ever does). If you think you will always need to sleep around you should never get married (what's the point) or marry a girl with similar views. However I think he should have sex with whoever he wants as this is maybe the only way to save his marriage (as long as missus doesn't find out)

I'll shoot your ego in a minute.....

Former Member · August 2001

i agree with the previous poster!! um forget the name sorry!! wats the point in marrying if you are just gona sleep around anyway???

Former Member · August 2001

Wizard, if you're bored with your wife, how do you know your wife isn't bored with you??? Why not have a chat with her about it first and if so join a swingers club!!

Former Member · August 2001

exactly....one of your mates could shag some bird whilst you have a wank and your wife does a 'Lady Hamilton' on her face. Delicious!

I'll shoot your ego in a minute.....

Former Member · August 2001

I joining a swingers club is better than going to a prostitute, but most wives would never agree to such a thing. Most wives would be horrified at the idea of their husband wanting to sleep with someone else.
I think going to a prostitute is a bad idea, why not use an internet chat room to find a woman for sex instead.

Former Member · August 2001

I sthat what you do dragonfly?!??!

Girl-From-Mars · August 2001

Originally posted by dragonfly:
....why not use an internet chat room to find a woman for sex instead.

thats what i heard you tried to do on your past message boards that you nearly got banned from.

Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
thats what i heard you tried to do on your past message boards that you nearly got banned from.

Funny that Im not in the least bit suprised about that one lol! Im starting to get extremely concerned about people answering some of the topic questions made by a few new members, when Im pretty convinced the people asking the questions r dirty old men getting off on some peoples answers! Nice thought isnt it...not!

Former Member · August 2001

Must just say thanx for all the "ideas/tellings off" so far.This is the first time I have used a chat room for this reason.
In responce to most? of the comments. I am happy in my marrage, (I AM) BUT! I feel there are things I still want to do that I would not have or want to have my partner do! I love my partner and because of this very reason I have began to wonder about going elsewere!!! What is more I did not come to a chat room to look for sex, but I what I did expect was impartial advice from anyone who may have found themselves in the same situation.

Girl-From-Mars · August 2001

wizard... the majority of the members of this site are teenagers, or just about anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> there's a few slightly older members here, but there probably arent many who have been in the same position as you. all we can do really is say what we think you should do, or what we think we would do if we were in that situation <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

i think you should possibly consider approaching the subject with your partner, maybe s/he (you get male prostitutes, its possible!), maybe they secretly want to try these things too... and if not, you could maybe broach the idea of going to a prostitute to experience these sex acts that you dont want to do with each other... and explain your feelings on the matter, why you love them and dont want to split up with them, but are restless at the thought of not being able to participate in the sex acts you're wanting to.

the idea of a swingers club is a good one, if your partner is willing. but i think if you go to a prostitute, you are betraying your partner in a way... and it will hurt them if they find out... imagine how you'd feel if they did this behind your back.

dragonfly:
Most wives would be horrified at the idea of their husband wanting to sleep with someone else.

apart from all the wives in swingers clubs!!!!

Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.

Former Member · August 2001

originally postest by Girl From Mars:
thats what i heard you tried to do on your past message boards that you nearly got banned from.

It was because I was using the message boards to ask out female posters and emailing them for a date that I nearly got banned not just the chatroom. And because I asked out Marlene who came to the site seeking help.

[This message has been edited by dragonfly (edited 18-08-2001).]

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
wizard... the majority of the members of this site are teenagers, or just about anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> there's a few slightly older members here, but there probably arent many who have been in the same position as you. all we can do really is say what we think you should do, or what we think we would do if we were in that situation <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

i think you should possibly consider approaching the subject with your partner, maybe s/he (you get male prostitutes, its possible!), maybe they secretly want to try these things too... and if not, you could maybe broach the idea of going to a prostitute to experience these sex acts that you dont want to do with each other... and explain your feelings on the matter, why you love them and dont want to split up with them, but are restless at the thought of not being able to participate in the sex acts you're wanting to.

the idea of a swingers club is a good one, if your partner is willing. but i think if you go to a prostitute, you are betraying your partner in a way... and it will hurt them if they find out... imagine how you'd feel if they did this behind your back.

apart from all the wives in swingers clubs!!!!

Yes of course I would talk to my partner about it if I could. BUT my partner is not as highly sexed as me. I would like to be doing it 24/7 but they do not. I feel they look as sex as a chore and to make babies I look at it as THE best way of show you love to your partner and to have a great time. My partner would almost certainly divorce me if I suggested swinging or seeing a pro.

Former Member · August 2001

Why not tell her that and start asking her what her fantasies etc are My hubby asked me mine while in the kids tent in the back garden a few nights ago so far both are happy ever after

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by angel_clarabell:
Quite honestly I can't understand why this would tempt you. You are married! Why does no one seem to respect their partners anymore? If you love someone you don't betray them like that! Besides, prostitutes are dirty whores and how that is sexy is beyond me. Maybe I'm just bitter, but there is no way you can do that to your wife and still respect yourself.

I couldn't have put it better myself!!

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Former Member · August 2001

not *all* prostitutes are dirty whores. some can be very respectable, but they're more like escorts and wouldn't take less than a few hundred pounds for a night.

what you want to do is quite depressing, devalues the fact of getting married and makes the vows you took on your wedding day something of a mockery

if you want to think with your pants all the time, why not become a prostitute yourself? it sounds like your interested in one thing alone, so why not go for a position in which you wont be able to NOT get sex.

Former Member · August 2001

ad infinitum, there is very little demand for male prostitutes because it is far easier for women to get sex than men. Also that is the problem with prostitutes they charge far to much. That is why I think it is better to pick up another woman than go to a prostitute.

Girl-From-Mars · August 2001

can i just point out that wizard hasnt actually said whether they're male or female? its quite interesting that everyone's assumed they're male. maybe people see males as being the only ones who can be highly sexed and enjoy sex? and maybe think that only males want to experiment and maybe go to a professional?

Out of my mind. Back in five minutes.

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by dragonfly:
ad infinitum, there is very little demand for male prostitutes because it is far easier for women to get sex than men.

true, but there are quite a few.

Also that is the problem with prostitutes they charge far to much. That is why I think it is better to pick up another woman than go to a prostitute.

so you're not just after sex, you're after the thrill of trying to catch another woman? dangerous game you'd be playing

Death is one of the few things that can be done as easily lying down. The difference between sex and death is that with death you can do it alone and no one is going to make fun of you

Former Member · August 2001

Originally posted by MasterDevilish:
it means you sleep with a beautiful woman you love, every night, but you cant get any

*smiles knowingly - is married*

MD, insightful for once.

I do understand what Wizard is going through, I will have been married for NINE years on Wednesday, and we have been together for 14 years. After a while things get very routine and this can destroy any relationship.

Rather than comdemning him for looking, you should see this as symptom of the problem. If he was happy, he wouldn't even consider it.

I HAVE been there (although I never considered paying - but I did look elsewhere - and only looked I might add). What I would suggest is that, no matter how hard it appears, speak to your wife. She might feel the same, but if she doesn't she WILL be aware of your feelings (not wise to mention the prostitute tho!) and she can act on them. Relate can be good in these instances, try them.

Former Member · August 2001

I don't think you should behind your partners back, but apart from that I can see no problem with it.

As for marriage vows, if you think it's about sexual fidelity, IMHO you are missing the point big time. Having a relationship is out of the question.

My personal view is that if you can't get it from your partner then your partner shouldn't mind you getting it elsewhere.

Even in a happy and sexually filfilled marriage you mght want to go elsewhere - you can't have sex-with-someone-you-don't-care-for with your partner.

You can't get the thrill of degrading someone by "making" them have sex with you by the power of your wallet, unless they are a prostitute. (Of course they see it as you being degraded by having to pay them for the privelege, so all fair in this transaction)

To Pro or not to Pro

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