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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
ok, this may sound weird but I don't care. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a month now, and it's gettin to the stage when we're gonna have sex. The only thing is, I'm worried he'll be too big! Is this possible? If it has ever happened to any of u, then what did u do?

~* bling bling *~
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I doubt you're that big!
    Hmmm, not sure if I believe this post.
    If you are genuinely worried, I apologise.

    Love from the ChunkyMonkey
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u didn't read the post properly chunky.

    and no, it's not likely. it'll likely hurt if ur a virgin, but i've not come across girls complaining that a guys dick is too big.

    If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if anyones got a boyf who's do-dah is too big, can i have him. Size queen or wot? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by bling bling:
    ok, this may sound weird but I don't care. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a month now, and it's gettin to the stage when we're gonna have sex. The only thing is, I'm worried he'll be too big! Is this possible? If it has ever happened to any of u, then what did u do?

    ~* bling bling *~
    b4 i had sex wiv my b/f i thought the same thing!! but on the day it was ok. just take things slow & im sure itll work!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;



    Nobody's perfect til u fall in love with them!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u may think that hes too big but really hes not. eventually u'll understand why big (for most ppl) is better.

    dont forget if one day your gunna push a baby out of there, im sure you can fit a you-know-what in! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes it is possible to be too big, but I've only come across it once:

    A few years ago in my pre-baby singleton days, I met a guy who was absolutely gorgeous, all my mates fancied him and I was amazed that he asked me out. We didn't have a lot to say to each other but I fancied the arse off him, and him me (judging by the reaction in his pants), we got down to some serious 'luvin' on the sofa and when I reached down a bit to his groin area, I nearly fucking fainted! His dick was the size of a chubby baby's arm!!! I absolutely shit myself, and made my excuses of not wanting to sleep with him so soon etc etc. I avoided him after that, and told my mate what had happened - she thought I was exagerating and slept with him just to prove me wrong. She said she could barely sit down for 2 days(!) and the condom wasn't big enough to fit on him properly (it ripped inside her and she had to go to the doctors to get it removed!) That'll teach her for not believing me - I know a huge dick when I feel one! ;o)

    So yes, it's v.unusual but it can happen. Most of the time, however, size issues are irrelivant - if they know how to use it!

    Melt
    x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my boyfs is that wide seriously and its 7 n a half inches long, he did make me bleed tho as the guy i lost my virginity to was 5 inches long and as thick as an impulse deoderant can lol no joke! so i lost my viginity twice!If my first had been with my boyf he would have had me in agony!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LOL, thats really funny! It's weird how they are all such different shapes and sizes isn't it. My friend (not the same one!) slept with a guy that she nicknamed tampax slender!!! We always used to have a good laugh about it (poor guy), needless to say, he was booted out of bed pretty sharpish!

    I think I prefer large AND wide now that I've had a baby, but my bf is ave size and he knows what to do with it - so no complaints in that dept!

    Melt

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Great thing about women...They stretch to fit <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You should be okay if you make sure that you have plenty of foreplay and are 'wet' enough. You could use some KY just to be sure - another is somethinhg called 'Replens' which helps lubricate...

    [shiteatingknowinggrin] I would endore either of these - having had problems in the past I KNOW that either will work well... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; [/shiteatingknowinggrin]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That reminds me of a "Sex in the City" episode I saw once where Samantha meets some guy off the street who is so fit- she goes to his flat and then finds out he is HUGE! It scares her! She makes her apologies, and runs out of there quick!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    believe me, there is no such thing as too big, either to suck or to have inside you. When you've done it you'll know why!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Man Of Kent:
    You should be okay if you make sure that you have plenty of foreplay and are 'wet' enough. You could use some KY just to be sure - another is somethinhg called 'Replens' which helps lubricate...


    KY aint that good. It's water based and condom friendly, but it dries out very quick. It was originally made as a lubricant for internal examinations, so wasn't designed to last. Get yaself down to ya local homosexual hostelry (gay bar) and you'll find little packets of Liquid Silk. Lubes for ages and is very nice when ya getting shagged. You can buy it in sex shops, but it's FREE at gay bars. FREE rubbers too. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Happy shagging Beverly-Sue
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey I wouldn't worry to much.

    Just make sure you're wet enough and don't tense up, things should go fine.

    Its unlikely that he will be too big.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he'll be too big!

    Do his mates call him Tripod???

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by rubberskin:
    KY aint that good. It's water based and condom friendly, but it dries out very quick.

    Don't forget that she will self-lubricate (oh that sounds sooo sexy), so it is only to ease his passge (so to speak).

    I could see how it would be difficult for anal sex though, like you say KY doesn't last
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I once had a friend who was going with a bloke who had a huge snake.(pardon the expression)

    anyway,they were getting it on one night and (if your eating i`d stop now)it was their first time together.

    my mate climbed on top of him and somehow squeezed it inside when he started screaming and his dick started pouring with blood!!

    consequently he ended up at the hospital where he was told that one of the vessels had been ruptured.

    They soon split up after that,but my friend still says it was his fault for not turning her on enough!!

    (moral of this story: if in doubt use lubrication!!!)

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    Who`s Ya Daddy?!?! ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, im a guy and not bein big headed but my cock is 8-9 inches and wen i shagged my ex (both virgins) we took it slow and gentle for the first time it woz fine but the second time we thought that we'll go quicker and harder but i found afta a huge blood stain of my ex's all ova my bed. so i advice u 2 take it slow and gentle!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wat are you on about?of course it can be toto big!my boyf and i tried to have sex but as i was a virgin obviously it hurt and he couldnt fully enter me!so dont worry it happens!just keep praticin and practicin awithout a guy fully enterin until the muscles innyour vagina ralax and get used to the feelin of a big object enterin then go for full on sex and ti will urt but it will bre ok!!!keep smilin and stop worryiun <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hehe cheers HolyMoly that last bit is the best advice i've heard so far!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    by the way, for all of u who think im a COMPLETE freak now, lol, bling bling was my username before my internet fucked up and i lost everything... now im faerie!

    muchos kisses.... xxxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont worry i went thro exactly the same worry!! but wen it came to it - it was easier than my first kiss - aslong as u relax and fool around first u shud b fine!! enjoy urself and dont worry
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by suzy:
    <STRONG>That reminds me of a "Sex in the City" episode I saw once where Samantha meets some guy off the street who is so fit- she goes to his flat and then finds out he is HUGE! It scares her! She makes her apologies, and runs out of there quick! </STRONG>


    OMG!!!
    That was SUCH a funny episode!
    But didn't she try first and she's like "are u in" and he says "no" and then she freakes and runs out hus bed or something?


    Erm . . . sorry I can't really help you on this one, but 2 out of the 3 times I've actually had sex, I was totally pissed and the other time the guy wasn't really big enough for me to worry.

    Gabrielle
    xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    think about it...a womans vag..can stretch so wide that a baby can enter the world thru it! and its only skin...only if he is mega mega rough in the process will he be able to tear u...and beleive me as its ur first time together he wont be he'll be as worried as u"!

    just relax and that will help the situation
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by idoljnr:
    <STRONG>Hey, im a guy and not bein big headed but my cock is 8-9 inches </STRONG>

    Funny that but I'd have thought a guy would know EXACTLY how big his todger is ... I haven't met one yet that doesn't. <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by idoljnr:
    <STRONG>Hey, im a guy and not bein big headed but my cock is 8-9 inches and wen i shagged my ex (both virgins) we took it slow and gentle for the first time it woz fine but the second time we thought that we'll go quicker and harder but i found afta a huge blood stain of my ex's all ova my bed. so i advice u 2 take it slow and gentle!!!!</STRONG>

    it strikes me that evry1 here seems to be either amzingly huge or lying through their teeth. my gf has told me that the average dick size is somewhere between 5-6 inches. so how comes we have got so many 8-9 inches? i think you're all lying. i never measure mine cuz im not sad enought but i can say that its about in the average section
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by J:
    <STRONG>I just said I hurt a girl, make of that what you will!
    People that come on here bragging about thier actual size are probably lying I suspect <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0"></STRONG>

    yeah bragging about it cuz in real life they have 2 inch cocks and cant get laid ever, so they feel that they haev to get some form of admiration by lying about their dick size. personally i would have a guess that the person who thinks that they have a 8-9 cock is really a 3-4 inch cock 19 year old fat male who cant get a lay in real life. am i close?
    
    
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    FYI 99% of blokes measure their equipment. A lot measure it wrongly either 'coz they don't know how or 'coz it's longer depending how they measure it (and they want the longest measurement) <IMG alt="image" SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0">

    It should be measured from the base by the pubic bone to the tip. Not the underside from the ballsack which addes length but is a false reading.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There have already been numerous replies and I hope this one is read.

    From a male point of view, please dont be worried. My size is just under 8 (which in reality I dont see as that big) but I have been told it is wide.

    To begin with I felt very embaressed. If you dont know what your doing, which inevitably I didnt at first, it can be just as embaressing for the male (providing he cares). I was so scared (and sometime still are) of hurting the person that I was with that it became awkward.

    Over time I have realised that there are different position that help and providing you take it slow at first and wait till your in then it doesnt usually cause any problems.

    Key point, take it slow, make sure your relaxed (and dare I say moist) and build up speed once inside.

    From my point of view, I like to give oral sex and this I find helps as it provides more than enough lubrication. Unfortunately I know not many men do.

    Key point 2, have fun! Everyone worries, with time you realise there is no need. If someone is that horrible that they wont make the experience a caring (but essentially horny) one, then ditch them. Trust me, caring and adept men are out there.
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