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Why do nice guys always finish last?
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Im not a rude boy like you always see at school trying to be something that their not and im not an 'outsider' who has no friends but somehow i seem to finish last.
I have lots of friends and many of them are girls, who i've been out with in the past and somehow, become really good friends with. That always seem to happen to me. And if i go out with a friend we have some fun and then break up for some stupid reason e.g. exams.
It really gets on my nerves when all the fit girls really like the "so solid" rude boys and the girls that like me seem to want to be friends. I wouldn't say im unattractive because i have some really good past girlfriends.
Im a fun person to be with and i get on with just about everyone but i can never find or keep that right girl for me.
I was just wondering what you thought about us "nice guys".
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I have lots of friends and many of them are girls, who i've been out with in the past and somehow, become really good friends with. That always seem to happen to me. And if i go out with a friend we have some fun and then break up for some stupid reason e.g. exams.
It really gets on my nerves when all the fit girls really like the "so solid" rude boys and the girls that like me seem to want to be friends. I wouldn't say im unattractive because i have some really good past girlfriends.
Im a fun person to be with and i get on with just about everyone but i can never find or keep that right girl for me.
I was just wondering what you thought about us "nice guys".
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if ur round 16 i have to say that the majority of girls my age (16) go out with the rude boy types cos they r more fun....there is more excitement in the relationship cos u never know wat will happen next.
i myself do not go 4 that type but most of the girls i know do.
jsut the way it is!
the nice lads i guess get their turn wen the girls realise that thye treat them rite and then rude boys mess them around.
We finish last, Girls will calm to like us and want a nice guy, but this in fact is just a ruthless plot to lure(sp? Lull) you into a false sense of security. I don’t understand what they gain from it. Maybe it’s a power thing, or maybe they have a master plan for you:p
Just be on your toes my friend!:)
oh yes! they had those white gold earrings in for my girlfriend *dances with joy* - sorry, I needed to get that off my chest
Then they complain about it when the 22 year old lad in question changes his mind and wants a bit of maturity back, so he gets back with his 21 year old ex.
Nice guys then get their turn. In theory at least
Just a generalisation of what it's like here.
There thick maybe?
I think they like the idea of taming a bad boy (Or maybe the girls aren't as nice as you think) Why waste time of a girl that wants to be hurt!
Maybe it takes women longer to learn things then men (Joking!)
This debate has gone on thesite lots of times before, No one seems to have the answers.
It maybe the style, image and fuck knows what else girls think about.
The fact is, we will never know.
i totally agree....all of my m8s r with guys who r 20/21 (we r all 16) i dont know why they r...dont thnk they do either but i thnk its kinda a rebelion thng....like parents want u to go out with nice sweet well behaved lads so u go out with older, drug takin, fast drivin, typical rude boy lads.....maybe? or not? i duno...just a thort!
Nice guys are the one's too nice to go making envious assumptions that everyone who has what they don't is a bad bloke who doesn't deserve it!
Basically, girls want a man (or boy) they can respect, not just like. Someone who blames his lack of success on some weird twist of philosophy or fate is not that man.
Here comes the advice:
1) Focus on your own success via your own efforts. Luck is what you make. Don't blame the world for not learning your rules. Its your job to adapt to the world, never the other way around.
2) If you want someone in your life, then make sure it isn't because your life is empty without them. Who wants to share your life if even you yourself aren't satisfied with it? People want to share a life that is rich and satisfying, if yours isn't, then work on that. Everything else will follow.
3) Sometimes bad guys win. That's because life isn't a game, and doesn't come with a rule book. However, while bad guys may well get there first, they rarely have the character to hold on to what they gain. It is usually the truly good guy who picks up after them and wins in the end.
4) What happens to nice guys is something I hope you'll discover for yourself. In the meantime, you still have a way to go before you are really as nice as you may perhaps think you are. See points 1, 2 and 3.
Just a thought!
You are a wise man!
Totally agree!
Nice guy and Bad Boy are misleading words. What girls want is a good man that treats her right but is not affraid to fight for what he believes in and more importantly: has a life of his own and does not live to serve his lady.