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Right my g/f who is a virgin (so she tells me) says she wants to make love with me really soon, im alright about that, but she is under age, shes 15 at the mo, and also we aint been going out that long. i was wondering what ever one else thought about underage sex? do you think its ok or i should wait till she is legal. ive told her we are gona wait for longer than a little while so she is totally sure i am the one she wants to lose it to. so im gona make her wait so shes totally sure and try and get her to go on the pill, i aint gona dforce her to do it, but id like it if she did, just her parents would, as suspecious parents do, wonder why she goin on da pill. but anyways wot do u all think?
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as for going on the pill... i know my mum would prefer that i was on the pill and know about it than have the worry of thinking i might be having unprotected sex and getting pregnant. which is why i asked her about it before i went to the docs. her parents would probably be relieved that she was being responsible, maybe for some time in the future.. maybe if she told them she wanted to go on it just so she was ready in the future and so there was less chance she would get pregnant, at 15! or she could just hide it from them if she didnt want them to know, the packs are really small and oyu can hide them anywhere. and the docs cant tell her parents.
actually your gf could tell her parents she was going on the pill to help with spots/PMT, stuff like that, coz it really does have an effect. dianette is apparently a good one to help with spots. but mine, microgynon is pretty good too. and it helps with PMT quite a bit too, so maybe she could consider tellng them that.
okay im gonna shut up and stop waffling now! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
i slept with my bf at 15 and although i was ready i think we rushed in to it far 2 quick, cos it was all abit rushed and we didnt really know wot 2 say 2 eachother.
DURING AND AFTER!!!
so just wait until u r both sure.
luv jo xxx
god im soooo gonna have to go and find that now mr i would never sleep with someone underage when im 17 or whatever the fuck it was you said, sorry if i got it wrong but i dont hink i have! *smarmy look on her face*
In terms of legality, if she's turning 16 soon, wait, just in case. You never can know with these things.
[This message has been edited by bundo (edited 19-03-2001).]
so <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> to that.
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
no wot i was saying before is to under age people! like why do 13 year olds as in both the boy and the girl wana have sex, get me? or if the girl is 13 and her b/f 20, get me? good hope we got that all sorted out! theres only 2 years between me and if i was gona force my g/f to do stuff then would i come on here asking for ur advice? nope! shes the one who wants it, sure i want it as much as her, possibly more, but its her first time (not mine) and i wana make sure she is making the right dissions and stuff. yes i know under age people want sex but when people who are like 13 want it, then do they seriously know why they want it, or do they do it just cos people talk about it so much and its an experience, get me? god all this explaining, which im crap at doing. i was just wondering if it is ok for a girl who is nearly 16, say in under a year if it ok to have sex with a leagal guy, u know? cos if u both underage it a lot harder to do rape cos of the age, cos really u both raped each other.
anyways forget what i said here and read what i said at the top! no everyone leave me alone cos i cant explain stuff proper <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
(but reply to this topic <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">)
Chances are, you'll begin to get jiggy, and she'll chicken out- like I did once or twice- but thats ok, just reasure her that you dont mind and you're willing to wait. When she feels 110% relaxed,safe and happy and doesnt stop you, thats when you can go all the way.
Im goin on too long so i'll stop!
i already did give you my advice, i was merely pointing out where you said something else similar.
and a woman cant rape a man, its not legally possible. it doesnt matter if the boy is underage or not, if its sex with an under 16, its statutory rape.
dunno how that date thing got in, i didnt do it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
I think u sound like a really nice person.
Most lads that i know dont care if the girls ready or not, they usually try 2 push her in2 it.
Ur cool 4 not doin that
That's right, aparently it was Queen Victoria who decide that!!!!! so no law was ever passed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
j9
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It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
That's what I said <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
j9
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
I think it's because I'm clumsy
I try not to talk to loud
I think it's because I'm crazy
I try not to act to proud
Unfortunately, as there appears to be disbelief it the fact that this can happen, he didn't report it, thus fueling the notion that it doesn't occur.
He also decided that he couldn't face the ridicule if he had reported it.
j9
[This message has been edited by j9 (edited 24-03-2001).]
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
I've got a couple of very close friends who are 14 (and girls). In my opinion, they are probably more ready to have sex than I am, two years older than them.
I know during your teens, small age gaps can make a world of difference. But sometimes that age gap doesn't really show, or isn't there. These girls are both extremely mature and they understand what's involved in a relationship almost more than I do.
(whether this argument makes sense, who knows. not enough sleep recently. hope u can make head or tail of it)
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
Most guys I know wouldn't even think of waiting if she wanted to! If you really want to and so does she, well I guess it's up to you what you do but I'd say if you really love each other and you're ready and she's ready, then go ahead! If you haven't already, address your concerns to her. Tell her, you don't want her to regret having sex with you and you want to make sure she is really ready. As for the pill, talk to her about it! If she thinks she'd want to, then she should. As for her parents, yeah they probably would think it was for sex (I know mine would). If she really wanted to she could hide them from her parents. I'm only 14 (and like your girlfriend, I'm one of the younger ppl in my class, my b-day is in december) and sex has crossed my mind many times. My b/f is the same age is me so i don't have the problem you have. But, I think she is really lucky to have a guy like you who actually cares enough to even think about waiting!! Anyway, I'm gonna stop rambling now, you'll do what you think is right!
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If it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.