Why am I such a freak?

Former Member

This is going to sound weird, but when I'm kissing all I feel is the lips pressing together, there's nothing else there. Everyone says that it'll work when it's with the right guy, but I always thought it was more a case of good and bad kisses, rather than nothing at all no matter how much you like the bloke.

It's the same with making out, I don't get turned on at all, and it makes me really uncomfortable to think about even kissing on a regular basis. But if I was going out with anyone I'd feel really guilty for not wanting to all the time, because if you don't then you might as well just be friends.

I'm so confused and I don't know what to do, please help me!

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ummmmmmmmm,im slightly baffled by this one.dont you get excited at all?how does foreplay effect u?do u get turned on at all?
sumtimes a kiss is just a kiss,but then if its a kiss wiv sumone you really like then it can make u go weak at the knees!
i dunno!!!

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I understand actually, i don't know how but i'm the same sometimes....
I really have to have had a bit to drink before i kiss someone i really like-actually that depends....but i always get that feeling ive forgotten how to kiss...stupid.

Girl-From-Mars

when you get off with people you dont really like its just like nothing, just an action and you dont feel anything, ive found. but then if its someone you realyl like its like OMG! hehe

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Burn baby burn!

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you may just have to go with the notion that even though it isn't your favorite thing in the world to do, you kiss because u know it makes your partner happy. and hopefully that will do something for you emotionally. because to be honest with you wildchild, i don't that many people who don't enjoy kissing. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

and if your up front with your partner and let him know ur not always comfortable with kissing for long periods of time, he might be interested in finding something else you like...

and as we all know, making love is about making both of you happy. find that middle ground where u get enough of what you want and he gets enough of what he likes. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

hopefully it won't be a big deal. good luck.

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i never really like kissing properly till im pissed, then it feels much more erotic for some reason. when im tired i do get really bored and i once fell asleep while pulling, i know hard to believe its ture, she werent too pleased! Hee Hee

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Yeah i mean kissing can be crap but it can be really special if your with sumone you care about/fancy etc Kissing dosent just have to be two lips pressed together, kisses can be soft and gentle, rough, hard and passionate etc You dont have to keep kissing for the lips either!

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Originally posted by scaredycat!:
ummmmmmmmm,im slightly baffled by this one.dont you get excited at all?how does foreplay effect u?do u get turned on at all?

Nope, I feel out of my body the whole time, like it's just a box.....I don't know, I'm not good with imagery. Everything seems really mechanical because to start with I've no idea what I'm doing, so I just make things up and it's so weird because I can't feel anything.

Originally posted by Calvin:
because to be honest with you wildchild, i don't that many people who don't enjoy kissing

Me neither <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; and it's not that I don't fancy the bloke either, I don't get off with just anyone. But it just makes me feel uncomfortable.... Don't you normally find that as long as you fancy the person you get turned on when they do things to you?

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aw i don't think ur a freak at all, like wots already bin sed, if its someone u dont fancy, it's just like an action, but if its someone u do, then its more and u totally get wrapped up in it.

but i know how u feel, sometimes u just go thru a phase where u dont feel like, anything. i think thats whats happenin to me @ the moment. i dunno y, i just dont seem to fancy neone and i dont have urges lol.

im sure when its the right person there will be that special spark <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did

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Originally posted by wildchild:
Me neither <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; and it's not that I don't fancy the bloke either, I don't get off with just anyone. But it just makes me feel uncomfortable.... Don't you normally find that as long as you fancy the person you get turned on when they do things to you?

sorry about that wildchild, didn't mean to upset you with my post if i did. this was just a new one for me.

it sounds to me like this is more psychological than physical. i mean you're willing to keep doing these things even though you draw nothing from them. it might be something you want to talk to a counsellor about eventually because down the line this may be something that hampers your abililty to get truly intimate with someone you care for.

in the mean time though, drifter is right. i think you just have have to give urself time to find that special person that will set those special feelings and emotions free.

take ur time wildchild, and you'll find the one <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;