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Strange problem...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hiya ppl,

What do you think of this? My male friend is dating an absolute stunner at the moment, and she's also really sweet. He's besotted with her and she is with him, but he recently confided in me and said that when they're in the bedroom, she always insists that she pleasures him and he's never actually had the chance to pleasure her. When he tries she just smiles shyly, pushes his hands away and then distracts him (I'll let u all use your imagination as to how!). They've been together almost four months now and he hasn't had a chance to pleasure her in any way yet! He's worried that this isn't normal, and also really wants to turn her on and pleasure her but she doesn't give him a chance!!! What do you all make of this? And what do you think he should do?

Choc xxx

PS> My mate would be grateful for ANY advice!!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    maybe she is just not very experienced, in the bein pleasured state, and so is nervous about it and feels more comfatable this way, i dated a lad once before i had anything done to me (fingering, lickin etc) and was scared to let him do any of it to me, so i used to do it to him instead, but eventually wen i trusted him enough i let him do all those things to me and loved every minute of it! Just tell ur mate to take things slowly and when she feels comfatable with it all im sure she will let him do all those wonderful things to her.

    dunno if this will help, but thaqts what i did.

    Loadsa love

    FD
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks Funky! Maybe it is because she's so nervous, or maybe she feels like she has to satisfy him or she'll lose him, that's what I thought might be the problem! Strange but true!

    Choc xxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    get him to talk to her. just ask her why she never lets him pleasure her. not a hard question, and i'm sure she's got her reasons.

    communication people, s'not hard <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    aaaahhhh but talking is often too hard. even if u really trust ur partner, it is sometimes hard to talk about certian things, such as ur own bits. trust me, ive been there. give her time...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmmmm......
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