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Right before i start, i apologuise for my bitterness at this. but well maybe someone out there will understand.
It seems to me that if your a man(boy, what ever) and your nice, sensitive, treat girls with respect etc etc etc, and are quiet, or loud doesnt matter then your in for a life of hell from females. why do i think this you ask? well im a nice guy, i treat girls to stuff, i pay for them, i give them respect, id never hurt them. but i seem to be getting the total opposite. surly i dont expcet for people to pay for me, but a little less shouting and abuse and being used and led on might help. ive been told in the past week by to girls. theyd never go out with me because im 'Too Nice'. now forgive me if im wrong, but no one can be to nice that you cant date them. sure if its because im so nice then they couldnt dare hurt me, i accept that. but no its because im not a 'Bad Boy' im not a lad who wears a baseball cap all the time and sun glasses when it is pitch black and raining. i dont hang out on corners all night long with some equal bad boy lads and a couple of towny bitches. i dont get a g/f because im so lazy i want someone else to give me a wank. i dont get a g/f so i can thrust 4 fingers up her hoping that'll make her have the biggest orgasm ever! i dont bring round condoms every day because i know if i push her on the floor she cant stop me having sex. and she'll enjoy it wont she. shes my g/f. so girls and boys, tell me this. why treat the nice person the worse. ive heard from many girls how much they go on about wanting a nice sensitive bloke to treat them, not all the time mind, and be nice and just cuddle and kiss and for once to hear 3 words meaningfuly 'i love you' not i love you, lets shag to show my love. oh look u got good results lets shag even though we do that every other day. So girls, whats wrong with the nice blokes, sure we are not dangerous, but im sure ud have more fun than with them. taking notice of them all they seem to do is take the piss out of people who walk past them. do girls really find that such a turn on watching a bloke swear like a kipper because 'he da man'? i dont think so. is it really so exciting spending half ur time with him looking up at the celling? yes i understand genuin people who want sex, im not monaing at them, but the girls who go after their dangerous guy and shag a weelk later with no feeling, except pain. well sorry i always forget my little question. but girls, whats wrong with the nice blokes, im sure theyd take you out places and be romantic, and they can be fun as well. i sure know i am, i make girls laugh all the time, and smile and have loads of fun. im always being told im the perfect b/f, but well no girls want me as they are after danger. if you want danger go near some electric cables, or run across the motor way, see how u feel then when you or your mate is knocked over and badly hurt. the moral here is, that you'll end up nearly dead from the pain. while being with a nice guy, you will have the time of ur life. you'll be treated well. sure some of us can be boring but so can ur dangerous guys, who are maybe more so because they sit on the wall thinking about their dick all the time. so finally im gonna get this out now. girls what about us nice guys over here. we are the ones being treated badly. we put so much effort in, and all we get is pain back. one day when ur looking for your nice guy, you wont find us, as we'll be with our loverly wives who thought sooner about finding their nice guys and treating us with a little respect. maybe you could work on that now and give us all a chance.if you saw me, many girls would say im fit. im not being big headed as im not special but girls do. but because im a nice guy i get no where. so girls just try to think a little deeper than how far his dick will fit in ur hole. try to think about ur nice guy, he can offer all that, and he'll be nice to you and not even hurt you. even during your love making. as im sure a few girls here know, that finding a nice guy has its rewards. and one last thing before i end this massive long thing, whats with age. if a guy aint 19 then he cant go out with a girl older than 13. whats with that, u girls really want an older guy cause they more mature? try us nice guys, we are mature cause we dont think it good to hang on walls shouting abuse. 19 going out with 12 yr olds? i think that is very sick personally, but well thats all guys can get as a 14 yr old wont settle for anything less than a 21 yr old. oh and just cos im from essex, it aint just girls round here. it every where. im sorry this is very anti female, and bitter, but im just so fed up ive had to let it out. i hope i get a least one reply, to show this has been worth it. thank you for your time
Da One, Da only, Essex Lad
(just cause my nick name essex lad, dont mean im not sensitive)
It seems to me that if your a man(boy, what ever) and your nice, sensitive, treat girls with respect etc etc etc, and are quiet, or loud doesnt matter then your in for a life of hell from females. why do i think this you ask? well im a nice guy, i treat girls to stuff, i pay for them, i give them respect, id never hurt them. but i seem to be getting the total opposite. surly i dont expcet for people to pay for me, but a little less shouting and abuse and being used and led on might help. ive been told in the past week by to girls. theyd never go out with me because im 'Too Nice'. now forgive me if im wrong, but no one can be to nice that you cant date them. sure if its because im so nice then they couldnt dare hurt me, i accept that. but no its because im not a 'Bad Boy' im not a lad who wears a baseball cap all the time and sun glasses when it is pitch black and raining. i dont hang out on corners all night long with some equal bad boy lads and a couple of towny bitches. i dont get a g/f because im so lazy i want someone else to give me a wank. i dont get a g/f so i can thrust 4 fingers up her hoping that'll make her have the biggest orgasm ever! i dont bring round condoms every day because i know if i push her on the floor she cant stop me having sex. and she'll enjoy it wont she. shes my g/f. so girls and boys, tell me this. why treat the nice person the worse. ive heard from many girls how much they go on about wanting a nice sensitive bloke to treat them, not all the time mind, and be nice and just cuddle and kiss and for once to hear 3 words meaningfuly 'i love you' not i love you, lets shag to show my love. oh look u got good results lets shag even though we do that every other day. So girls, whats wrong with the nice blokes, sure we are not dangerous, but im sure ud have more fun than with them. taking notice of them all they seem to do is take the piss out of people who walk past them. do girls really find that such a turn on watching a bloke swear like a kipper because 'he da man'? i dont think so. is it really so exciting spending half ur time with him looking up at the celling? yes i understand genuin people who want sex, im not monaing at them, but the girls who go after their dangerous guy and shag a weelk later with no feeling, except pain. well sorry i always forget my little question. but girls, whats wrong with the nice blokes, im sure theyd take you out places and be romantic, and they can be fun as well. i sure know i am, i make girls laugh all the time, and smile and have loads of fun. im always being told im the perfect b/f, but well no girls want me as they are after danger. if you want danger go near some electric cables, or run across the motor way, see how u feel then when you or your mate is knocked over and badly hurt. the moral here is, that you'll end up nearly dead from the pain. while being with a nice guy, you will have the time of ur life. you'll be treated well. sure some of us can be boring but so can ur dangerous guys, who are maybe more so because they sit on the wall thinking about their dick all the time. so finally im gonna get this out now. girls what about us nice guys over here. we are the ones being treated badly. we put so much effort in, and all we get is pain back. one day when ur looking for your nice guy, you wont find us, as we'll be with our loverly wives who thought sooner about finding their nice guys and treating us with a little respect. maybe you could work on that now and give us all a chance.if you saw me, many girls would say im fit. im not being big headed as im not special but girls do. but because im a nice guy i get no where. so girls just try to think a little deeper than how far his dick will fit in ur hole. try to think about ur nice guy, he can offer all that, and he'll be nice to you and not even hurt you. even during your love making. as im sure a few girls here know, that finding a nice guy has its rewards. and one last thing before i end this massive long thing, whats with age. if a guy aint 19 then he cant go out with a girl older than 13. whats with that, u girls really want an older guy cause they more mature? try us nice guys, we are mature cause we dont think it good to hang on walls shouting abuse. 19 going out with 12 yr olds? i think that is very sick personally, but well thats all guys can get as a 14 yr old wont settle for anything less than a 21 yr old. oh and just cos im from essex, it aint just girls round here. it every where. im sorry this is very anti female, and bitter, but im just so fed up ive had to let it out. i hope i get a least one reply, to show this has been worth it. thank you for your time
Da One, Da only, Essex Lad
(just cause my nick name essex lad, dont mean im not sensitive)
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You don't think you can be "too nice" for a date, andyou overhear girls saying they'd just like some nice caring sensetive lad. Is that it? I don't know what to do. Perhaps become an evil sadist if thats what they like (joke)? Perhaps some of the girls on the message board will help you out.
Having said that, I know how frustrated you feel. I've got the same problem. I'm not too angry over it, cos I figure it's a lot of bad luck for me. I go to an international school, which has a fairly high turnover rate of students (about 30 off every year in the grades that interest me.) I've got lots of girls that are my best friends. I've asked out quite a few of girls, and the reply is basically "I like you (some even say I love you if i'm lucky), but there's this other guy that I fancy."
But don't give up hope. Keep trying. There's not a lot you can do short of changing your image. But don't do that, cos any girl that likes you for your new image will see thru u very quickly.
Best of luck.
Alright, I think it IS time we heard it from the girls.And, being one myself, here are my thoughts on your problemo <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
First and foremost DO NOT I repeat DO NOT change yourself in anyway. Lots of girls'd be ecstatic to go out with a bloke like you. If you are worried about being used, then the only sugesstion I can make is DON'T bloody well pay for her, unless it's an "I'm sorry" thing. This is the new millennium and us girls should be quite happy with paying for ourselves. Of course, if you feel like just buying her a drink or whatever then that's fine, but don't go financing any shopping sprees my boy!
I'm sorry to say that a lot of us are attracted to the 'bad boys' completely unwillingly, I might add. I actually have first hand experience with your prob, and it's actually worked out OK all round, so hang in there! Y'see, I used to always date the 'bad boys', over gelled hair, baseball cap, criminal record, the whole malarky. When I met my b/f I actually turned HIM down, for being too nice [although I didn't actually say that at the time] we agreed to be friends and we got really, really close and I remember thing after a couple of months, what the hell am I doing wasting my time with those losers when I could have this guy?!
I took a bit of time for me to convince him I wasn't just settling for 'mr.nice guy' but the truth is I was actually in love with him and we have an amazing relationship because we were so close before <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> And remember, there's a bad boy in all guys as I've found out to my delight! You can be nice and romanitc and sweet, but only the really slutty or desperate ones will prefer someone who does 'stick 4 fingers up them' to a guy who makes sure she enjoying herself in every aspect of the relationship.
Don't give up, just give the little devil in you a run every now and then! And above all, DON'T punch her in the face if she turns you down, you never know, she might just be begging you after a few weeks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> Hang in there.
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
2nd of all sorry for how long it was but i just type and type, i could type for britain.
3rdly thanxs to all thoese who replied, it really helps my confidcane, especially the punching one *L*, but as u should know a guy like me would never hit a girl! i'll just buy a bean bag andthink of their face joking.
But thanxs, i wont change, as that aint me. but thanxs as girls put down my confidance but this has cheered me up a bit. Thanxs again
Da Essex Lad
They wanna be shown a good time they wanna take risks and have fun doing it. Being to nice is a big issue with many boys so you are not alone i promise , but as i said not to change yourself i meant it . there are some girls out there who like all the wine and dining treatment but just not me and many others. I completely back up your point about the sex thing though. I wouldnt stand for a boy just in it for sex, coz many boys are like that so it's good you are like that. course thereare some slappers out there who like that kinda thing. Iwou;dnt like a boy who talked about his fuckin cock 24/7. anyway gettin to the pointyou are what you are just accept it but just tone it down a bit get wiv the times and if you show a girl a good time you will get far. Just remember u can be a bad boy as well as a good 1 . p.s how long did it take you to right this
Surely if it needs to take someone "100000000 words" to describe either their problem or a way of dealing with it, that should be encouraged rather than criticized.
Some people use these boards to ventilate deep emotional problems, surely we shouldn't limit them to an amount of words they can use!
I know it doesn't piss me off, so please just leave your post to reflect your own feelings not generalise about other peoples attitude.
regards derby
I understand what you say Derby, but I must admit, I didn't actually read Essex's posting until just now, because of the difficulty of reading such a long "document".
Of course there should be no limit to number of words, sometimes when you have a problem (particularly an emotional one) simply committing it to paper (or screen) is a very powerful tool (as I am sure you would agree).
Caliph's suggestion of inserting spaces is the most important one, it produces the affect of allowing the reader to take a break. I was taught that "white space" is one of the most useful tools in publishing because it makes the text easier to scan and not so daunting.
The majority of us scan ahead without realising it, allowing us to read faster by anticipating context.
Having said that, when you are in full flow you shouldn't have to feel pressured into worrying about how your posting looks.
I've now read Essex's post and I wish I was younger.
You sound like a great guy Essex, & whoever gets you is surely going to be a very lucky lady. I hope that she will be as considerate as you. Stay just the way you are Essex.
Anyway, I'd better sign off now otherwise accusations will fly <lol>.
See ya
J9
P.S. You don't like kids as well do you?