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first timer!blood,and faking it!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
hiya guys!im new to this scene,so i was wounderin if u could give me a few pointers!
im a virgin,but my bf and i want to have sex,only natural!?!!im really scraed about a few things,first the pain!OUCH!and then im a bit scared about bleeding,how emabarrasing is that?so wot shud i do to reduce the embarrasment!and one other thing,i have had an orgasm b4,but i dont make noises,is that normal?!?!!and shud i try to fake noises to make him feel better?!!please help me guys!much appreciated.luv ya allxxxx

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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    it doesnt hurt for everyone and not everyone bleeds. it really does vary. im not gonna lie, for me it did hurt tonnes and it wasnt just a little pinch like some people say, it was like someone turning a bloody great knife inside me. but thats not to say it'll be the same for you. and as for bleeding, well i did a bit but not really anything noticable.

    as for making noises, well i dont make that many either, ive kind of had to be quiet anyway coz my parents are usually asleep in the next room or at least in the house! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; so no, youre not abnormal or anything, dont worry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; oh and i dont think you should fake anything either.

    if you want to sleep with your sex, dont be too scared about the pain or anything, it does go away, promise <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; just be careful and always use a condom, blah blah etc <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx!u guys are so helpfull! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt; im still soo nervouse tho.do you think one month is 2 soon?i told him i was scared,so he sed that we cud wait,and he has been so sweet about it,there is no pressure at all.but i dont love him.i like him loads.but i dont love him.shud i wait? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi im jo, ok first the pain maybe really bad 4 u the first time (it was 4 me) some people dont feel much. not every girl bleeds i didnt. but if u r really relaxed with ur bloke u shouldnt feel 2 embaressed. not every girl bleeds i think u usually bleed if ur hymen is not broken but alot of girls break their hymen either through sports or using tampons etc.

    dont wot ever u do fake it, not every1 makes alot of noise i sometimes do and sometimes dont. on here at the mo there is alot of talk about orgasms but i must worn u that u may not cum through penetration alone! if u do fake it he will think hes brill when maybe hes crap! so u both gotta be truthful with eachother, just tell eachother wot u like and stuff and hopefully all will go well!

    good luck babes tell us all the goss! luv jo
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How old are you scaredycat?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmmmmmmm, as 4 waiting its really up 2 u, do u feel comfortable with him? can u totally relax with him?

    me n my bf had only been 2gether 2 weeks. and 2 be honest i wish we had waited cos it may have made it more special. if the answer 2 the above questions is yes then maybe u r ready but if u wanna wait then do
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by jolizzie11:
    hmmmmmmmm, as 4 waiting its really up 2 u, do u feel comfortable with him? can u totally relax with him?

    me n my bf had only been 2gether 2 weeks. and 2 be honest i wish we had waited cos it may have made it more special. if the answer 2 the above questions is yes then maybe u r ready but if u wanna wait then do


    i do feel comfortable with him,he is a gr8 guy, but he has slept with quite a few people.i dont want to dissapoint him,i havnt so far,but im really inexperienced wen it comes to actual sex.the foreplay so far has been gr8 to!and i do feel ready for sex,just a bit shy! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    thanx for all ur help guys!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    How old are you scaredycat?

    im 15.i know,a bit young.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh yeah,and i have given up on the 'faking it' idea! i would prob make a mess of it anyway!i wouldnt no what kinda sounds to make!if i scream,i think it will be through pain,not pleasure!

    id still like to know what the lads think of the bleeding thing,do u men mind havin blood on ur sheets,or do u understand about it all????
    please inform me guys!! :P
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    scaredy cat, i really dont think its likely to be that much blood that you'd notice! its likely to be a little bit that yud notice on a tissue if you wiped yourself on a tissue afterwards, not floods!! really dont worry about the blood.
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u sound dead worried scaredycat. normally i'd prob say go for it, ur just nervous, but i don't think u are ready for sex yet if u've got all this shit going around in ur mind big time. i mean, yeah sure these are concerns but nothing like as big as ur making them out to be.

    so maybe just hold off for a bit until u've got ur mind sorted about it.
    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:

    as for making noises, well i dont make that many either

    but from all reports ur above legal noise levels most the other time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;
    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    scaredy cat, i was only 15 when i shagged my bloke he was 16, but he was a virgin. every1 thinks "will i satisfy him" but every1 is different in bed and if u bloke is a gr8 guy then he wont b thinkin bout his exs when ur shaggin! no really i do agree with turtle, im not sure if u r ready.

    u r bound 2 have worries bout it but as i have said b4 on here i lost my virginity at 14 and it was awful, i lost it 2 a lad who was using me but i was infatuated with him and i thought if i did it he would like me 2.

    such a bad idea, it was awful, it really hurt he was unsimpathetic and all he wanted was sex. but when my present guy it werent like that at all, we only waited 2 weeks and when we did have sex it was kinda rushed, u know we did it then just put eastenders back on! lol. but all i really say is if u can realx infront of him n stuff then go for it but i suggest u wait a while.

    ps who brought sex up u or him, is he older than u?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by jolizzie11:
    [Bps who brought sex up u or him, is he older than u?[/B]


    he is 17,im 15.it was kinda both of that bought it up.we were just talking about it,but he was the one that asked if i would sleep with him.i said i would,when i was ready.so there isnt any pressure.he knows that i can say no.and i will if it doesnt feel right.

    he is a gr8 guy,and i think he understands!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we were both talking about it,but he was the one that asked if i would sleep with him.he knows how i feel,which is good,at least we can talk about it.he is 2 years older than me.not much.he is 17.but well experienced for his age!!
    thanx again u guys.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    but from all reports ur above legal noise levels most the other time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;


    whaaaaat?! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    whaaaaat?! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;


    i dunno, can't remember what i was thinking when i wrote that!
    And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
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