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clitoral sex???!!!help!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
ok i really dont understand, i went onto this website called CLITORIS.COM it was reomended by some1 on here - cant member who! and somewhere on it i read than some womens clits r really big and during sex can sometimes insert it into their partners vagina or anus.

now this has really confused me cos i cant even cum during penetration! my clit is realy small oh god am i abnormal???!

please help

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't Panic!!!

    Everyone's different!! women's clits used to be alot bigger many many years ago and have supposedly shrunk a lot since, i know that the clit does become 'erect' during sexual stimulation, so either this is what they mean, or maybe it's just the same as the size of guy's willies!!

    I can't say I have a big one, but I really wouldn't worry about it, if your's was meant to be that big, then i would have been!!

    Maybe they just made a very long typo!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    I thoud I saw a puddycat, I did, I did see a puddycat!!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    lol i was quite alarmed when i read that too! i think they mean it swells up when you're aroused as blood goes into it, not "erect" as such. i didnt read the bit about it being used for penetration though! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt; i read about in oral sex it can be sucked... well fair enough, it doesnt have to be huge for that to happen.

    but it did say there are different sizes and sometimes men have to have it pointed out to them and some are so small you can only touch them with one finger, wheras others are larger and can be held between 2 fingers.

    but i wouldnt worry about being abnormal, everyones different, same as with penis sizes, i mean 5-7" is about average and either side of that isnt seriously abnormal either, you can get anything from 3-9" and still be normal. so its all a matter of perspective i think.. and ill shut up now!!
    I'm 18 and 5 months. :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    most prob! but it had this survay in a bit entitled "orgasm" (funnily enough!) and it said summot like 34% of women cum during penetration but my clit is deep inside that hood thing and there is no way it would get stimulated during penetration it has 2 be rubbed 4 ages with summot.

    its so frustarting cos i know my bf feels inadiquate but hes not!dont get me wrong sex is fab but i would sumtimes just love 2 cum during penetration!!!

    im baffled!

    [This message has been edited by jolizzie11 (edited 10-04-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why dont u pull ur hood back so the clit is exposed, of make ur b/f lie down and u lay on top of him, but with ur back to him so his hands can go round the front of u and stimulate ur clit while u shag. also some people, its very rare are born inbetween sexes, so they have a pensis and a vagina, normally they are both not formed properly or they are more male or more female, so a more female one, will have a clit that looks a bit like a pensi, just very small, if u look on the disccusion bit of the site then u can be added to their club page where they have pictures of different sized clits, it aint pornogrpahic as they dont like porn, its just to show u in an educational way, there is no like hardcore sex or nuffin.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi I am new on this site, and i was just looking through the dicussions when i saw this one. I am also worried about my clitoris, as it is well covered by the hood of my virgina. I saw u said u could join some group of peopel who talked about this kind of stuff and also had pictures of some clitorises, and i was wondering how u got in contact with them? I would be very grateful, thanx alot,
    Angel x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol. i got paranoid about that too.
    i must b lickle <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go to www.the-clitoris.com and on the left hand side should be a yellow button right down the bottom that says discussion (may take a min to load all the buttons) click there and email them saying u wana join,its a yahoo club but they have set it to invertaion only to stop people posting porn, but u can go there and see education pics of clits and discuss about it, its all very educational and helpful <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cheers lil, i may try that! i dunno sex is a v v v wierd thing dont ca fink?! i mean lads do have it quite easy they dont really have 2 move bits of skin and roll about in all different positions just to cum! god its so unfair!!

    i aint really talked bout it 2 my bf i think we have both just kinda accepted it! but hey things r gonna change! i get really paranoid about my body n stuff, i kinda get the feeling he wants 2 "explore" but i feel abit wierd about it i mean yeah i can relax in front of him 2 a certain extent but then i clam up.

    sex has kinda just become routine and its getting to the point where its a bit boring.

    we need 2 do new and exiting things but i just dunno wot.............
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    When we are concieved there is a time in the development where we are neither (or is it both) male and female, but at some important step, we become one or the other.

    If you become female, what would have been the penis becomes the clitoris, so I imagine orgasms from that is like orgasms we males feel from stimulating our 'head' alone. (Rather than the whole shaft).

    In males there seems to be a sensitive patch of skin behind their scrotum but in front of their anus, it is in my opinion that this is where the vaginal opening would have been and so contains many nerve endings.

    (TIP: Girls next time you're giving head, try touching your guy here, it could drive him wild).

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we are all females first off, and all girls do actually have a shaft which is behind their clits and inside their bodies. so if u have a y chromosome then ur clit growns into a penis and the lips of the vagina join together and balls in side are made. thats why some girls can have large clits cos they got more of the mans choromosomes inside her. sorry if i didnt explain that last bit well
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no girls have male chorosomes!! guys are an x (female) and a y (male) and girls are two x's!! but i think that site is wrong!! i guess some ppl must have bigger clits than others but normally they are supposed to be small. well that's what i've heard and mine is. I watch the sunday night sex show sometimes and they saw it's only supposed to be the size of a pea!! same with in school, that's what they tought us! So, don't worry, I think ur normal!! If not, then well a lot of us musn't be (if that's any consollation).
    ~*~JiLLiaNNe~*~
    If you love something, set it free.
    If it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Lonely-in-life:
    we are all females first off, and all girls do actually have a shaft which is behind their clits and inside their bodies. so if u have a y chromosome then ur clit growns into a penis and the lips of the vagina join together and balls in side are made. thats why some girls can have large clits cos they got more of the mans choromosomes inside her. sorry if i didnt explain that last bit well


    it wouldnt be having more male chromosomes, that's determined at the moment of conception depending on whether a sperm carrying an X or a Y chromosome penetrates the woman's egg, to join up with the X already there.

    what you might be thinking of is the woman having more testosterone having a larger clit, which is the male hormone. or it might just be an anatomical thing like breast size.

    ive gone into major biology mode somehow but im really tired!! lol

    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok, i know what u r on about Jolizzie, i found wiv my b/f that orgasms came when doing other things than sex such as oral! do u get em then?(please dont fink im bein pervy on ya relationship!!)but if u really wanna get ur sex life goin (this may b hard) but give it up 4 abit! maybe 3 weeks 2 a month, just hug n kiss 4play if u must but that will get him goin, after so long u will both be gaggin 4 it make him a meal or sumthang n speng the nite 2gether! blissss
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no i dont think ur being pervy! erm, we never hardly spend much time on 4play i think thats y i never cum.

    i do cum when he ribs his penis against my clit tho.

    jamie suggested that we dont have sex 4 about a month - so far we have lasted erm, 2 days!
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