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Does she want something else ????
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OK where to start.....
Right a couple of months back towards the end of my first year at uni, I got really drunk one night and pulled this girl. Without meaning to sound evil, I think if I hadn't been under the influence at the time, there aint no way I'd have gone for her. She's just not my type. But I accept I was wrong to lead her on.
Anyway she asked if she could see me again, and I told her I just wanted to be friends and that was it. She said that was fine, but we arranged to meet again one night (I made it clear this was a friends thing only) and we went out for a few drinks. Before we went into the pub, she stuck her tongue down my throat, and I backed off right away. Then she says she thought thats what I wanted, but I told her again that I only saw her as a friend, and nothing else was going to happen.
Normally in this kind of situation, I'd forget all about her, but she is such a nice person, I really do see her as a good friend. I just don't fancy her at all. That probably sounds completely evil, but it's just the way I feel.
Anyway, that all happened a few months back. Now I'm back at uni, we've agreed to meet up again for a friendly drink this weekend.
I'm not automatically assuming she wants to get with me again, but last week when I came back from work, I had 23 missed calls and lots of texts from her, asking why I wasnt talking to her.
I just worry about it, because like I say, she is a good friend to me, but I don't want it to be wrecked incase she wants to turn it into something that just isn't gonna happen.
Do you think I should say something to warn her off beforehand (obviously I don't wanna sound like a cocky git) or should I just leave it and hope she's got the message ??
Any help would be cool
Right a couple of months back towards the end of my first year at uni, I got really drunk one night and pulled this girl. Without meaning to sound evil, I think if I hadn't been under the influence at the time, there aint no way I'd have gone for her. She's just not my type. But I accept I was wrong to lead her on.
Anyway she asked if she could see me again, and I told her I just wanted to be friends and that was it. She said that was fine, but we arranged to meet again one night (I made it clear this was a friends thing only) and we went out for a few drinks. Before we went into the pub, she stuck her tongue down my throat, and I backed off right away. Then she says she thought thats what I wanted, but I told her again that I only saw her as a friend, and nothing else was going to happen.
Normally in this kind of situation, I'd forget all about her, but she is such a nice person, I really do see her as a good friend. I just don't fancy her at all. That probably sounds completely evil, but it's just the way I feel.
Anyway, that all happened a few months back. Now I'm back at uni, we've agreed to meet up again for a friendly drink this weekend.
I'm not automatically assuming she wants to get with me again, but last week when I came back from work, I had 23 missed calls and lots of texts from her, asking why I wasnt talking to her.
I just worry about it, because like I say, she is a good friend to me, but I don't want it to be wrecked incase she wants to turn it into something that just isn't gonna happen.
Do you think I should say something to warn her off beforehand (obviously I don't wanna sound like a cocky git) or should I just leave it and hope she's got the message ??
Any help would be cool
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You should either
1. Not contact her, because by doing so she will always think there more to it
2. Go for a drink, but if it's weird then don't contact her for a couple of weeks/months
and then try again
3. TEll her you have a girlfriend (instantly both knows where the other stands - although lying is not v.good, so maybe go and find a real girlfriend
in conclusion, I don't know - but good luck hun x x
See, I am the other girl here in a similar situation im in now.
I have decided I just want what I can't have though. If he showed any interest in me now, I really probably wouldn't want him. I think. WEird anyhow. God can't wait to go home! I'm talking crap now, but you know what i mean.
When I spoke to him earlier he said 'oh yeah blah blah im with kate.'
WTF is kate? :mad:
See. Want what I can't have.
:yuck: