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Condom time...
BillieTheBot
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I'm doing some articles about safer sex etc, and it's time for our users to have their say.
Here's the scenario:
You are with a new partner and you really want to use condoms. They don't want to use condoms.
Now then - how do you make sure they use one?
Would you refuse to have sex? Would you give in and have unprotected sex even if that's not what you really want?
Might seem like an easy choice, but in the heat of the moment things can be very different....
Have you ever kicked someone out of bed for refusing to use condoms?
Here's the scenario:
You are with a new partner and you really want to use condoms. They don't want to use condoms.
Now then - how do you make sure they use one?
Would you refuse to have sex? Would you give in and have unprotected sex even if that's not what you really want?
Might seem like an easy choice, but in the heat of the moment things can be very different....
Have you ever kicked someone out of bed for refusing to use condoms?
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From a guys perspective, if he's not willing to respect your preference to wear one, sack him off, he's a b*****d.
However the best way i've ever been encouraged to wear one, is by having the girl cloak me with her mouth. Trust me girls, learn to do this and very few men will object whatsoever. Make sure you dont get lubricated tho, apparently taste rather disgusting lol
At least, this is how I hope I'd react, I've never actually been in that situation.
Try not to be too nasty to blokes, it seems a lot of women on here (and some men) are very "kick him to the curb girlfriend" which is a)mis-representitive of their real lifes and b)a bit crappy really.
How about:-
"We need to use condoms coz of reasons (which are many and valid)" "If you don't want to now we can just play about all night....how do you fancy that" Eventually he will feel comfortable enough to maintain an erection whilst dealing with the plastic fella. The other negative is the lack of feeling, but you should explain the truth is that women lose a lot of feeling with a condom too, and that needs must when the devil drives.
If ons then who cares what he thinks about having to wear one!?
My girlfriends previous boyfriends all persuaded her to do it without. I will alway wear condoms until I'm married. She is not on the pill, yet men seem to think it will be alright, not to worry about STDs - predominantly HIV/AIDS - which you can't get rid of and can die from. And also pregnancy. Ever see that film Kids? Shows how STDs/STIs can be passed on.
Annabel Chong once said "sex is worth dying for", I don't know about you lot but there's no way I plan to die from having sex. 39% of Africans now have HIV, and half of Britains seem to have the consensus that it won't happen here - but it's already happening.
And surely, if you lose sensitivity, then you fellas are going to last longer which is a bad thing? Anyone who DOESN'T use one in this day and age needs their heads examined along with their blood and genitals. They don't care about themselves or their partners, who knows where they've been? It's a bit like that game Russian Roulette don't you think....
Ive been in the position when neither me nor the girl had a condom, and basically we didnt do it. Im in no rush to get a girl pregnant, or catch something. Any guy who does it is rather stupid. And any girl who agrees is even stupider.
What I mean is, if you are both clear, and pregnancy is not a problem or the appropriate other contraception (ie. the pill) is in use, then do it, otherwise, don't.
In short, yes.
Anyway I wouldn’t do it again without a condom unless I’m 100% sure she was not harbouring anything nasty. And just to be fair I’m getting myself checked out next week as well
If it come down to it and she doesn’t want to use it, I wouldn’t have sex, maybe just keep to foreplay until we find a solution.
So no I wouldn’t “kick them out” of bed for not wanting to use one. We just wouldn’t have sex!.
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Why don't you use condom when you are on your own? I used to have a posh wank now and then to get use to wearing condom! I think it must have help me out
Hell yeah, I've had that done to me as well, its a great feeling and even better to sit up and watch her do it!
The idea of having sex without any protection (the pill, condom ect.) is an alien concept... i dont think i would ever have sex without protection, i get paranoid enough as it is...
Yes! His loss. But you can make many other things. If he doesn't want - his loss too. No but i would kick someone out if he tried it without after I said NO!
Dave.
Yup I have & I would do so again.
I find it disgraceful the amount of people that don't have good enough control over themselves to make sure condoms are used when drunk (and long term partners are capable of getting drunk together before anyone accuses this of being a one night stand rant).