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Hi
I have had a friend (lets name him john) for about a year now & we have always flirted with eachother & it has always been fun. Recently he told me he really liked me & wanted to be more than friends. We talked about it & decided because our lives are so different it would be a very bad idea to be girlfriend & boyfriend. So we decided that we would stay friends & if we felt like it (cos we both fancied eachother alot) we mite indulge in some sexual encounters... Well this was going fine & was really great & i thort we were good friends still, but then he started not to call me very much & didnt have as much time for me for about 2 weeks. Then after we go out in a group & he practically ignores me the whole nite he decides he cannot handle sleeping with me & just being friends - he wants more...the whole relationship thing, which we already decided we shouldnt do! So we decide to be just friends again...but i dont know if we are going to be able to stay friends cos of the feelings we have for eachother.
any advice would be appreciated!
I have had a friend (lets name him john) for about a year now & we have always flirted with eachother & it has always been fun. Recently he told me he really liked me & wanted to be more than friends. We talked about it & decided because our lives are so different it would be a very bad idea to be girlfriend & boyfriend. So we decided that we would stay friends & if we felt like it (cos we both fancied eachother alot) we mite indulge in some sexual encounters... Well this was going fine & was really great & i thort we were good friends still, but then he started not to call me very much & didnt have as much time for me for about 2 weeks. Then after we go out in a group & he practically ignores me the whole nite he decides he cannot handle sleeping with me & just being friends - he wants more...the whole relationship thing, which we already decided we shouldnt do! So we decide to be just friends again...but i dont know if we are going to be able to stay friends cos of the feelings we have for eachother.
any advice would be appreciated!
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Get it on or regret it
i think that you should give it ago. you both have feelings for each other which go beyond friendship. if hes not speakin to you maybe hes realised he wants more and he knows you dont. whats there to loose?
Thanks - but the reason we can't really have a relationship is mainly due to the fact that I have a little boy. In one conversation I had with him he said that there was no way that he would have anything to do with having children for a very long time, which is fair enough - it's his choice. But seeing as my little boy is THE most important thing in the world to me, I don't think that he was thinking when he said that to me.
I'm not looking for a new dad for my little boy, I just wanted to have fun & be able to go out & have a laugh with this bloke (what did i call him?! oh yeh john!).
Well that's the main reason why he doesnt want a relationship...
so now what do u think? move on??
I haven't talked to him properly about that actually cos i dont know how to go about it...
i am 26 (eek!) and he is 23
my little boy is only 6.