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Help Needed. Cant cum with GF
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Im serious. My Girlfriend, who i love with all my heart and i believe i will for many years to come, cant make me.. cum.
Everytime we have sex she orgasms atleast Twice, but i have only cum once.. out of countless times. After about 3 hours i give up because i just get to exhausted. Now, when i .. give the monkey a spankin' so to say, i cum in around 10-15 minutes. But i dont understand why i cant cum with my girlfriend.. Can anyone give me an answer! please!
DrunkenDrum
Everytime we have sex she orgasms atleast Twice, but i have only cum once.. out of countless times. After about 3 hours i give up because i just get to exhausted. Now, when i .. give the monkey a spankin' so to say, i cum in around 10-15 minutes. But i dont understand why i cant cum with my girlfriend.. Can anyone give me an answer! please!
DrunkenDrum
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If you get off ok with that though and not full sex it could be down to the friction and tightness of grip. Sorry for the bluntness but no fanny on earth can grip you as tight as a fist.
If this could be the problem, leave the monkey alone for the while and let your gf stroke, kiss, lick, suck you etc to build up the tension as it were, then go for it. It may work it may not but it sure should be fun
That's what I thought ! :eek:
Otherwise leave him alone for a while and eventually you'll be that horny that he'll come without any probs. After a few times though I'm sure you'll be ok.
Have you ever come through sex before?
The only position i enjoy in sex is doggy .. is this weird? Its the only one that seems to get me close to cumming, but still i havent cum.
Drum
You're not alone. I always have nerves for the first few times with a new girlfriend, and don't always cum. When I feel a bit more relaxed and comfortable with them in bed then I do, but it can take a few times.
Is it just a friction thing - which could explain why doggy feels better. Is there too much wetness - compared to a dryer hand when you're on your own. Or is it a case of grip. Is she too loose, or yourself too small? (that'll get you paranoid! hehehe).
Mr_Wobble
Hmm.. I dont think the size of my dick is the problem. or is 17cm small? And she says the girth is really good. I dont get it. Its like she wants to eat dick all day!..
Anyway. Weve been together for 3 and a half months now, and its definetely not nerves. Im perfectly comfortable with her. Even though at times it feels awkward.
When shes on top she pounds hard and hurts my groin area..
When she does backwards cowgirl its the same.
When shes underneath i tend to always come out of her.
It seems only doggy so far can get me anywhere. But still, its very.. VERY tiring.. after doing it non stop for aslong as i do.
Drum :rolleyes:
There is a third benefit but thats HERS. This position allows more contact with the clitoris, especially if you position your body slightly higher up hers than you would normally.
Ohh shit, you have no idea how worried I am now:eek: (You sound so like me)
Honest to god I have this trouble as well, The only main differences is that I’ve all ways been drunk when I’ve have sex so I’m blaming the alcohol. But I know its not the drink that make me not “come” because I’ve been very drunk lots of time before and still be able to “cum” when I wank!
I read somewhere that it might be that you/me, (others who have this nasty problem) can’t relax and think about making the girl “come” so we kinda lose sight of our own needs and then can’t “cum” ourselves.(Not sure if this is true??)
I personally think I need to be in a long term relationship and be relaxed(Which I’ve never been when having sex) for me to come. That what I’m hoping for anyway
Maybe if you have a fantasy that you use when you wank, use that next time you have sex and see if that helps! If you find a cure for this let us know please!
I sorry I can’t help you, but at least you know you’re not alone
Drum
This happened once before with me and my boyfriend after about an hour when i was tired and just fed up of trying and after many different positions, still it would not happen. This was our 5th time, and about 4 months ago. I dont know what happened or how but we ended up doing it by hand and it was instant. It has never happened since. Maybe you should try using candles or kinky things to make everything more exciting.
I hope it all works for you dont give up
Very Confused.
Drum
Dont lie there thinking how it differs to when you spank the monkey.
How about if she goes down on you first? This works wonders, just as your getting somwhere you then start having sex and it shouldnt take you as long.
Drum
Believe me it works wonders for a guy if you go down on then and just as there getting there have sex. While shes going down on you you can think of whats coming next
Maybe you should just explain to your girlfriend how you feel and what you would like her to do?
Drum