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Rant about college - sorry guys
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I am so so angry at the minute. I called college this morning because I'm not going in. At first I was going to lie to them and say I was ill but I knew my tutor (and college counsellor) would know different. So when I got through to the receptionist or whoever takes calls for reporting absences she's asked my name DOB etc then asked me why I wasn't going in. I told her it was because my anxiety levels were really high but I'd sent out an email to all my teachers telling them I'd do the work at the home. She turned round and says "is that it?". Is that it?! Are you for real??? Its clear that she's never suffered from high levels of anxiety before. What a bitch. What was she expecting me to say back to her, "oh how stupid of me, I'll just come into college having panic attacks and still do the work". Urg seriously pissed off. This just shows colleges (and schools) need more awareness not just on anxiety but mental health in general. I wonder how many other students from my college have college for similar issues and got the same response??
It makes me laugh because I'm hardly ever off college, and I think I've only ever taken one day off from college because of anxieties so they can't really complain. Yet people who have a bit of a sniffle (and I mean like just a sniffle, not a cold of anything) are allowed to go home with out any fuss or bother. Urg. Rant over.
It makes me laugh because I'm hardly ever off college, and I think I've only ever taken one day off from college because of anxieties so they can't really complain. Yet people who have a bit of a sniffle (and I mean like just a sniffle, not a cold of anything) are allowed to go home with out any fuss or bother. Urg. Rant over.
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You know yourself best and if you're feeling really anxious then you've been really strong to do what you think is best to look after yourself and from what you've said you're not someone who misses a lot of college.
It's understandable that this has really made you feel angry and frustrated - perhaps this meeting with the tutor could be an opportunity for you to explain how your anxiety and panic attacks have been affecting you and if there is anything the college could actually do to help?
For example, a card that you can use should you need a break from a lesson or an agreed action plan to help you get the care you need if you do feel a panic attack coming on whilst you're at college?
If it feels like they just don't understand panic attacks of anxiety on the whole then it might help to go armed with a bit of back up info? It's probably something that you could get some evidence or a note from your GP for as well..
Look after yourself today and let us know how the meeting goes *hug*
I'm not even going to bother seeing him because I know exactly what he'll say. And he'll probably ring my carers. They think I'm poorly which isn't true but I don't like worrying them. Hate lying but its the best way to protect people sometimes.
I am seriously thinking about going to doctors about it to be honest. Not sure what they can do but I've just had enough of it. This past week has been a nightmare with anxieties and panic attacks, mainly due to social situations etc. Never really suffered this badly with it before. I don't think this phone call I'm making today is making situations better either!
Thanks Jo *hug*
How have you been otherwise?
As Becki says, going to the doctors isn't at all easy, it is a very hard step to take and one you must feel completely ready for. Becki will go one day but we can't rush that, in the meantime we just need to try and support her as best as we can.
I hope you're feeling okay today Becki *hug*
I've left college because it was totally pointless me being there. I didn't go into my lessons, was just sat in the library. Probably gonna get shouted at but oh well
It is totally normal to worry about going the doctors you don't have anything to be sorry for lovely. I am sorry to hear that your struggling.
Is there somebody you can have a chat to about college who is in college like your tutor?
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
:yes:
Sorry to hear that you don't feel your tutor is going to be very understanding Becki. It's positive to hear that you're seeing the college counsellor this week though - this might be a good thing to talk through with them. They may even be able to find out on your behalf what the college's approach is on taking time off for anxiety related reasons and if there's anything she can do to support you and help your tutor to understand.
If it comes from the counsellor it may hold more weight?
You mention lying to protect people - do you feel able to tell us a bit more about that? What about protecting and looking after yourself? It sounds as though you are worried about your carers finding out about what's been going on?
We're here for you Becki and it's important you take things at your own pace *hug*
Nobody is being mean lovely - sorry if it came across like that.
She's super busy so wouldn't want to put any more work on her shoulders
Well you have us all who care about you lovely. I wish I could say/do more to help.
*hug*
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
They have literally nothing Jo. I asked last week when I saw her. She's also spoken to my mentor who then spoke to my tutor. He called the house on Friday night saying I hadn't been going to my lessons and stuff. Thanks for that! Just cause me even more shit.... Urg hate college.
I don't like the thought of my carers knowing about stuff, especially Shelley. They would worry and its not fair on them.
I don't need protecting. I wasn't protected as a child so I'm pretty sure I'll 'cope' now.
Thanks for the hugs
I know he's not in your good books but I wonder about emailing him or finding a way to improve that relationship so that you can get him on side? If he sees you being proactive with him he may start to listen to where you're coming from. It's just an idea of course, I don't know what this tutor is like and for now you may still be too angry with him to consider that which is fair enough!
From what you say, you weren't protected as a child so why should you expect or ask for any protection or care now? It's fine, you'll 'cope'.
Hearing this I feel I want to help you see that the patterns of our childhood don't have to play out in our adult lives. You have a lot more awareness now and in fact your carers wouldn't be doing their jobs if they didn't worry about you, look out for you and do their best to support and protect you. In some ways by not telling them you're making their jobs a little harder as they can't be sure what's going on for you?
I can hear that it's really hard for you to accept or allow this protection and care so I'm not in any way trying to put pressure on you to do things differently. It feels like you'd rather struggle on than bother anyone?
Ultimately you're the expert on you and you need to work out a way through this that feels right for you. Just remember that you don't have to do this on your own *hug*
Yeah that's a no go, sorry. Hes the sort of teacher that doesn't listen to you unless your in a specific category - if you know what I mean
No because if they don't know what's going on then they will think I'm fine therefore won't have to do any chasing around after me etc. They've done loads for me while I've been living here. Now it's my turn to let them look after others
Yeah definitely. Why should anyone put themselves out for me when its my fault I'm feeling this way
Hope you're doing okay today *hug*
I agree.This is Definitely a small glitch.A VERY small glitch!
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" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I think it's worth all of us remembering that this is supposed to be a safe place for Becki to post when she needs and/or wants to :yes: This is obviously a very distressing situation for her and we need to respect that.
I agree, sorry becki
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "