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What little things can a boyfriend/girlfriend do for you to make you happy?
Danny!
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It's easy to think of grand, romantic, Hollywood-style gestures as the best way for a boyfriend/girlfriend to show their love for you. Who wouldn't want a to be whisked away to a paradise island, bought a Michelin starred meal, or a brand new car?
But these grand gestures, if they happen at all, aren't what bring us together in our everyday lives. The little, everyday things can cheer us up when we feel down, make dull day a nice one, and make us happier when we're already happy.
What little things have partners (past or present) done for you that really mean a lot? What have you done for other people?
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That's interesting, did the study have anything to say about men in the same situation?
Thanks StrubbleS. Hmm, if this holds it does seem to remove responsibility from men - we can do whatever we want!
A couple of thoughts:
a) because these were middle-aged and older couples, they grew up with a different set of gender expectations. I wonder if we'd find the same with younger generations?
b) "When wives discuss problems and suggest solutions, it helps couples deal with conflicts" said UC Berkeley psychologist Robert Levenson, senior author of the study. "Ironically, this may not work so well for husbands, who wives often criticize for leaping into problem-solving mode too quickly."
This suggests that arguments are solved quicker when both spouses are speaking in the same "mode". It also suggest an alternative: maybe arguments would go better if men were more comfortable in and switched sooner to a more typically female "emotional mode"?
I don't think this is what this study tries to suggest. The behavior of men in arguments was simply not scope of the study.
Also, and this is just my opinion: I think a calm, problem-solving mode is preferable to "emotional" mode in conflict solution.
are u seein sum1 bby? :flirt:
I made me and my girlfriend a little breakfast buffet type thing when we were last together. Was rather nice. :P
Doesn't have to be anywhere fancy or up market but going to the park and watching the children play whilst both of u being together makes a change or going for a walk is also another way of reassuring those little moments together.
Nice to meet up now and again if u both haven't seen each other for a while so any of those things are worth doing without having to spend to go to a nice place as the park is a nice place and going anywhere for a walk is a nice place. I think it partner would apappreciate more then spending money.
Does that answer ur question sorry? Not too sure if that's a good answer to the question.
And here it is
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