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Why won't people listen when I criticize my 19 months old nephew?
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He's my cousin's child and at 19 months old, he's still incredibly behind. He's not reading simple words or even letters. He's not even speaking in complete sentences! All he could get out is simple phrases like "want eat." He grabs a pen with his fist and scribbles. I tried to show him how to hold a pen and he screeches. My cousin says he can't do it so leave him alone. Well, maybe he can't bc they don't bother to teach him!
Mostly, his social behavior is atrocious. At the table, he doesn't use a knife and fork, but grabs with his hands. He spits out what he doesn't like. He sits on the floor at inappropriate places, like at a store. And when he's attached to someone, he won't let her out of his sight for a second and chases her. She reinforces his bad behavior by returning his affection.
Problem is, when I point that out, even nicely, I get bitched at. His parents says he's normal and so does his pediatrician. Really? After years of med school she still don't have a clue? What can I do when I feel so alone in this?
Mostly, his social behavior is atrocious. At the table, he doesn't use a knife and fork, but grabs with his hands. He spits out what he doesn't like. He sits on the floor at inappropriate places, like at a store. And when he's attached to someone, he won't let her out of his sight for a second and chases her. She reinforces his bad behavior by returning his affection.
Problem is, when I point that out, even nicely, I get bitched at. His parents says he's normal and so does his pediatrician. Really? After years of med school she still don't have a clue? What can I do when I feel so alone in this?
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I don't have a degree per se, but I have observed other ppl's kids. And I read a few books.
Maybe the kid should 'man up and get a job'
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/164230-Shouldn-t-the-8-year-old-boy-man-up-and-get-a-job?p=2487097#post2487097
or you could hit it or put it in care
God I'm just being concerned for him, not being a bitch!
Hell yeah. Btw, I'm ignoring ur sarcasm.
The more you post here the more you answer the question http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php/156722-ppl-hate-me?p=2464451#post2464451
No, you're super mega ultra bitch. But of course, you've read some books so you're way more qualified to ascertain a child's social development than a paediatrician.
Oh right, well I would have thought his paediatrician would know more than you then. I'd recommend keeping your nose out.
I just thought he could do more stuff correctly than he's doing now lol.
You're an idiot.
I know u r but what am I?
But I require the entertainment!
About 7 ?
fo shizzle mo fo
Can't see anything wrong here, tbh.
I can appreciate that there's clearly a difference of opinion here, but let's cool it on the insults. If you think someone's trolling, feeding it is never going to help.
Secondly it's worth noting that children do mature at different rates - there is no average toddler.
Obviously, the debate is welcome (it always is), but let's keep it as a debate not a flame war
It might be worth looking at this link here - http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a6573/developmental-milestones-talking
Keep in mind, this isn't your child, and you really don't have the right to intrude on the childs progresss, but so far it does sound like the child is doing well. Also, their are lodes of websites out their on child development and books that are worth looking in to, to expand your knowledge on child development to!
Best wishes,
Angel