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Hopeless Romantic or Realist
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I think two kind of people in world, one who believe in miracle, faith, magic and are hopeless romantic and then there are realist, practical thinkers. What kind you think you are and why?
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Regarding relationships, I was a Hopeless Romantic. I thought that some day I'd find the 'one' and sure enough I did. Knowing where that got me now I've more just given up on the idea of being with someone at all to save myself going through that again...
I really like a blog post from Huffington post on how to develop a realistic view of love. There's also evidence that people who have a view of relationships as something they have to proactively work at over time rather than just 'happening' to them then they are more likely to be successful at making a relationship work. The hopeless romantic view tends to lead people to believe that if their partner doesn't just automatically understand them, find them attractive 100% of the time and always do right by them no matter what, then it must be the wrong person.
Would love to hear more thoughts on this. It also reminds me of the C4 quiz we posted a while back.
On the whole, I'd say I was a realist. There's a romantic in me certainly, but I wish the whining bitch would shut up already :razz:
That said, it's easy to see why people may be superstitious about these things, and sometimes I do end up wondering about fate too. The way you meet your partner in a weird and wonderful way can make it feel like that.
But not now, not here and not looking.
Hard work is worth the effort because even when failure is a reality, at least you can hang your head on sacrificing in the name of love.
Nobody should be ashamed of that.