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Lost our spark

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
i really need my help. i hav been saying my gf for over 6 months now and i dont think that we are ready for sex yet. but i also think that we have lost the fun in our relationship. is there anything we can do that isnt sex? we have tried kissing and stuff but that just isnt a fun ne more. thanx 4 any ideas

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have you thought about having sex, or are you still quite young?
    Have you tried just taking her out for a romantic meal, or to the theatre? Surprise her with flowers and things, or introduce other things apart from kissing, like touching one another.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Whowhere:
    Have you thought about having sex, or are you still quite young?
    Have you tried just taking her out for a romantic meal, or to the theatre? Surprise her with flowers and things, or introduce other things apart from kissing, like touching one another.
    yeah we have gone it out, had meals and all that. i have touched her but it feels so awkward. i always try and buy her gifts and stuff but it proves no good.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds a bit like puppy love or friendship. Find a real woman, then you can have a relationship with some magic, some spark, and of course some sex.

    She will start to enjoy the relationship less if you don't take care of her sexual needs.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Do you think that mayb you two aren't suited anymore? Or mayb deep down one of you doesnt't wanna be in the r/ship. Have a real good think about what *you* want then try talking to your g/f and find out what it is she wants.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    DO NOT HAVE SEX IF URE UNDERAGE!!!
    I will always say that. It is pointless to have underage sex and risk serious trouble. However, if URe both old enough to have sex, and U both know how 2 keep safe, then U should sit down 2gether and tlk about it. It might seem a bit embarrasing at 1st but U will both feel better for it afterwards. Have either of ever had a bad sexual experience B4? If so then this might B the cause of all your worries. Tlk 2 ya g/f and ask her if shes ready 4 sex. If she is then I suggest U tlk about sex, and Y you do/do not want it. I'm sure if URe really meant 4 each other, U will stick 2gether through this, but if ya relationship is gonna split up through lack of sex then I'm sorry, but I just don't think URe meant 2 B. Give it a try. Good luck 4 da future. Much love, Bobbi. XXXXX
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dear rubbyguy2,

    If you are having second thoughts you may not be ready to make the jump into a sexual relationship just yet.

    Be sure to look at: http://www.thesite.org/sex/sexual_health/ before jumping into anything rashly.

    May I suggest paintball!

    [This message has been edited by Squinty (edited 29-10-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Right, if you don't want sex, how about some lesser physical contact? It shouldn't feel awkward if your both ready, a bit of oral should spice things up. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    Other than that, try to do some more adventurous stuff, women really like it when us men do dangerous macho stuff to impress them. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
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